My question is why not Hugh Hefners Playboy mansion not being targeted since he is a dirty old man marrying beautiful women who would be his granddaughters age(everyone cheers him on and wishes they were hin) or is it that society says that well, its only an entitlement for the rich and that is when it is INDEED accepted by society but not for the older men who simply cant find love with their hard earned money.Are the men looking seem stupid or is it the women looking back at them not normal or both ? Who is to say these men in these photos are not normal nice people who simply did not win the genetic gene lotto and have a tuff time in life because of it.People feel only beautiful people can be with beautiful people. There is a huge double standard being displayed here .
I suppose that almost anyone looking at those photos will immediately form all sorts of judgments about the people shown there. That is, folks will believe that they know many things about them, beyond what they look like and the setting presented by the article and the photos themselves -- they'll believe that they know what kinds of people they are, what their motivations and feelings are, etc. etc.
Any "couple" with a big difference tends to get very strong reactions, even more so when the older one isn't wealthy, famous, or otherwise distinguished in some way that most people recognize. Certainly, when I looked at the pictures, I had many "stories" in my head about both the men and the women.
Such stories are pictures from INSIDE THE HEAD OF THE OBSERVER. They don't determine reality! Our guesses may be more or less correct -- but probably not one of us knows any of those individuals at all. So a presentation like that article is an inkblot test; what we see when we look at it tells about US, not about the people depicted.
We will interpret according to our preconceived notions. For example, if someone has decided that such women (and indeed, women in general) are the innocent victims of exploitative men ... then that person will read the article and say, "look how those nasty old men are using those poor women!" (For more examples of how any and all data can get filtered through personal prejudice, look at the gun control thread on this forum.)
Sunvolt, your perspective is thoughtful, and compassionate.
I haven't been to any FSU social, and don't plan to. When I looked at the article, I imagined how uncomfortable I would feel in the setting depicted there.
Sunvolt,,, I suppose in a perfect world, age and wealth shouldn’t mean anything,,,, but we don’t live in a perfect world.
Hugh Hefner is rich and famous,,, the girls who frolic around his mansion are being paid. All of his wives are being paid,,,, and most likely a lot of his ex-wives. Being his girlfriend or wife is a career move,,, he is a stepping stone for most of them. Take away his money, fame and the Playboy mansion,, would these women still flock to him?? I don’t think so. I wonder how often he has thought about it that way??
I had known of Hefner by reputation for many years, before I first saw him on TV (I don't remember when, maybe the late 80s?). What really impressed me about him, was how ill-at-ease he seemed -- not at all comfortable in his own skin (this was before he looked like an old man).
Of course, the "playboy" name was supposed to describe Hefner -- the rich, always-confident easy-going man who lives the working-class slob's idea of the "good life." It looked to me like he was trying to act the part, but didn't feel it.
Durak,,, you are making all sorts of judgments too.
I DIDN’T form any new opinions after looking at those photos! I’ve been to a social, I’ve talked with people in person,,,, men and women. I’ve watched other videos in the past,, mostly advertisements FOR romance socials. They’ve stopped advertising and recruiting “suitable” men for husbands, and have gone into the “good time” business.
My opinion of both the men and women is very low. The men think they are “god’s gift” and plan to get lucky. The women hope to reap the benefits of having rich men drunk. It’s a business!!
The group that I went with way back in 1998, seemed to be a much better group than we see today. The business wasn’t so commercialized like it is today.
The oldest guy of my group was 70! He might have been the nicest guy too,,, and he met a very nice lady. I hope all went well with them?! A few others were there because no decent women here would have them.
To answer sunvolt's question: the difference is Hugh acknowledges along with everyone else that the girl is with him because of fame and money......while most going to FSU to find a PYT, thinks the girl is truly into him.....huge difference!!!