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I will have to agree with you on the most part . I have dated several girls other than my main former girl in Kyiv and they mostly were all flash and dance. They all looked beautiful and they all speak of romance but they were mostly cold and distant when it comes to actual physical relationship.I have never had a women complain about my sexual prowess and quality of lovemaking here in the states not to brag.They were actually the lousiest lovers i have ever been with . They didn`t know how to kiss and not much of anything else.They just lay there lifeless looking good. Getting adventurous to them is getting on top. The best sex i had over there was with a hotel prostitute, just one time fellows. Sorry Izzi ,but i had more actual dates than you. I.d. , there is no problem with you and your experiences , it is just reality.
That would really rot if the ladies turned out to be totally unaffectionate. I have asked that specific question to several ladies. That is, I asked them if they are affectionate meaning do they like to kiss, hold hands, hug, etc. Everyone of them told me they do. Maybe just words but in their words they are affectionate.
SoccerDad, ask the same questions of my love with the same sort of answer, if fact, she said "why do you ask, is it not natural to do these things when in love"; I will update all of my experiences when I return from my visit Sept 5.
I need maybe to redefine what i meant . I am talking about actual sex . Not blowing kisses and holding hands. These were grown women some even with children. So i don`t buy the (i have never done this before routine)with the innocent charade. Maybe i am on a different page, but those were my actual experiences and it wasn`t just a couple.
Damn I'm must be the luckiest guy in the forum, or I have lived a sheltered life!!Nah, I've been to Olongapo City in the Phillipines, nothing sheltered there!
I think it just basically comes down to the woman and what she feels for you, I won't delve into my sex life, but I have no complaints at all. They key with Larissa is the passion, it is beyond anything I have experienced with any woman in my life, absolutely incredible, so don't think all these ladies are limp noodles, it just isn't so!
I remember listening to a BBC radio interview one morning. 3 elderly ladies were discussing their marriages. 'Why did you marry your husband?' one octogenarian was asked. 'For the sex , dear boy. The sex.' She said her husband was very passionate.
Pardon the pun but finding a passionate lover is a bit of a lucky dip. Like nas, the Russian g/f I had in St.P was very passionate, as was my AW. But these seem to be the exception rather than the norm. If you are lucky enough to melt the ice-caps, keep in mind that great sex does not a marriage make and should not .... Unless you are the old lady ;-)))
C'mon guys, we need to step it up here and represent America. Low libido is most likely related to low testostorone levels, so chow down some red meat, lift some weights and for god's sake ravage your hard body model looking wife.
I swear to God if I ever meet that dude that said he can't can't have sex with his wife because she is a Goddess I will kick his lily ass!
Your fathers and grandfathers stormed the beaches of Normandy so you'd have the priveledge and honor of making love to gorgeous European women so you better do them proud in the sack!
So, here's the deal...
As a man, you need to have sex appeal in order to encourage sexual behavior from your lady and also in order to give her an orgasm. Men generate sex appeal by being dominant, strong and assertive. Now, there are a lot of ways to be dominant without kicking ass and taking names. You can be smart and assert your knowledge over something, creative and make something unique, funny and make people laugh.
If you are none of these things and can't be dominant, then consider a sex change.
So there you are, showing off for your lady in your special way, and then, you see that spark in her eyes. "That's my man" she thinks "noone makes clay pots like him." So you have achieved sex appeal. Now you need to take advantage of this by making love to her as soon as possible!
There are plenty of books about sex, so I won't get into that, but you still need to be strong, confident and assert your dominance in the bedroom. Be strong but gentle. Lead her confidently and lovingly and she will follow whatever you want to do.
You reveal your history ;-))) I'm currently 'holed up' in Soi Nana. If you like women, playing pool and having a beer all at knock-down prices, it's as good a place as any for a single man. For now I'm house hunting and being a capitalist. It's interesting to make comparisons (as much as one can) between Asian and FSU ladies. One of the ways of reducing the economic factor is to find a lady from a good family who is financially solvent. It's not easy but if you have the time to get out and about and network, it's possible. Most Thais from good families will not have sex until married. But when they mary, it's for life. If you go with overpainted village girls, you need to be aware of the risk. QC
Q.C.
Great sex does not a marriage make and should not.... Yes , if a person has a low libido . There is nothing worse than a woman who is beautiful and unwilling . It usually makes you look elsewhere if your desires are unfulfilled. A great sexlife will enhance your relationship.
Nice one Sharkhunter. This is a debate that has been had before. What makes a real man? The term pussywhipped has been used to describe many western men who have been downtrodden by a feminist agenda that has sought to emasculate men rather than emancipate women. One good thing about meeting FSU ladies is that they MAKE you feel more manly. It is a way of behaving that is normal for them. She will wash you, slip her arm through yours, feed you, generally build you up and let's face it, it's a bit of a rush, when you are walking arm in arm with an attractive female at your side. You can't help but feel an inch taller and an inch broader.
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There is no one more passionate than the vicar's (priest's) daughter! And watch out for those librarians. You know the ones.. those clutching a steamy novel, with glasses fogged up. Nothing like sexual repression to bring the kettle to the boil. ;-)))
Sharkhunter
Not so sure about the red meat. Aren't many top athletes vegetarians?
You don't need to be an adonis to be a skillful lover and satisfy a woman. Look at some of the men that women take up with and it's obvious there is no connection between physical attractiveness and sexual desire. It's a common myth that all women want gladiators. Men love with their eyes, women with their ears! Many women are more interested in what's inside rather than the wrapper. Along with security, status, etc.. So you go storm the beach while I get out the poetry. ;-))
Asking some of these 40-50 something lonely farts who have had their day in the trenches to go and work out is a bit unrealistic.
I do agree with having confidence in the bedroom. It's a huge turn on for a woman. Most men though are selfish lovers and after the initial tokenism will be back to switching on the game while fondling the ring-pull on their can of beer. QC
I think many top athletes are on chemical diets more than anything.
Testostorone production is different for all men. Most guys who don't have a sex drive most likely need to find out how to generate more though and probably don't realize this is the problem.
Maybe a byproduct of feminism: The breakdown of the traditional family is the biggest problem with Americas men (and women). Developing children NEED a father figure, or more importantly a masculine/feminine balance in the love, support and guidance they receive.
Not having a father figure during development is devestating for a boy or girl. Girls either become excessively promiscuous or reclusive and boys either become overly aggressive or passive. Everything in extremes.
So the girls are nurtured to become young single mothers and the boys future wife beaters and child abandoners.
I think misconceptions about feminism lend support to single mothers. But it's everybodies fault and the problem is growing exponentially worse.
Thanks FSUfemale, put in a good word for me with your FSU friends, let them know that all American men aren't bad ;)
QC:
Poetry, eh? Sounds like you have things pretty well covered in the romance department. ;) I couldn't write a poem if you paid Shakespeare to tutor me, props to you my friend!
"Is it true that the word "vegetarian" comes from an old Indo-European word that means 'bad hunter'? " -- hehe, that's funny.