Another newbe here,
First let me say that my lady has never asked me for money. She told me to not send her any gifts in the mail because the would be stolen. Is there any safe way to send her a digital camera, maybe a curior or do they just handle letters?
On russianservice.com, they have flower delivery starting with a three rose set. This struck me odd. Wouldn't three roses be considered cheap?
make custome order request on russianservice.com they will provide you iwth models and prices available in that city and deliver it to you. with flowers if you like.
A couple of questions. Are you talking about spending a couple of hundred bucks on a gift, sending it to a girl you have never met, who is lucky if she makes a whole lot more than this in a month, or are you talking about something else?
Hello,
Thanks for the replys. I was thinking just of something $50 or less so she could take some recent photos. All the ones I have recieved are at least 6 months old, and she said her camera stopped working.
This was before reading many posts here about scams. Now I am starting to see possible red flags. So far, she has never asked for money. We have only been exchanging emails about 3 weeks, but she tells me many times per letter, that she loves me. Here letters repeat my name many times in them, but I don't know if this means anything. She has also told me her favorite sexual positions. I think it is a bit early for those. She does not answer my questions. For example, I have asked her twice if she speaks English or is using a translator. Now the big one. She asked what the nearest international airport is and the cost of a ticket for her to come see me. Even I know that isn't going to happen. I have told her all about the k1 visa and that it will take time and money, but it seems to fall on deaf ears.
I see that you are new. I would hate to be the bearer of bad news to you but this is all the classic symptoms of a scam.
1. It is impossible to love someone you never met. That should be common sense.
2. 3 weeks is a very short time to correspond
3. Does not answer your questions
4. Favorite sexual positions?? Come on! lol
5. Asking what the cost of a ticket to come see you is just about asking for money
One way to get a recent photo is too have flowers sent ad have a photo taken, but if I was you I would not waste you money on this one. Its good you decided to seek some advise before you make a mistake.
If you want to meet a Russian girl it takes committment and a desire to see the FSU, and a lot of knowlege about this process. Because going there and meeting your girl and getting a K1 visa is about the only way.
"She has also told me her favorite sexual positions. "
My private opinion:
I wouldn't be particularly interested in the details of her sexual experience with other men.
Why would a girl write about that?
And, if she is looking for a 'future', obviously her favourite 'position' would be in my bed.
-in whatever position I liked...(?)
I agree with tthe men above regarding the description of sexual positions. THAT should send up red flags to be sure. Sonds like a scammer or at least someone desperate.
But I DO have a comment regarding a girls request for a camera.
First of all - I have NEVER EVER met a Russian woman who didn't practically have a fetish for photography. They love to pose, with in front of ladmarks, cars (even if they don't own them) and anywhere else. They love to admire pictures of others as well as themselves. But many do not have cameras or cannot afford film developing.
When I intended to visit two girls in Moldova - I had already responded to their request that I send them pictures of my home, my city etc. along with pictures we had taken when we met in Ukraine. I thought it would be a good idea to send cameras that THEY could take pictures of things of interest to them (after all it was to be several months before I could meet them)and we could develope the pictures together. Not wanting to spend a lot - and not wanting the cameras to get heisted in the mail - I sent Kodak Flash Disposable cameras to each of the girls.
BOTH girls thought it INCREDIBLE that they would be expected to turn in these cameras after using up the film. BOTH asked me if there was any way that these cameras could be resued and saved. One girl actually convinced the photodeveloper to return the disposable camera to her in useable form!
Not realizing the sort of frustration that my idea would cause, I promised each girl that I would bring with me a "reusable" camera so that they would have one. I purchased Polaroid bran 35 mm cameras at Walmart with autofocus and auto film advance for around $20 and brought onw for the girl I acually visited in Moldova. Regualr readers here know that I did not have a chance to visit the other girl, due to the first girl (the story is in the archives) - but later I sent the camera to her.
This was all in April/May of 2004. One of the Moldovans is still in my life as the person I brought over on a fiance visa for three months this past summer and that I will be visiting later this month. (I also visited her for two weeks in January 2005), She still has the camera and prizes it and protects it vigorously. She made a prtective bab for it out of plastic bags and it was never out of that protection unless in use. Recently I gave her a real camera bag and she was thrilled.
Its best to have gotten to know the girl first (longer than three weeks of letters probably) - but sending over a NONdisposable camera in advance of your trip is a GREAT idea.
In Moldova you will find 35mm cameras for store in the market - in brands you have probably never heard of. But one like the Polaroid brand 35mm cmaera that I brought (with the same features) - tend to cost the equivalent of $50 to $70. They are NOT CHEAP.
Ok, I'm about ready to dump her because of the red flags. I just want to be sure. How terrible would it be if it was just due to bad translations. Anyway, I read in another post that scammers don't give personal info. My girl, without my asking, game me her home address, and asked for mine and also my home phone number. She wants to exchange hand written letters and wants to call me. She still has not asked for any money, etc. Do scammers ever go this far? Remember, I'm new!
Pumk,
No need to dump her if she has not asked for money or gifts, wait until such time as that may happen, just try to write to other(s) also and don't take this one too seriously, for now anyway.
Martin
Maybe from my photos, one size fits all, lol.
I have been thinking about her not answering my questions. I still do not know her English skill level. After some testing of online translators and back, many questions become statements. Does the train move fast? to The train is fast. Something that may be an obvious question to an English speaking mind reguardless of how it is typed, might not be so to a Russian. Also, even when a word is correctly translated, it may have a bit of a different meaning. For example, I have been using the word Expensive. I just read on another site that this is translated to mean absolutely that I cold never aford something, rather than I must wait till payday or save up a bit. Now just imagine telling the love of your life that it will be expensive to bring her here and marry her, lol.