looking at the number of letters sent there are a few very young girls who are receiving thousands of letters while others in there early thirties are receiving little or none.I think some of these letters are being written by old men in their 40's chasing young girls.it is no surprise then that the girls will try and scam them as to be quite honest they are asking for it.They should be writing to girls nearer their own age up to 10 years.It is no surprise the FSU has got a bad reputation as these old men encourage it and then come back crying when they get their fingers burnt.
Hertsman...you are making a lot of assumptions......I would think that 75% or more men on this site are in their 40's, divorced and looking.........Old men in their 40's..ouch
You can write to what your own age group is...don't preach to others what you think they should do, if they fall on their faces, it's their fault. I do blame much of scamming on guys that think with the wrong head!!!!!
hertsman, it's almost never a lady scamming. Usually it's a man (or men) that re-use photos from other women who have no idea their photo is being used. Occasionally a woman will be in on it, but these guys tend to go after guys who will be easily parted with their cash quickly. No reason to spend the time setting up a grand scheme when you can spend the same effort just writing an email asking for money.
And age has nothing to do with it. They will target a 20-something or a 50-something or anyone in between. Young people money spends just as well as old people money. :)
As beemer says, think with the right head and you'll avoid the scammers. In the meantime, write to whoever interests you, young or old, and judge them on their actions, not some kind of pseudo statistic that is meaningless.
beemer when I say old man,a man in his 40's or 30's is an old man from a 19 year old girls point of view,however I will bear in mind that if you don't send money you can't get scammed.
I recently dated a british girl who would drop hints at me to lend her money,borrow my car etc etc...but I played dumb and she soon got the message and hit the road empty handed,so I am familiar with this type of manipulative behaviour.
I have started correspondence with a few russian girls in their early thirties (I am 35 by the way) and so far have not been asked for money.
Hertman..first of all, old men in their 40's was your point of view, in over a year I have not heard that from a girl in FSU. Second, the behavior you mentioned is everywhere, at home or in foreign country, as you saw, third,
good luck with your correspondence, the smart girls are a little more subtle in asking for money down the road. Personally, I see no problem in finding a girl 15-20 years younger, it all depends on the individual, what is most comfortable for them.... just my point of view.
I do see a problem with finding a girl 15-20 years younger in that when you bring her back to your country she will encounter everyday problems,for example having to walk down the street with you and receiving snide comments from feminazi's,
At first this will probably not bother her but after a while the pressure will cause a strain on the relationship which most will not tolerate.
To add this she will probably be hit on several times a day by guys her own age(who will see her as an easy target)which she will feel temptation towards,I am not saying that those marriages can't work but the odds are heavily stacked against it.
I know it is human nature to seek out the most attractive mate but sometimes you do need to use your head and not your heart,I say this from experience as I have been married to the wrong person and hopefully will not repeat what happened again.
Hertsman...so what do you suggest me finding a 45 year old lady that I have nothing in common with which I don't find attractive but hey, nobody will hit on her and we will never get any stares.....hmmmmm, I think I'll take that younger girl that I have much in common with other than age. I'm willing to take on any oddds, for now!
I use my head and my heart. Have you wondered about the amount of guys that have been married to a women at home probably close to their age and it hasn't worked out...can't blame age for that. So if same thing happened to a guy
and there is big difference in age guess what everybody will blame....your right,the age difference.
I would suggest in your case presuming you are 45 to look for someone in their late 30's as opposed to 25-30 unless you happen to look like tom cruise in that case no problem go for a young babe I think katie holmes is 16 years younger than him.
The thought of dating most western women my own age is simply unappealing,so I totally agree on that one,they are mostly overweight and unattractive,have you seen the tv programmes that try to convince fat ageing western women that they are beautiful,they just sum up the reason why I am searching for an FSU partner.
Hertsman, I agree about how unattractive and overweight many older women in west are and if in good shape probably married or looking for a young hunk.
As for what I am looking for, I don't bother with age at all..I look at how attractive to me they are and if they seem to match my interests and values..period, if she happens to be 25, so be it. I don't try to buy my way in!!
hertsman if I were dating someone younger than me and a "feminazi" (wow didn't realize people were still using that term) said something snide about it, then that would be her problem, not mine. As long as they are adults of legal age of consent, there is no problem. Also, I'd recommend reading "9 Simple Rules for Dating Russian Women" at http://www.womenrussia.com/freebook/ . This free ebook addresses some of the age difference issues and some common misconceptions. (no I'm not affiliated with this site.)
There's no reason beemer18 should be limiting himself to late-30's. He needs to be realistic in knowing that the farther apart they are in age the more likely she won't be interested (or that it won't work out) but there's no reason to place artificial limits on yourself.
43 year old man trying to hook up with 25 year old fsu girl = NO GO!!!!
age difference matters.
young pretty chick with old fart does not compute!
Guys smell the coffee here and the roses!
Hey beemer,
How you doin? I think it's great that you're looking for a younger lady. It was very important to me though I set my limits on 16 years. Where I live in the north of England, it isn't a problem to get a girl 8-10 years younger if you are in your late forties, though they are a little overweight and hardly beautiful, but I wanted more.
You seem like a nice, balanced guy, and I'm sure you will find what you want.
I would rather have become a monk than dated someone near my own age.
So how how are things in the monestary, it great you are becoming a monk!!!!! :)))
Thanks for the kind words....I think I am pretty balanced guy. This age thing cracks me up. The guys that may
not have looks or personality are always talking about not getting involved with a girl 20 years younger than you.
I spent 5 evenings with a girl in kiev recently. She was 25 years younger than me. I picked her from an agency...my first time... at our first meeting, we had coffee and chatted for awhile and then I asked if she would like to join me for dinner. At dinner she told me that she liked me a lot and that when we had met, she was not going to spend more than an hour with me. A okay looking guy with a great personality can make it with a younger girl, just have to find the right one. It is possible, not likely but possible!!
Aussie...I would think more of your comments on FSU girls if you had actually been there once!!! If YOU were 43 and trying to hook up with a 25 year old FSU...that my friend = NO GO