I have a concern if a woman ive met on-line is for real. we have no other communication except through her public library. Been corresponding for 1 month. She's said that she loves me, and wants to be with me. told me about her family. provided me her address, sends multiple photos with every email. she has no cell phone, no personal computer. it seems like a very real possible thing, but am still unsure.
its easy to scam anyone when you have never experienced their world.
its also a time thing with the writing, little things just dont add up real quick.
as your post of concern demonstrates, she or he actually has given you all the necessary lies to see its a scam..
you should run with it to see how they pull to money soon, good exercise for you and that style of writing will be more noticeable in the future.
you will start to see in the letters theres no substance actually to their writings,,, lot of garbal.
that word "love" either shes mental or they are hoping you are very gullible.
she has "no computer no phone" but "lots of photos" so she has a camera but no phone, strange girl??
they all have phones by the way.
most dont have librarys like us in small towns with computers, possibly saw that on a western film or she or he lives just down the road from you, or did.
public computers in many parts of russia and ukraine i have found are never free and can be rather expensive so using a computer and having no phone doesn't make any sense if the library thing was actually real.
cell phones can cost as little as 3 cents a minute for local calls in some parts.
its a time thing.
They do have computers in library's for use free of charge for people who live in the city of the library. it is common for some one to have more than one phone since you only call people who use the same service such as MTC or life.
Back in time, there were phone kiosks serving a block of Soviet apartment buildings. Now, mobile phones are so prevalent that most are closed. My lady uses the last of these in the city center (Small city in Ukraine) to telephone her sister in Russia. That is also in the past since I set her up with Skype. Calling Moscow or St. Pertersburg is cheap. She can also call my phone in the U.S. about a penny a minute, if I telephone her mobile, it is about 25 cents a minute. I put credit on her account as needed. There were advantages to this that will go unstated.
Bowhunter: I have only seen "Internet Cafe's" and never a library with a computer. Sad, but there are few services available. Where do you find them? Some of the new people can use this options to vet their ladies of interest.
To the OP-- everything she has said is possible--it may be true.I do not care what others here have said--I know of cases exactly like you describe.The phone is questionable-- but not impossible.
Money can be extremely tight.
Given that-- all the other caveats apply.Keep your wits about you
It is absurd to beleive that someone loves you after a few letters. Any woman that is posting legitimately on an international dating site has entered not by accident. People of the FSU are not as open to strangers as people from the west and for good reason. They are secretitive and stoic even among themselves. If she is telling you she loves you then she is very very young and silly or "he" thinks you are a mark. If I was going to continue any more, then I would send a $10 Moneygram and have her use it to have a Skype video call. It will cost you $15 buy your time is worth more and she will have to use an ID to recieve the money. If she recieves the money and you don't get what you expect post her name and info. Many of us have traveled to the FSU only to be stood up at the airport. It is quite likely that was the plan all along. I cancelled a trip to Sumy for just this reason. ANother man posting here and I were to share a taxi. At the last minute the woman he was to meet wanted to meet at the airport alone with him. I cancelled, warned him,,,,, and he got stood up. Be strong, make arrangements and have stated expectations. Be professional with the agencies.
Danny,, I probably only met one ďPro Daterď, and it is the one I call my Ex. I found out a lot about her, all bad! The rest were just pawns of the agencies,,, seat fillers at restaurants! Time wasters!
You know,,, not finding anyone is the second best choice,,,, finding the wrong person is the worst!!
Iím not desperate to find anyone, I could have done that many times. I have had the opportunity to start a relationship with women I have met several times, I chose not to!
The interpreter in Tver wanted to have relations with me, I did not encourage it. We spent a lot of time together, went out for 2 to 3 meals a day, movies, tours, etc,,,, I liked her,, but that was it. She kept asking me if I would want someone who was 32 with a child?? I told her; I wanted to start a family,,, not marry one. I think it was on the 2nd from last day there, she asked me again,,, then took my hands in hersí and held them up at our chests,,,,, stepped closer while looking into my eyes,,,, and said; How about someone like me??? I will never forget the look in her eyes,,,, and I had to tell her,,,, no!
Donít tell me that I canít find anyone,,, because Iíve already had the chance!!
Sumy is a small city but the library has free access to internet. My wife uses skype to call her mother in a village, the internet is not as good in the village but its free for her to call. There are quite a few parks in Kyiv that now offers free WI-Fi along with McDonald's.