Find a better person for you and make sure she knows that you when you do find the "Right One" Keep bragging to her on and on and on to her about it.
Other than that she still wins as all you are doing is focusing on her (which is what they want) consumed by getting revenge on her. As hard as that is move on and find a better woman for you. Past is the Past and you can't change it! Look forward to the future.
Well said, Colin. She can still come to the UK, even if she changes her mind about you? I doubt if that's possible with a K1 or fiance visa to the US. What does she say at the airport when she enters? Even if she gets through that in the US, which I doubt, she will live in the US as an illegal immigrant if she doesn't marry.
I would not waste any time on this one. if the opportunity arises revenge is ok but dwelling on it is a waste. you will find that like most things revenge is not as much fun as one might think.
revenge for what????? hell, I am thinking about revenge for something that happened to me a year ago in the states.... I suffered for a period of time because I dwelt (sp?) on it... and believe me she deserves revenge ...the bitch should be shot-in jail or hung up on a tree. but I let it go... you have no idea the shit I went through. From an Ameican bitch.... I could have been an asshole and made her life difficult... but I chose to let it go...
So what, pray tell, is the reason you wish to seek revenge..???
In some way or another we have all been hurt. If that is not the case you wouldn't be reading this now. And if you have been hurt by a woman you barely know from an internet sight, then you have serious issues. Be smart. Don't let your guard down. And be sure that a person is the person you are talking to.... If you have met and find out later that it was a scam,,, then chalk it up to experience. Wasted energy on something is just that. If there are no ties and there are no ramifications from your contact other than your are pissed off, let it go. Shit, I lost over a grand on a recent trip and no lady did me any harm.
why do you seek revenge? what happened?
Are those rules the ones that they give you when you sign up to these agencies, the ones that says you are guaranteed to get scammed ripped of and have your heart broken. Personaly as long as people accept and have an apathetic attitude to scamming these women and their agencies will think it is acceptable behaviour and it will get worse. Personaly the more people that take these people on and try and reap some revenge the better, it may not get you anywhere but it will help to give you closure on what to some people is very distressing. To say accept it and move on is playing into the hands of the scammers and will only encourage such behaviour. Let the idiots know if they want some back they will get it in spades.
I want revenge against the woman that scammed me not for what she did to me but for what she will do to others, i feel it is my responsibility not to let this woman make money out of contempt for mine and other peoples feelings. I am still in contact with her, i have letters from her admitting she lets other women use her profile to chat at her websites chat room. I have made up a second profile with a anon photo and i use my second computer she sends my second profile chat invites when i am actualy in chat with her on my other computer. This woman has nothing but contempt for my feelings, is happy to tell me she loves me when all the time in another chat window she is saying the same to some other guy. I have recorded and saved every chat we have had, chats where she says she is loyal to me and me only. The woman is a complete liar, all i am doing is stringing her along and eventually she will hang herself. I will go to her agency with what i know, they may laugh it off i dont care. I know this woman is not as inteligent as her agency makes her sound. It would be a good feeling to let her sit in fear knowing she could lose her nice little cash making scam, i intend to threaten her with a civil action on the grounds of attempting to defraud me by useing multiple identities and deception on the basis of obtaining money. personaly it may not happen but the thought to her of knowing i could easily blow her out of the water is satisfaction and a reasonable revenge. I am only saying this because these women want you to accept you were scammed and their attitude is sorry about that no hard feelings. Sorry but for me money is not the issue messing with peoples emotions is wrong and it should be the responsibilty of the agencies to stop this pathetic wrong and ILEGAL activity.
Ukraine is a country where illegal activities are frequently done in full public view. People shrug their shoulders. When I first visited Ukraine, the president at that time had been taped in a conversation saying he wanted one of his political rivals killed, and the whole country knew about this. Nothing happened. The current president was poisoned with dioxin during a previous political campaign - his face looks like a battlefield due to the effects. Nothing happened. There is an industry in Ukraine of luring young women into forced prostitution in nearby countries (mainly Turkey). This is no secret. Nothing happens.
Compared to these crimes, who in Ukraine will get excited about small-time crooks defrauding (compared to the average Ukrainian) rich foreign men?
Well I would compare this to deciding to kill all of the rattlesnakes in Texas. You could spend your whole life doing this and not noticeably decrease their population.
As long as it is possible to give the heart strings of a man a little tug and money falls out there will be people and organizations taking advantage of it. A smart man will gain $1000 worth of knowledge with a $1000 loss a better prepared man will learn not even to loose the first 1000.
But now if you want to wade in and take revenge on the ladies that made a fool out of you remember some are single ladies, some are men, some are organizations, and some are the mofia. So pick your fights wisely.
The west has sympathy for the victim. The East wonders who raised such a stupid child.
"Do not seek revenge or bear a grudge against one of your people, but love your neighbor as yourself."
"Do not say, I'll do to him as he has done to me; I'll pay that man back for what he did."
"Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everybody."
"Do not take revenge, my friends, but leave room for God's wrath, for it is written: It is mine to avenge; I will repay, says the Lord."
"Make sure that nobody pays back wrong for wrong, but always try to be kind to each other and to everyone else."
"Revenge will eat up your soul and spit you out saith TexasDude."
I've had some chances to dole out justice, but I thank fate for keeping me from the final solution. Three times I was close to doing something that would warrant major jailtime.
Some folks want revenge cos they think the scammer doesn't pay...sure, they pay. They have to live with themselves don't they? Never really knowing if someone is with them for who they are....who they are on the inside...which is already dead.
Think of a love without honor. A person who attains something without honor.
Even if they live long and prosper and get the windfalls of life and luck it's all external. Inside they are still rubbish.
They make their choice. We make ours.
It's like screwing yourself out of the Lottery for the big grand draw.
They lose, big time for a lifetime
Suckers.... One born every minute.
F**k em.
Vengence is mine sayeth the lord.
Good livin' with a good woman is revenge enough...so sayeth James Tiberius Kirkland
You are right, i should take the high moral ground and be satisfied in the fact that some of these women are incapable of having a loving relationship. It is satisfaction knowing that some women put a value on love and put the dollar in front of love. It is true at some stage in your life you have to look down the gun barel and ask do i like myself and more often than not i expect for these women the answer is no. I just want 8 months of my life back. The love and emotion that i put into this woman can never be returned and i feel a part of me has been stolen by this woman and the money is not important to me it is the lies and deceit and false promices that has left a large hole in my heart. Personaly this woman is poison and is rotton from the inside out and she deserves herself. I want to stop her to stop her doing it to someone else. Deterent is beter than cure and i dont think that is a bad thing to say moraly either
Kirkland: Captain Kirk is the man, I'll gladly take his advice. ;)
Figgis: I know exactly where you are coming, I have felt the same as you (and still do sometimes) I had Ukrainian girl I loved totally screw me over too. It was tough and still is to some extent. I really loved this person and she turned out to be a major rat. People will always say "get over it already" but it is easier said than done. While it is true, it's a learning experience and hopefully you will not make the same mistakes again. But still it's hard when the heart speaks louder that the head, you get into a situation that you normally wouldn't put yourself into if you we're thinking clearly. Love, desire, etc. shuts down the brain and then you are screwed. Been there done that got the crappy T-shirt. They say the best form of revenge is to live your life and be happy and I do kind of agree with that. I personally hope my ex dies alone and penniless after how she treats men while I actually find someone good to share my life with. That would be my idea of good revenge. But I also have to say that I think some of these girls should be reported to some sort of scam site to spare other men these girls evil ways. I'm talking about girls who lie about there intentions about having a relationship with you when all the while all they care about his free holidays, money and expensive gifts. A lot of people don't agree on this practice but I think that it's important for other men to be warned of them. I know if I had gotten warned about this girl beforehand it would have saved me a lot of pain and grief. You're right losing the money is not the hard part, it's when your feelings get played with that sucks the most.