I am a 26 year old guy who is a waiter at a mid-scale restaurant. (make 28000 after taxes) I met a 20 year old Ukrainian girl (born Russia) this past summer while she was in the U.S. (work/exchange). I have known her and been dating her for 8 months 6 of which we have actually spent together 4 months in U.S. and 2 in Kyiv. We plan to be married in a year....questions......do you think this is too fast? does she JUST want to leave Ukraine? Is 28000 too little to live on (major metro area)(she will have a job too but will also make 25000 range)? Will this marriage crumble?
no more (statically) than any other marriage. and the answer is maybe. if you can differentiate infatuation from love and friendship, then you have a chance. many marry young and enjoy 50 years of bliss. most last about 6-7 years. many more crumble after ten of fifteen. it all depends...
26 and 20 is a reasonable age difference, but you have not known her that long. We do know much of about each of your characteristics. If she is opportunistic girl then she will most likely leave you after she receives permanent residence. Girls that know their worth will not settle for a waiter. What do you expect to change within 4 years time?
If this girl is not high demand person and willing to work to keep up your budget,then I don't see any reason why this marriage should not work. In our 20's we like guys for their "blue eyes"and ready to fall in love just because of that, and in our 40's we more tend to like for their thick wallets and it still not enough to fall, lol...
I agree with "Ralph29" and "dansing", your age difference is perfect and you must search your heart to see if you really love this girl? If you love her and feel she love you, the marrige between you and her stand as good a chance as any! But why dont you trust her?? Do you receive some signals from her that she only wants your help to leave Ukraine?? I have known a couple of Ukrainian girls, without falling in love (one of them for 2 years), and none of them was very busy leaving Ukraine! (And I live only 2 hours flight from Kiev). They both wanted me to move to Ukraine, but I didn't want that!!! So I don't think most Ukrainians are desperat leaving their country, family and friends. But if you have any feelings that you should not marry her, then don't (But you risk she lose patients with you if you want to have a longdistance relationship for several years). Good luck!