Well, I did register on that bridesandlovers.com, because those girls they have there seem to be genuine, on many dating sites you just smell a fake because ALL girls look like supermodels - it is just not true in real life. Thanks for sharing, Taddy.
"That is what I can say as a Russian woman.
And there are a lot, a lot, a lot of crazy mental sick people... and this is so sorry.
And some of (the) men have own very strange rules, and they even think it is normal (to have them), and they expect (others) to appreciate this... What I am looking for in men: first intellect in his eyes, to look=to be adequate (good enough). I see it from first sight, not even necessary to get in (physical) contact with..."
so very true!!!! It doesnt matter how many letters you have sent to each other over 6 months or whatever. It doesnt even matter if you have had Skype conversations
(although it helps some), a girl is still going to go on the impression you give in the first 3 minutes of your first real meeting. She will decide in this first moment whether you are worth her time and investment in a relationship together.
This is a lesson that is very hard for first time foreign daters to accept. Mick in Mykolaiv just experienced this first hand last week in an experience he
described as 4 scammers in 4 first dates. The reality is that these girls likely made that decision within minutes that he wasnt the one for her.
Having much more experience in Ukraine, I know this situation all too well but have learned it is part of dating life in ukraine. I remember when I met Yulia for the first time this year. It didnt matter that I had paid to rescue her from Luhansk last year. I had talked to her for 3 months afterwards and even exchanged "I love you"s online
before our first real meeting. I knew 100% that what would happen in the first minute when I met her at the train station in Odesa would determine our fate.
Guys, this cannot be underestimated enough!!! It did not matter that I had invested over $1000 in her already before we met(never ever do such a stupid thing. I repeat NEVER send money before you meet in real life, Im just stupid) If we did not connect in those first minutes, I knew I was buying her a ticket back home. She had taken a 3 hour bus trip to meet me so to her, it better be worth it!
I was lucky. We connected and since then, the time Ive spent with her has been nothing short of the dream of every man. HOWEVER, she could have met me and quickly decided to return home. I had already paid for her return ticket as part of our deal so there was nothing she would have needed from me to stay or go.
Guys, I cannot stress enough. It doesnt matter if you just connected online last week or have been communicating for 6 months or a year, NEVER EVER plan on what will happen until
you meet her the first time. There is no replacement in this world for chemistry. Either you have it or you dont. It cannot be made artificially or with your money.
IF YOU ARE SMART and not thinking with the wrong anatomical parts, you will be able to tell a genuine girl from a scammer or dinner-dater.
There is an infinite amount of girls to choose! whether you suceed or fail is totally up to YOU!!!
I should add that this site, fiance.com has plenty of real girls who want a real relationship. are there scammers? probably. But are there real girls who want a real relationship? ABSOLUTELY!!! JUST BE SMART, do your homework and never ever go into a "date" with any thought of what the outcome will because YOU DO NOT KNOW!!!
Just like in western countries, it is a numbers game. every "no" brings you closer to a "yes"
dont give up! over the past few years, I have discovered the journey can be every bit as rewarding as the destination! Its all in your perspective , your wherewithal
and dedication to the end result.
Even lonely ranger cannot deny that he hasnt had some experiences and days that he would never trade,. I was divorced in 2009 and still not remarried but would I ever consider trading
my experiences in Ukraine? NOT ON YOUR LIFE!!!!
Rick: ďEven lonely ranger cannot deny that he hasnt had some experiences and days that he would never trade,.Ē
Sure I can deny it,,,, but,, Iíd be lying.
Itís a puzzling thing, to have fond memories from both good and bad experiences. Iíve had a perfect night over there, with someone I just met, and then a scene that plays over and over in my head, from someone who had told the biggest lie.
When I made my trips over,,,, I already had high hopes and perhaps some expectations of what should happen next. Iím quite fond of them if I fly that far to meet someone.
The last girl, told the biggest lie,,, omission actually,,,, but on several occasions during our dates, she would walk or run up to me, and say something in Russian, hoping that I would understand. I saw the qualities in her at that moment, that attracted me to her in the first place. She was excited to meet me,,,, a simple and sweet girl. I loved the smile on her face and the glow in her eyes. Sometimes remembering the fondness almost cancels out the dishonesty.
During those moments,, she spoke to me, and not to the interpreter. Not understanding at a time like that is like shaking the fizz out of a soda.
Then, thereís the times that are easy to explain,,,, like following my Ex/Nx with the grocery cart,,,,, she was wearing a pair of too tight leather pants and 4 inch heels. Iíd push that cart anywhere!
One thing that still gets me,,,, is to hear the jingle from my LifeJ cell phone,,,, a cheap Samsung. I start it from time to time,, just to hear the tune and reminisce.
I should revise my statement regarding this site. You need to slso exercise caution on this site
also. Seems they work with local agencies who practice the normal cash extraction business model.
I met a girl Anastasia earlier, actually just finished up deciding regardless of the situation, we will be friends.
Like many girls, she was signed up by a friend who just happens to work for a local affiliate agency in Kherson. She said her friend asked her if she wanted to make some quick money. Of course she agreed.
the surprise was that the "interpreter" didn't realize I would understand anything and I pretended to be totally illiterate. It didn't work out well for the "interpreter" when after I heard enough to realize what was happening I asked her in Russian "did you assume that because I am American I would not understand anything? Did you assume I would be just another stupid fool?" Needless to say she was embarrassed in front of everyone, some who had also heard the conversation and were listening with interest. I learned from Anastasia that she didn't realize she was on a dating website, this was the first time she had been asked to meet a foreigner and was told it would only take 30 minutes for 10 bucks. She was told she needed to smile and laugh. She said she has had boyfriend since summer of last year and just finished university. She has really cute terrier dog but she isnt interested in meeting a foreigner. Although listed as a 4, she knew very little English.
Moral of the story, just be careful, even experienced guys can be setup. Im sure fiance.com cannot
catch every bad apple but this girl will be asking to be removed. She isnt a bad girl, just used for someone to make a buck.
will I do it again? Of course! There are 88 more girls on the website that meet my criteria in Kherson and 254 in Nikolaev. They cant all be fake!
I came across another dating site that has almost the same layout structure as this site with almost the same information. I suppose it is an affiliate of the site (similar to the large number of sites connected to Anastasia).
I noticed that many of the chat invites I get from this site come from the early 20s aged girls. Sort of like they are being used as a "lure" when they are online. I do get a few from much older women.
I still have not gotten any response from any independent ladies.
I cannot say if all of your "matches" are all fakes, but on one free site that I came across, it was nearly 100% translation fee scams.
Overall, i have learned that the best way to meet girls is just live in Ukraine for weeks or months at a time and it just happens naturally.
As I mentioned earlier, since i have a little more time than normal, I am going to meet girls from this website and see what happens. As today, I will report the results. I must be covert and not let the GF know what I am doing
After reading this, I started to think about the girl I met in Herson,,,, the one with at least 47 profiles. As far as I know,,, she did all of that from one agency! I wrote down her profile numbers,,, and most of them were from AOB and itís clone sites,,, 10 to 12 of them. Then some were from 1st International and itís clone sites. There was a third group,,, but I can no longer remember them.
I had all of this wrote down on a piece of paper which has been packed away in a box somewhere, years ago.
I was thinking,,,,,, itís too bad there isnít a way to track down all of their profiles,,, when it hit me,,,, DíOh!! There is a way to tract them down,,,,, by searching for their Id no.! Google her Id no. along with her name and check out the results. If that doesnít turn up much,,, then also include the first sentence of her profile. You might find pages of google listings.
Donít forget to Google Image her main profile photo! If she is a chair filler,,, or doesnít even know that she has a dating profile,,, then she will have the same pic in each profile. But,,,, if her profiles are different,,,, and if she changes photos often,, she maybe a proactive scammer, and in business for herself.
I came across an independent lady listing on this site which appears to be inactive since 2013. I sent a message to this profile with no response. Now I get a "flirt" from another dating site with a similar photo of the lady, however, the profile varies. The date of birth varies, the city location varies, the occupation varies, and the self description varies. She is a model on this site while a teacher on another. I guess you can move and switch jobs, but can you change your age????
So Rick...you lie to the girl to see if she is a scammer?
That offer I have given....and met with girl next day, happened a few times. Most girls would meet....maybe in their minds it is free food or shopping...or if you are lucky, a sincere girl.
DC, you sound desperate. Reminds me of a sick doctor who was still making love to a corpse.))))
Not desperate, since nothing has changed since from last year. I am just perusing some of the sites and giving some of the things that I have come across. Some of it is actually rather amusing, if not pathetic.
DC, why would you send message to a girl that has been inactive for 2 years???
Are you bored or just have time to kill?
I presented you before with a site(free for 1 year)to hopefully find someone who possibly can be your match. I have several( on that site)I have met and continue to pursue and one other that came to visit me. I am one to take time to know each better.
I understand about hit and misses and some can be entertaining( sites or girls), I just don't have time to just 'play' around. Good luck!!