I just wanted to say "read between the lines" - I started with Dana only because Natalia couldn't make up her mind and that was last summer!
The first time I met Natalia I told her what's up with you (25 and cute) not having a man in ure life for over 2 years? I later told her that I started with Dana - after I had had a string of one night stands (which Natalia about was because of her indecision). That was last summer.
She eventually made her mind and choose this guy - but we remained always in contact by phone, sms, emails and met again a few months ago. I had then split up with Dana (from Bucharest) - partly because of the situation with Natalia and me (a big part).
Natalia had problems with her boyfriend (big part also because of her boyfriend's jealously) and I had understood, as she had told me that she wanted a relationship with me, that she was going to end it with him! Since she told me face to face, and by email and confirmed by sms I can only presume my understanding was correct. In our last meeting I said why don't you ask a Russian women's forum for advice on how to go about it - as she didn't know what to do. She liked the idea.
I don't deny the fact that it is clear that her boyfriend and her are on their last legs - but those last legs have lasted a long time (at least since January.
And, since we both are very proud, stubborn, with a strong unlived attraction between us, all we got was negative passion - arguments, cursing at each other when things don't work out etc.
She was in fact a very understanding, caring and forgiving person but she didnt understand the issue of sitting on the fence for so long!
Most of my recent relationships (irrespective of country) have been with women who have had death in the family around them - because they, at least, understand urgency to live life and not sit on the fence! Why? Because I am a similar case.
But with women who have family, friends, a good secure job (she works in a marriage agency for years) - it has never worked out. Why? Because many of such women sit on the fence (like Natalia) , get seduced and sit on the fence contemplating who, which one.
That is why I was soo fucked off! She told me she had worked on herself, changed that way, but she hasn't!
So it was not because she had changed her mind about our meeting since I had driven, like a blue arse fly, up to Ukrainian border and down to Bulgarian border during 24 hours for stupid meetings that I was relieved she cancelled (I mean after doing crazy speeds of over 200km/hr on Chisina-Bucharest) road I had no desire or intention to do anymore driving.
In the end, playing with two men's hearts is good for no-one and she will regret it! That's what I meant by my question about being unfaithful as acceptable in ukraine!
Having sex (with no feelings) is filling an urge - but playing with eomtions, because of indecision, is an entirely different ball game, and takes a long time for all parties involved to forgive and move on (if ever).
She has lost me and she has (from prior knowledge on the issue) lost her boyfriend anyway.
Clever folk can figure where this girl is on this website but I don't wish to comment. She remains for me a soul mate - sadly we could never be as one. But such is life, and it must go on
Romanian women are much more beautiful in my opinion than Ukranian - although I wouldn't trust them further than I could throw them - and that ain't far! Same goes for Moldovan women (from Romanian part or Russian part of Moldova). All in my experience living here for over a year.
But all these marriage agency websites flaunt the virtues of Ukrainian/Russian women in the first page. Shame so many of you (and me) get taken in it by it.
But please do not make my story what it is not.
Natalia is an ordinary girl living in the sticks like any other local girl in the Uk, EU or maybe USA (I don't know USA) - and she is confused (like they are in the UK or elsewhere). And money means nothing for Natalia - which is a good thing in her defence.
Though I am a regular guy who wanted her, and I could (by pushing it) get her back, my life is complicated enough. At 38 (looking 33) I may own a Jaguar and a nice place on the sunny seaside resort in Monetenegro - where I am presently building a house - (all Russian speakers there mind you) but to top it all off I work in different countries (sometimes continents) which is difficult for any woman (no matter from where) to accept to tag along - even if these are in beautiful places and one has a superb lifestyle.
I cannot offer her what most of these girls want - an average life in the USA/UK - so why should I bother!
I am sure SHE IS INTERERSTED RIGHT NOW in a young american regular guy with a regular job. So guys write to her!
Hey guys! This MONADA "somthing" is fucking with your minds..cantīt you see it!! stop responding to her or ask her/him questions!! I am Icelandic and I have been to Russia few times and few oather FSU countrys, western men are considered walking money machines to women, taxi drivers, restaurants,bars and any oather possible money making services!!! There are alot of good and nice women out there and alot of shit (see above..)..the main thing here..go after what your inner man tells you is right!! it is a jungle out there, but there is no reason to give up hope even tough the wind sometimes blows in your face!
Sort out the shit and follow your heart!! Simple, but works!
Regards,"an viking of true origin from the land of ice and snow" :-)