I'm a new member to this forum, but not new to this whole thing. I was married and divorced to a Russian woman. That marriage ended more than a year ago. Unlike others who had bad experience with gold diggers, green card hunters, etc., my case was different. There were mutual feelings very strong in the beginning, but didn't last.
I'm thinking to try again and use my experience from my own mistakes at least in order to find a new woman with (hopefully) more success this time. I want to take my time and ensure that I get to know her very well (and vice versa) before I invite her to my country as a fiancee (possibly spending next summer in Russia or Ukraine).
Do you think I should be upfront in my first letter about having been married to a Russian woman before? or is this going to be a deal-breaker from the get-go?
It may be a deal breaker in the front. But it will eventually have to be shared. Wait until you establish a friendly repoir with someone before you start letting the skeletons out of the closet.
Just my opinion.
Keep the past in the past. Of course be up front about being married before and why it didn't work out (in general terms). Also be honest about any knowledge of the language or past visits and your experiences but only as they relate to your future and maybe the future of the new woman you are corresponding with.
We all have our pasts and hopefully we can learn from them to be a better person, better partner, better lover, however we do not continue to live in the past. A serious woman will want a man who lives and plans for the future.
Interesting baron, it is absolutely true. I just ran into a former at the grocery store. I wasn't sure how I would react. This is the first time I saw her since her very wierd, to say the least, displays of total uncrontolled hatred toward men. Aimed at me of course. Instead of asking her if she was still a f-n c--t I exchanged pleasant greetings and wished her well. She is still as alluring as ever and the heart started pounding for a minute. But sense took over. I feel much better now that I finally had a chance to speak to her face to face. But it is a chapter that has no bearing on my future other than that I have become very cautious about giving myself completely to a woman until I am sure she is normal in every way. A difficult task when dealing with someone 4000 miles away.
So as baron states, just the facts if the suject is brought up. No need to embelish and by no means point fingers. As I said to my future lady. My ex and I parted because it just didn't work out.
Agree with Julian and Baron
These women are very sensitive to prior relationships etc. Best left in the past and not.
When you get to know someone well enough then tell about your past marriage, but don’t go on about it or God 4bid – compare to it with any pending partner !!!!
My Kiev wife and I just arrived back into Kiev yesterday and we were only away for 2 months and honestly – it is so refreshing to see good looking women who are STILL proud to be women and want/enjoy showing off as women.
I honestly think that even with winter cloths on – they look more attractive than they did back in the summer when we were here.
After just 2 months back in New Zealand seeing the appalling sights of women trying to look like men – it’s a pleasure to be back.
What’s happening back in NZ is a bloody disgrace to say the least !!!!!!! Women dress like shit – look like shit and have lost all respect for themselves. They even have TV programs promoting its OK to be overweight now.
I told the story before, but this is the lady that made me go back to FSU one more time and another time after that. I have not been able to find her in any of the sites, but I just googled her and here she is. She was my first visit and was the lady that I left in the middle of the night.
This woman sang the most beautiful songs in Ukrainian (not Russian). I listened to her over and over again for the longest time. She sang the best waltz song I ever heard. I just had to have them translated.
Don't let her pictures fool you. These pictures were taken in her late twenties or early thirties. She was 38 when I visited her and she is now 40.
There is no point in bringing up the issue of my previous marriage unless I get serious with one of these ladies. I will take my time and not rush into anything this time. Many ladies look attractive, but compatibility can be a problem and you won't know it until you live together.
I only met my ex-wife once before she arrived to my country. This won't happen again.