I used to commute to work by rail for along time and made a number of friends this was over 3 years ago.
One guy was short of stature maybe 5,4 and happily told me about his Russian wife. about 48 and married to a 38 yr old Russian girl. They met at a bar in the capital and he fell head over heels. Irina was her name and she had come her with Russian boyfriend and it quickly fell apart her work visa was soon to expire She was btw alot taller than him. He told me she was quite strong willed and they would fall out alot but intimiate wise it was very good and he loved her very much.He paid for uni for her and she studied accountancy. He had 3 kids and no wish for more she was fine with this and wanted the same.( just a note his dad became sick and lived with them for 3 months and she looked after him very well no complaint) She had a son 10 Vlad who she wished him to adopt as his own. He asked me what to do? I said look in Ireland heres how it is if u split up you will be stuck to pay for this child and dont do it so he agreed.
I stopped commuting and havnt seen him for a year I deceided to get in touch this week since we both had something in common and maybe our wives could be friends at the least. He just contacted me today to say some bad news. After the three years together she got a Irish passport she went back to Russia for a holiday and totally changed he noticed this as soon as he picked her up in the airport. They arrived home and she told him she wanted him out of the house ( house was in his name and he paid for it) He has moved into the spare room and didnt leave he is totally in bits its terrible to listen to someone in such a situation his world has fallen apart. Note how after 3 years of marriage and support from him as soon as passport arrives she gets rid of him. I think myself she must have met a ex or a new man in Russia when there on her own.
Its a story that plays out every day Colin.
People get married and divorced all the time. We wouldnt think nothing of it, if it wasnt for the passport. It does seem odd to me that we put a different standard on it if the women comes from another country.
You wrote about their relationship as a bit of a mismatch. In these cases it is necessary to be more watchful. Separate holidays were probably not a good idea.
You had your doubts about their relationsip in the begining. Most guys when theyre in that position, dont see it coming.
guy rang me 2day ,he found camera in the house and browsed through it lots of pictures of her in miniskirts and underwear hes wondering if she was advertising on the internet or sending to a new man. Although hes nearly 100 percent she has a man in Russia. Advised me not to teach the wife how to drive he said his wife had 2 much freedom and traveled to other Russian friends and didnt spend much time with him (he bought her a new car) she never worked and he supported her all the time and made her son like his own. And as Adman said seperate holidays not a good idea I asked about this and he said it was common her traveling to Russia without him.
i would trust olya to have a holiday without me. if i can't trust her then there is no point in the relationship really. but of course i hope that holidays together would be more fun!
i agree with adman. me and my first wife lasted barely 3 years. it just happens that way sometime. just easier for us as there were no kids involved and we didn't want anything from each afterwards apart from to try and be friends. until olya came along that is... now she won't talk to me. she was a year older than me, olya is 13 years younger and i don't think she can deal with it.