Toad
Something I know about you – and that is you do not make rash decisions. You have another chance with a women you loved and obviously still love. All the best and good luck. You have given immense support and contribution to this site. I am sure many have learnt from your posts. Some will never learn though – ah !!!!!!!
Toad, I’ll miss you. You cynizm helps me a lot to look on the world easier.
It is much easier to deal with a person with a common background – not a lot of excitement and expectation, just feeling that you at home then she is near you.
It is definitely, that person from your own country is much more predictable.
I think that the only reason why people looking for a person who lives on the other side of the world – is the magic word – marriage. But may be marriage is not a miracle? May be the “only person” is living only 2 miles from you?
I hope that now you hate just “boyfriend – girlfriend” relationships as much as I do.
Now is time to return back and read some of Annika77 posts! And maybe some people (no names no nationalities) must take back their words what they told me! Im not russian princess or hottie or beauty and I might get my menopause after some years (Toads words) but...
Anyway ...I wish luck to everybody and I hope people have relationship what really works!
Annika77 before you destroy this retirement party, there are many relationships working here now. Mine is and it is like any other it could fail at any moment. So when I can't sleep some night I might go back and read your posts, that and reruns of The Jeffersons have a way of putting me to sleep. Also just ante up you money and put in for Toads Gold watch.
Mike and others...I WROTE several several weeks ago that I have very big doubts about Toads relationship and that it might not work, if somebody have doubts can read my post monts ago! He didnt belive me and wrote all kind of crap to me. Of course he is very colourful and interesting man, but I just felt immediately what something is wrong in this story! And if somebody thinks age cap is main reason in my opinion ...so its NOT! What about failing so yes realtionship can fail...but some have bigger possibilities to fail than others!
So as you guys still think Im some bittered...feminist...pessimist bla-bla so now you can see : Im just REAL woman who have some intuition!
I'm now based in Bangkok and not given to posting any more but your post could do nothing less than draw me out. I can't believe what I'm reading. Is this the same man? Taken by an American female. Given up on the only one for you.. blah, blah. So many having followed your every wise and ascerbic pronouncements. What can I say? I will miss our encounters and am only sorry it did not work out as you would have wished for. You certaionly put in the time, money and effort. Many don't so it's to your credit. I'm not convinced you wont be back, you have walked out before and returned the very next day. Here's to revolving doors. Whatever transpires, I sincerely hope you find the contentment we all seek. Best of luck. QC
Do continue to set your rules in relationships. It will be the easiest way to use people and to keep distance.
Discuss everything – that means – put strict brakes about what you want and what you do not want. Sometimes you can listen to woman. BUT do not hear them.
That means be yourself and make the whole world twist around yourself.
Good luck. I know that you will not able to change yourself so change the world.
Annika,
Have you ever predicted anything good for anyone's relationships here or anywhere else?
You know the answer better than anyone.
Do you realize the kind of person that makes you?
Uuuggghhhhhh...!!!
Bagira,
You are also wrong this time. Most men or women with international travel experience or backgrounds do not make such a big deal about seeking, finding, developing and holding a serious relationship with someone from another country or culture, despite the differences.
Narrow minded or inexperienced people do, though.
QC,
I did put my best efforts to my try with Lena, but I never guaranteed anything and as it turned out some of the risks I chose to take on grew into the reasons I knew would cause me to make the decision I made.
I never run away from making tough choices. Call me 'cookie'
I enjoyed every one of my interactions with everyone here.
Hopefully I will have no reason to be back after these thread runs it course like all others usually do.
My revived relationship to my Cali woman has little or nothing to contribute to a forum dedicated to east-west realtionships and search.
Thank you for the cyber 'gold watch' and the memories.
I plan to enjoy them both in the most hedonist manner possible.
Good luck to everyone whatever the hell it is you're seeking and wherever the hell you try to find it..:)
The more you are loved and cherished, the more difficult to realize that it's all was a big lie. 6 weeks ago he wrote that he loved me and he was dating another woman... When I begged him to call, he was dating another woman. When I worked 14 hours a day thinking that I need to help my family before to go to my love to another country, he was dating... And now at one of the most difficult time in my life when I have seriuos problems in my family I am just getting a good-bye letter. I feel exhausted and disgusted. I really do. He tried to get me involved in his life and his family so much that I cannot stop aching that I will never see his kids, mother and friends that became a part of my life already. It hurts, it really does.
I am grateful to this site that I found out about a month ago, when I started getting letters with quotations from it, references, comparison of our relarions to yours. Now I see the truth. I was used and when I didn't want to play the rules that I was set to, I was just changed to another player. A reserve one. Very clever idea!
I am noway a perfect girl, and I have never wanted to be compared to other women to see my virtues and my flaws, I don't believe that any woman wants to be the best one. Every woman wants to be the only one, and not ONE OF as I was.
First I want to Say, I am so sorry that this happened to both of you,
In life there is nothing worse then two people comming this close
and seeing it all slip away.
Just A sad ugly day when this Happens,
Toad you have gave me so much out of this forum................
Lena I know this might not be what you wanna hear, but if you ever read
anything from me, I will lay it all on the line at any giving moment...
Toad Truly Cared about you, Please do not think he did not, because he did
now on the other hand I can not tell you his state of mind today
or what caused this change.
This is just A sad sad Day, I am sick.
Please you two talk.
Dam it
Toad please talk to her and tell her you cared...............
Lena...Im sure you are fantastic girl.
But I was suprised for a start what such educated and nice girl is doing with such arrogant person. Im sure you will find younger and less dominating person, who dont bla-bla about family values the same time screwing around!
Try in Europe...at least whole world dont read about your dating life in message board a la trip to Ekaterinburg!
Annika
you should be the first person who should not speak about Dominating
because you sister are more Dominating then any man alive............
You have about as much BLA- BLA and full of BS and family Values
as Clinton.
Try Europe :))) She wanted her voice herd and I am glad she did.......
Everything to you is younger, your about as sharpe as A marple.
Wake up Annika because when you find someone to marry you
and you cant dominate him, Isee you going through real Tough
times.......... Just my Opinion.
I have had many conversations with Annika off this forum and know her better than most people here. Your assumptions about her are incorrect and pretty offensive and Toad does not need another acolyte. Start thinking for yourself and stop using borrowed opinions. Your pronouncements will then carry more credibility.
I just woke up :)an sent my british boyfriend to work in nice small town in South of Netherlands and Im real pussycat! And he can dominate as much he want (if you know what I mean:)
If I need some advice to make my realationship better I ask my friends not from here because in that board you can get advice how to fail :):)
What about family values...I dont bla-bla about family values and bad fat american wumen...it was Toads favourite topic!
Actually Im very loyal and family oriented...Im not sure in case if Bill Clinton walk in tough :):)Yes...Bill Clinton have chances, no doubt :) so you are right :):)George Bush havent, Tony Blair have, prince Charles havent, prince Andrew have...Vova Putin havent...Look what you have done now...poor girl started to dream...
see ya toad. seems your russian search is finished. But never say never. for now my intentions for any russian girls is over. I cannot find a decent one that is not totaly self centred, although I thought I did this time. As you can guess I was wrong, again LOL. Hope all turns out well in you relationshipo world. For me though, no happiness is to be found in FSU countries it seems. A man should know when to give up, so I am
Annika, now I know you nuts in the head. You flame Toad but say Clinton has a chance. You have no honor my lady. Even if it's a dream. I will not compromise my honor or character for anyone. So please instruct me on how I am going to fail with my lady from Ukraine?