SoccerDad
If I received just three short letters in a month, I would assume the lady was not truly interested in finding a life mate. When I searched for a lady, I sorted through a few that only responded once a week and discarded them because I wanted someone that was looking daily for her man.
I agree with SD and Cast. I do not care if they are using an agency or private email but if she is really interested she will write and often. Sometimes things crop up and that I understand but if you do not talk how can you move forward?
I have one lady in Kherson who is right on the hairy edge right now. If it was not for the fact that I am going there and she has been in contact with me the longest she would be gone.
The reason?
When I craft a letter and I receive a response that is like a teacher marking a paper I am pissed. Instead of actually writing she just goes into my letter and surgically inserts a few words in another color so I'll know it is her. BTW her English is fluent.
Internet charges a problem?
Fine write the letter off line, cut & paste it and then go online and send it. Then come offline. Simple. There really is no excuse.
Oksana,
I have been writing to the FSU for about 2 months.i have put much time on this and sent out hundreds of letters in just 60 short days.... The result ?? zero, nothing, nada, zilch!! not 1 gal who is really serious about finding the love of her life. I have contacted some agencies in kherson. They have told me that the "real" gals dont even put their pics on the web, they wait for guys to show up in town and see them face to face. Frankly i believe these statements considering the poor results of my leter writing. So with this info in mind, im gettin on the plane in september. (a byrd in the hand is worth 100 on the web) LOL !!!
Viva, jmo and Adman, I do not agree, found mine with no problem. I refined my search criteria and only looked for ladies that met that criteria and found three in one month, selected one from that group after a couple more weeks and have become engaged. I have done socials in USA and never had any luck, always been the guy in the corner with a drink alone. Have no need to pay $3K to go stand in a corner of a forgein country with a drink in hand.
Adman, yes i have corresponded with gals in the past and i did have one that was looking good, but i had her checked out by the local agencies and found that she is a golddigger. I have also written to some others too but for one reason or another have found that these gals misrepresent themselves to a degree and i am getting pretty good at weeding them out (thanks IZ) I am now yakking with a new byrd the phone but i do not have high hopes and will not get excited until i go there for a face to face meeting. I would not even bother at all except that i am bored and just looking for something to do till i leave.
I still stick with my statement that a byrd in hand is worth 100 on the web.
Good thinking Viva, I myself have ran into many scammers and then decided to get a first hand look at all the real life images a man can handle.
I give lots of thanks to many of the gang on here, without there help I do not think I would have made it. Now my hopes and dreams live. It will be such an amazing journey and I can not wait to return home and like wizard said give the low down, and I will give costs and all info for everyone to view.
I urge everyone that has the means to go there, please find the courage to go there and enjoy life.
I think what jmo has said is very true.
I can also say that I have been at this for awhile now and as jmo can attest I have had zero problems meeting women on line. I turn them away almost on a daily basis. I have no idea exactly why this is but it is the truth. So meeting women through this or other websites is not a problem. If you are having difficulties then you need to rexamine your pictures, profile and writing style.
A girl has to typically put her self out big time to go to a social. Jet's lady told me the story of what she went through to get herself from Chiseneau to Odessa for a social weekend. She really made an effort. Correct me if I am wrong because I have never attended one but as I understand it nothing could be easier than to meet ladies at an RU social. You would have to make a tremendous effort to avoid them. I think that if Castaway is a shy kind of fellow he would probably still be ok.
What Viva is refering to is not scammers David. Yes there is always that element but that isn't what he means. He is talking about sorting the chaff from the wheat. Likewise the whole business of just writing/calling/IMing is fraught with pitfalls. Viva is correct in my opinion.
Just go. Be courageous and pick some ladies from a city and go. Organize an agency in the background. Maintain your independence by not sucumbing to the lure of staying with a particular woman or being dominated by a single woman in any way. Just go and absorb the fact that you do not know what is going to happen when you arrive. This whole business is a huge question mark and should be accepted as such.
You just don't know what you are in for until she is sitting across from you in a restaurant or cafe.
I want to give an example about the dominance thing.
I have 2 ladies both called Svetlana. One is more attractive than the other but I am trying hard to not let that sway me. Believe me it is tough, she is gorgeous.
The really pretty one has been very affectionate and deluged me with beautiful pictures, incidentally none from a studio. They are all amateur.
Why?
Because she is trying to create a strong dominant bond in a short space of time. She knows she doesn't have much time. She knows full well that I am hooked into an agency and also am going to see other women as well.
The 2nd Svetlana wanted to pick me up from the airport and was a little put out because I refused. Not very romantic she said. I said there will be zero romance until I meet you forget it. I asked her for her phone number saying that I would call when I arrived. From this she extracted that I would call her from America and then she started organizing her translator etc. Please don't think there was a miscommunication. Baloney! She is trying to dominate the situation and take control. She wants to corner me for the 2 weeks.
Wrong!
If she does not send me her phone number within about 2 days I will ignore her, there are many more women to meet. And I am not necesarily talking about agencies or any women that I have already hooked up with through Fiance, EWM or FF. I am quite capable of meeting women in bars, cafes etc. What is the worst that could happen? I could get my throat slit - fine I can handle it, bring it on. A good throat slitting would probably do me good, no doubt I deserve it :))
My feeling is that jmo is absolutely right, so is Viva and I think it is totally understandable Castaway's attitude. I am glad I am not too shy but I sympathize completely.
Viva, if you have written 60 letters and not had much of a reply, I would suggest there is something in your letters deterring the ladies, either content or style, when I started I was getting 10 replies a day, when I had cut my search to 5 women, they all replied daily. Maybe you should show a friend one of the letters you have written and ask for some feedback
sorry fsu not been online for sometime been very busy i am not married to my lady yet she will be here in the usa by the end of the year if all goes well
tradman, let me say that i have had many replies, but very few write more then a few times. I have been sticking with the younger ones. Iz told me that i need to start looking a girls older then 23. I have pretty much thrown in the towel on the letter stuff. I am stiil calling this one byrd almost daily and it is starting to look hopeful, but still i do not place to much hope in anyone until i go over there. My plane leaves in 9 days!!
I understand the approach of many of the men on this forum such as Izi, hammer, et al. It just does not work for me. I just returned from Belarus and had a very wonderful time and will return again in a month. I am short so automately 60% of women in a room not interested, I have a beard so another 20% not interested. I am shy so another 15% never meet me. I am nervous so maybe the last 5 percent never really talk to me. The letter writing worked very well for me. I wrote over 70 letters, selected three to write serious and then selected one to write and visit. I have found my dream, I wish you all the best in your search. My method worked, I am so happy and in love. I will fly to Belarus every 45-60 days to visit my sweetie and son.
I thank all who have shared, many have given advice and many have warned of problems. Much of advice I have followed and some I have not. For exanple, I have sent my sweetie support before we met and it was risky. But, it is only money and I did not mind the risk. The risk paid off for me.
For me, I looked for a lady 10 years younger than myself. I also looked for a lady with personal letters and true interest in me and my life. My lady speaks very little english so she is not available to many others. She is also very motherly so would not attend socials as she is howm with son.
For my visit, we never went to restaurant, I offered couple times but she prefers to cook at home and entertain at home. Except for gifts, I spent less that $150 dollars for food, travel, and entertainment. This is very unusual for me as I make a very handsome living and spend freely.
A small prophecy from me. I just want to have a documental evidence of my words.
So I predict that one very well-known person will finish his long fun-run in zero result in not more than 7-9 months just as another very well-known person.
When a personal thing is treated like a process whcich is gone through according to a manual or what is worth in addition is turned into fun getting... No way...
I understand your meaning and I believe I know of the two who you speak; I truly hope he finds true love and finds dream with Russian Woman. I wish this for all us, I have never met such amazing people as found in FSU, if my sweetie does not come to America, I would move in a second to Belarus. Give up my $200K a year salary and live as pheasant and work in Belarus. Just my 2 cents.
I too am sorry for your experience which you have bravely shared with us. I am relatively new to this whole experience and thought my input as a layperson so to speak will help. The unwritten rule of the 95% and the 5% will always be, in every matter, just look at successful people, 5% own 95% of the wealth, generally only the top 5% percent of people in sports etc earn the rewards, my point is that most of these people have done this through dedication and determination. In my humble opinion I think you may have contacted the 95% who talk the talk, this has been discussed on a recent thread, you, however are part of the 5% who will do what it takes to get results in this particular subject and find one of the 5%, I am sure everyone agrees with this. There are two things certain in this life, 1) when the big man calls, we have to go, we have no choice, and 2) If you are prepared to do what it takes you will succeed eventually.
QC
Amen to that, you are bang on the button, a wise man in these matters indeed.