This is a tough situation. On the other side of the coin is if she says she fears for her life, it could be true. The judges can't take that chance. It is the shelters who make a living out of these clients with government funds.
This is not just FSU, Ivor. FSU is a very small percentage of the women that go through there. Many are not immigrants at all. They don't need to read a textbook. They just need to find and go to the shelters. The shelters know what to do and what to say to get a client and get the government funds.
We were married 3 months before she went on vacation to Ukraine for 3 months so 6 before she disappeared and almost a year before marriage annulment was complete. I started annulment proceedings shortly after she disappeared serving her through local publication (published it in the local newspaper 3 weeks in a row). If she knew about it she did not make an appearance. In that respect she got nothing.
The judge had jurisdiction only in one county in Nebraska. She had no jurisdiction over allegations in Kansas. My x wife testified there was no contact after she left. She testified she was lying about many of the allegations. My x-wife testified she was scared for hers and her sons life every day she was with me yet she brought him back into that situation after being out of harms way in Ukraine for 3 months.
You may think the judge is innocent but I think they are knowingly aiding and abetting in fraud. Unless they are operating on the theory we need to convict all men to make sure we get the ones that are abusers.
I know some legitimate battered women. And they are perhaps even more bitter than the men about this fraud. This is completely cheapening them. Police do not take RO's seriously support meant to help is kicking them down in the mud.
I do not know a single battered woman. I do know one who actually needed a bat upside her head. But I just kept it cool ( she was from Pittsburgh). What part of Kentucky are you from anyway? It seems to me you need to go on Jerry Springer. That will bring justice to the situation.
Sorry it went bad. But all in all, it seems this story is no different from any Springer episode. And I am a big fan - never miss it.
Mr. Oz, I think they are operating on a premise of convicting all men to get the ones that are abusers. While the abusers, real or otherwise, use the defense that if they are abused, why did they come back, there are reasons to come back - no place to go, no money, the kid misses him....
There have been cases when the woman said she will get killed, but she came back and therefore, noone believed her and she got killed. Even if the judges don't believe her, how can the judge live with the decision if he sides with an "abuser" and she gets killed? Unfortunately there are lawyers like Gloria Allred out there and Gloria Allred wannabees who will side with the woman no matter what.
It is an expression that someone needs 'a bat upside the head'. The fact that a woman made up stories and lied for reasons you cannot possibly understand is no reason for you to try to engage me in a dialogue of insults. The fact that I did not in any way cause harm, real or imagined, to said woman underlines my character. The fact that her family and I together all tried to get her professional help underlines my character. The fact that you can lead a horse to water but you cannot make him drink should surely give you something else to think about.
Do not make assumptions, accusations or otherwise try to demean my comment with no knowledge of its origins or facts.
p.s. This is not an attack. I am merely pointing out that for some reason you insist on hounding me for no apparent reason. Let it go.
"Do not make assumptions, accusations or otherwise try to demean my comment with no knowledge of its origins or facts."
And you have not done that? At least I will tell you what I am talking about. You just go into other threads and go after me without telling me why, along with cuss words and name calling. The fact that her family and yours tried to get her help does not underline your character. Your role in it would, but that could be little or none at all. You could be in it just because they were. It is a terrible expression. If you were intent of helping her, why would you use it?
It is not without reason and you know it. Anyone in this forum who is paying attention knows it. At least you now know how it is to be hounded. I have not hounded until you start it. That's all I am asking. Don't start it.
to say someone needed "a bat upside the head" ten years after you have no idea where this person is is just what it is. expressing disgust for the past behaviors of someone. and as I said before, you have no idea what I am talking about or the circumstances surrounding it. I should just be a grown up and ignore the last post but it does bring to light the fact that another will insist on debating something he has no knowledge of. zero - zilch - nada!
zero-zilch-nada, and don't address me as Ralph please. It's Mr. 29 or you can call me Superman.
We just watched that old movie. Sappy one liners throughout. But I did get a laugh when Lois asked Superman if he had a name. He said, "Do you mean like Ralph or something?"
Your insistence to belabor this has grown old grasshopper. I suggest you focus on yourself for a bit. I understand some of us are easier targets >less tolerant of your rubbish< than others. And that you need your fix to get into it with anyone. Take a trip to Tijuana and let loose for a change. Spend a few pesos, get drunk and laid. Much cheaper than FSU. And you can take the bus the whole way. Take a refrigerator or two along while you're at it.