Boys think about it please what makes you think that these women will fall for the averge over waight mid 40 westerner that sends them a few letters, falls in love, offer's them the world, and then comes over to the east to meet them unless there was money invlved. I love the Western woman lived in their country for 14 years married one 13 years ago and still happy. But they are people first and a wife second think about it.
I live in Australia too, hear both sides of the stories, for the western men and Russian women. I have been visiting Russian brides web sites since 2002 off and on and having worked in Australia in the dating agency, I have absolutely no doubt that a good percentage (but still small) of the Russian women listed are not really interested in travelling overseas, are models and not interested in getting married, or who are, unbeknown to the agency, fake in other ways. But this is no different to anywhere in the world and certainly a woman from non-western countries want what we have in the west. That is why USA has so many Mexicans crossing the border, to have a better life... I personally think that Vanechka has become bitter from personal experience and in part is right in what he says, but has to realise globally and even locally the risks you take in online dating are no different from each other. I use to go into chat rooms all the time and it was full of bullshit with many people lying about who they were etc. Out of it all, there were some positives and I do believe that most Russian brides web sites or mail order brides have geniune women and not just models parading the web site. I have seen web sites where practically every woman listed I would marry on her looks alone, but I know only too well that there are real people and not just Genetically Modified Humans with the perfect body and mind roaming the streets of Russia. I do struggle with a 21 year old willing to be with someone who is my age (45) and even though I get a buzz out of it, I stick to looking at women between 30 and 35 years of age. This is because I seriously want a family, to be married and know that women in their thirties are at their peak sexually ;)
I also believe much of the supposed high divorce rate, that Vanechka states, is due to culture shock. Many western men find western women's equality (in speaking her mind, pay, job opportunities etc) an attack on his masculinity or manliness an opportunity to have a woman under him rather than next to him. From seeing so many Army, Airforce and Navy men marry asian women with the perceived notion that asian women do as they are told, divorce is high with them as well. I also believe web sites like allow women to portray themselves mostly as obedient and will be on their hands and knees for their man. This is not helping the cause at all.
I want my woman to walk next to me, to share equally what we have, to love each other with respect and to understand that we are individuals and be able to share our thoughts without prejudice. Now I am not religious, best decribed as an Agnostic, but western people tend to be somewhat more promiscuous that say Russian wome, I do believe that. So what you may ask? Well, it leads to being emotionally involved with many partners and in many cases become bitter, thus, the attitude of many western men and women, "If you don't like who I am you can just fuck off". Or "I am who I am and no body is going to change me". No compromise, no relationship building and a loser. Many relationships do not share their financial resources, each keep what they earn rather than pooling together to make their lives happier. Don't get me wrong, a bit of pocket money is good, but not "this is mine and that is yours" attitude.
Another comment I have overheard by Aussie women, "I am never going for second best". It immediately conjurs in my mind someone who expects the guy to be perfect..... well he would do if he thought like a woman but still had balls...... but not big balls because he would then be an arrogant bastard...but not too small otherwise he is too whimpy... He has to be a man!!! But he can't rule me either, but has to take me in bed like an animal.....
It's like a perpetual contradiction from one idealistic notion of perfection to another.
I have this issue with 1-2-3-4 spreading the gospel, denegrating a nation of women based on a belief from half way around the world (never stepped outside of his room with media crap on tv), and to boot assume godliness is next to holiness. Well my friend, to this day man has fought more wars over religion than any other cause and quite interestingly enough the catholics have a lot to answer for over the haulocaust. Please don't correct my spelling, it's 02:30 in the morning and I don't care.
So, where was I....... oh yeah, Russian women.... or should I say FSU? (new to that abbrev.) I wrote and phoned a sweetheart who lived in Kazhakstan, she was.... 29 I think, I was 39, didn't want money, but sent me photos on a regular basis, but obviously was being romanced by someone else (a dutchman) as she informed me if I was seriously interested I had to go there soon.
A year later I phoned and a girl informed me she was living in Holland. This girl was geniune, with snail mail, a phone number, physical address etc..... women like her are out there and it wasn't hard for me to figure out she was geniune from the start because she gave me information that a shyster would never give.
Like gambling or buying a car or choosing a house to rent, don't throw cash around because you think you are right everytime and all the time because if you don't watch how the game is playing, or if that car is cheaper and better quality elsewhere, or the house across the road is better value etc then there will be people like Vanechka getting caught out or more so than him. It seems these debates have been going for a long time, going around in circles, accusations flying around and contradictions galore, the debate could be collected and put in a book and sold to those who spend more time reading such stuff instead of getting out there and doing it! Just "Do IT!" Reminds me of the Monty Python film, "Life Of Brian" when his follows were debating on how to rescue him when all they had to do was physically get off their arses (and it is arse not ass)and save him...... so why am I here.....
Insightful, intelligent and informative, all without being arrogant, rude or just plain stupid. We could all learn a thing or two about how to write a post from you Monolith.
I went to Moldova met the girl on the first day and have been married for 12 years. Traveled the world with her and we are still in Love. There are two sides to every life.