Btb,,, is this chat a pay by the minute chat?? If the chat is “lousy” it is most likely because they are chatting with numerous men simultaneously! Are her fingers busy, but yet so little is being sent??
Get her fb, Vk, or email address,,, and if she won’t do it,,, don’t spend another wad of cash on her!
I do not think the age difference, where girls of 19-20 are involved is the problem per se. The problem with these girls is that I do not think these girls have had enough experience of life in their own country and with local men, to be sure that marrying a foreigner and going to live in his country is what they really want. Add to this their lack of knowledge of the West.
This will apply even to a 19-20 year old girl marrying a 25 year old Westerner.
Of older girls, later in their twenties, thirties and forties most of the ones looking for a man abroad have already had so many disappointments with men in their country and their life in general that they think: "I have had enough, I am finding a foreigner and marrying him so that he takes me with him to his country"
Then again, a girl of 23 who got married at 19 and has a baby can be more experienced and mature than a spolit 35 year old who has never married and has no children.
I always ask girls, of any age, to tell me about their past relationships, to have an idea of their experience.
I also had that suspicion about multiple chatters at the same time. The chat is supposed to be software translated if the lady cannot write English. But when several men invite her to video chat, does she then open multiple windows to respond to each man like on a queue?
Dcguy,,, I haven’t chatted on a pay site since 2010,,,, and it was on A-Web. Back then, a little box for each girl would open in the bottom left or right side of the screen. All you did was to click on the girl you wanted to chat with,,,, and then click on the next one if you wanted to switch.
I have done video chat, but not on this site. The other site showed a timer in the upper corner of the screen to let you know how many minutes were left. If you wanted to stop the chat, you could exit out and then start a new one with another girl using the remaining time in your account. In that scenario, you could not chat with multiple people at the same time.
dcguy: You got it: "someone who just has nothing to really say " and "getting you to rack up credit fees for chat". I don't know how they get paid, but there is a real incentive for them to stay on paid chat rather than go to Skype or Yahoo. I still have not got one of them to break the "code of silence" around how it works.
The few who asked if I have a Skype or Yahoo chat or other IM chat programs, never give me their registration ID. There are some who just want to get you to go to pay chat service and not to do any text or emails. Since the majority of the ladies are from an agency and not independent, I am guessing that the agency is behind it all. If the lady is just using this site for supplemental income as the primary objective, then getting as many customers to correspond with them will be the priority for them.
Note that Tom Shea said that the lady who he married never asked him to go to pay chat service and eventually stopped using this site to correspond. That, at least, shows a willingness to skip the profit motive avenue.
I noticed that on this site, I got a video chat invitation and then within a few seconds, it was removed from the pop window on my screen. When I went to check on the profile that sent the invitation, it showed the status as "busy" which probably means that someone else had accepted the invitation, so her invitation to me was cancelled. That implies that you cannot have multiple chats with several people at the same time.
One of the ladies on this site sent me a video link (which requires payment to view). She then made a comment if I had money to view it. My guess is that customers who pay to view it will send some kind of update to the profile of how many have responded (and the implication is that she gets a "cut" of the money.
"I noticed that on this site, I got a video chat invitation and then within a few seconds, it was removed from the pop window on my screen. When I went to check on the profile that sent the invitation, it showed the status as "busy" which probably means that someone else had accepted the invitation, so her invitation to me was cancelled. That implies that you cannot have multiple chats with several people at the same time."
I think the problem is men believing that attractive genuine girls would bother to pester any strange man to speak to her on video. I struggle with some of the genuine girls to come to the video camera, even the ones who are really interested in me.
I have spotted three reasons why genuine girls are reluctant to come to the webcam:
1- Some of them think it is undignified to be scrutinised by men on video.
2- Others know that the webcam is unflattering and they will not look as good as their well selected photos on their profile.
3- Their English is not good and the man will realise it is not like on the messages thet got translated by a friend or which were translated with an online translator or which they spent a good while writing carefully.
A girl I have spoke about in these forums had reasons 2 and 3 in being reluctant to come to the webcam. I reassured her that she is beautiful and that I understand her English is basic, then she came back to the webcam again.
I also hate to see myself in the little window when speaking to the girls on Skype.
The agency girls using the agency video cam will have all the studio lighting, coaching and other help.
“All you did was to click on the girl you wanted to chat with,,,, and then click on the next one if you wanted to switch.”
Danny reposted a bunch of quotes,,, but forgot to use quotation marks!
I recognize my own and remember why I wrote it. We were comparing the way chat works on different websites!
I can count the times that I chatted on one hand,,,, which would be 5 times or less danny!
While waiting for my ex to get done with work,,, I burnt up about 350USD worth of credits. I didn’t plan on asking for a refund,, so I just used them, and haven’t chatted since.
You mean that you continued the video chat connection even while the lady was working? Could you not have just disconnected and resumed after she said that she had finished? I've only spent about $70 in video chat so far and I think that is quite a bit high already.
Same thing just happened a moment ago. A lady invited me to video chat and then the invitation disappeared in a few seconds and when I looked at the profile, it said "occupied" and to instead set up a chat for another time.