Hello everyone and thanks for any pointers or advice you can give me. I am just getting started into this Dating scene with someone from the FSU. I have read many post on here and learned alot about scammers and bad agencies. I just recently joined Fiance.com was that a mistake or is there better out there?
My entire goal is meeting a lady to fall in love with, marry and have children. I am not interested in flying over to FSU for a hookup I can get that at home if I wanted. The problem is I am not a very wealthy man but I have a solid job and make a decent living in the trades. Would this be a turn off to russian women? I wont be able to afford makeing numerous trips back and forth. But I figure If I meet my soulmate then going there and bringing her here is a small price to pay for happiness.
I am a very skeptical man chances of me sending money to someone I have never met in real life for any reason is about the same as me winning the lottery heh. But I did have some questions.
I have read that to get a Visa to the USA is next to impossible to get is this true?
What are the actual protocols once you both agree its time for her to come to the USA. I mean what kind of hoops are we looking forward to jumping through.
IF I get mail from girls who have been registered on the site for longer than a year are they usually a scam? I have read that once they make the decision to meet someone from abroad they dont waste time and find someone fast and do it.
On Fiance.com it shows how many letters the girls have received if they have hundreds of letter received are they usually scammers?
Chances are I will have more questions later Thanks in advance.
Hey Scott, yes there are real women out there who have decided that they may be willing to leave their great country and life to be with the mate of their dreams. No you do not need to be wealthy, you need to be serious, interesting, somewhat cultured, honest, sincere, and real.
Make a list of the qualities (not physical) of the woman of your dreams. Now the hardest part, is make a list of the qualities of yourself, be honest.
No you never send money until you have met and you both have decided you are made for each other.
Do your homework and, my advice only, do not begin to correspond until you are ready to go there to meet. I say this because if you are a good corresponder and are interesting, you will meet real women right away and within about three months of corresponding, you will need to go meet. None of them, except the scammers, want to correspond forever. They are ready now and you must be also.
Yes very little chance of her obtaining a visa to visit you, so be ready to go meet her. It will be very rewarding on many levels.
Here is a nice blog site with some decent articles about the various parts of the process. Remember there is no one only way to do this; it all depends on the individuals and what is comfortable for both.
http://www.foreignbride101.com/blog.html
If you PM me your email, I'll send you a couple of ebooks that I purchased early on when I began my search a year ago.
I used Elenas Models only and began corresponding with many real women right away. I also encountered some Good Time Girls and a scammer but I had done my homework and was ready for that.
I began my search like you a year ago and started corresponding in October of last year. By Christmas one RW and I decided we were both attracted to each other and agreed to correspond exclusively and to meet. In Feb of this year we met in Kiev and our hearts agreed what our heads had thought, that we were made for each other. Her Embassy interview in scheduled in late Sept. and hopefully by early October we will be together to live the rest of our lives together. In the end there were a handful of fine women who I think I could have had a nice relationship with but I had to say goodbye to them.
Here are some other highly recommended sites:
http://www.freepersonals.ru/
http://www.allsinglerussia ngirls.com/
I never used Fiance.com but it seems to be legit and capable.
These forums on Fiance.com are the last place I would recommend to anyone who wants serious advice on the process. As you can see there are a handful of regulars who have been here quite a while and who always snip and snipe away at each other and gleem at derailing a thread. Sometimes they come up with useful advice but it can be tough to wade through. I would take with a big grain of salt any other their advice or comments. You will know who they are by reading most threads.
Russianmeetingplace forums is very good and populated by some very nice and knowledgeable folks but sadly it is not frequented very much and their visa related information is sadly outdated.
THE PLACE FOR ALL THIS US IMMIGRATION-related is VisaJourney.com
This is the place for all things immigration related. At the top of the page you will find a button named Guides. Read the guides to find out how and what you need to do for any type of visa.
Also go down the main page and find the Russia-Ukraine-Belarus regional forum. Here you will find many folks, including myself, who are either in the process or who have completed the process, both US and FSU. This is where you can find real answers and advice to any part of the process, including how to get started. I frequent this forum daily and come here to Fiance for a few laughs and attempts to offer my experience and advice.
Again, there is no one right way to do this, contrary to what many will make you believe.
To be serious and to find a serious woman requires you to be serious, to work hard at the process, and to visit. You will learn a lot of new things and will meet many fine folks. Hopefully you will find that one special woman who is also destined to meet you.
Baron has given some good advice not sure there is anything I can add. I can be helpfull when you are ready to travel I have contacts in Kiev, Sumy and Yalta.
(As you can see there are a handful who snip and snipe away at each other)
(You my friend are one of the regulars that I talk about.)
So baron555,
Cutting to the chase, eliminating the words of your post included to disguise the message you were putting across, you've been taking snips/snipes at me for some days now so, are you not, you are one of those very individuals that you criticize, that you snip and snipe at other(s).
Pot calling kettle black me thinks and I'm sure others will realise also!
First when you do find the lady to come to the states, don't get sold on those high priced immigration lawyers. There is no mystery to the K1 application in the states. Visajourney.com is a great source for all immigration questions. There are some great folks in the forums there just waiting to help.
Once here there were some guys that got sold on the high priced lawyers. Jetmba pretty much influenced me to do it on my own. I've handled all our immigration issues from K1 to lifting of conditions. It's not rocket science.
Also getting a visa it depends on what Visa you're applying for. Visitors visa, is difficult but not impossible. Though the K1 is much easier.
Fiance.com is a good site. Just because a lady has hundreds of letters doesn't make her a scammer. Agencys have a tendancy to do email blitzes to attract business, whether legit or not. Pay per letter sites are a waste of time and money. Be prepared to make many trips. Especially if you find the right one.
Your job isn't an issue, most ladies are looking for stability. The good ones don't worry about income or never ask about it. The real ones are looking for more than money and a green card.
Don't worry yourself about scammers. If you don't transfer money you won't get scammed. They show their true colors eventually. Enjoy the adventure and don't have great expectations from the beginning. Too many guys here think these ladies are looking for a chance to jump ship and move abroad, that's hardly the case. The good ones will take time in making that decision, they aren't influenced by money or material things. Chances are is she is out of your league at home, she's out of your league in the FSU. I'm not of the mindset of the 20 year age difference. I think that is a recipe for disaster. My wife and I are only seperated by three years. Enjoy it this will be a great adventure for you.
Yes Martin it does seems that I've lowered myself. I'll promise to watch for that and not do it. I'd rather offer my advice and limited experience to the new folks anyway.
Nas is right it is a big decision you will know when she starts to introduce you to her friends and family. she will not bring just any one to meet them because if you or her change your mind she will most likely get the blame for not catching her man. it is common for some but not all to want the stability an older man can offer. from what I have seen on the Russian free sites a 10 year range is normal but not much more than that.