I don't thing she was a scammer....more like a pro-dater even though she turn out to be close to my age group...but you were right! On the manipulation and Reverse Psychology...
I let her Manipulate at to certain point since it was a win-win situation...but, once she tried to push the envelope with Harakter, that's went I pressed the Control Alt delete ....then she used Reverse Psychology to justify her materialistic intentions and blamed me for been a loser on my previous relationships....WTF.... From that point, it was too easy to terminate... Mybe for some none-nuts, it could had been hard to let go a tall solid 7 with a Latin figure.
Dcguy,,, first off,,, many guys here might only know ďMoyaĒ,, and it was not her.
This other person was not hidden, she conversed with many guys on many subjects. She sounded okay in her stories,,, and right here in the open I asked her to send me her AOB id no. to have a look. I didnít expect to get it,,, but it appeared a few days later in my Pm. Our communication was okay,,, but she kept after me to write on AOB. Why not fb, vk or email,,, the reasons for why not was her internet connection. And if anyone is thinking,,, that maybe she only had internet at her agency,,,,, perhaps,,, if it was a 24/7 agency?? She was online for 2 to 6+ hours each day,,, and any hour of the night and early morning. I still get chat invites from her! I donít pay for chat!!
It really irked me,, that someone would want to leave a free means of communication,,, and go for 4 to 7USD each way letter writing. I just stopped writing,,,, and two weeks later,,, I get like a Dear John letter from her. She was the one leaving??? I didnít even send a reply.
If a guy really wants to cater to this type of woman,,,, install a ring in your nose and wear a blindfold!!
Well, many ladies and I ask each other about previous relationships. In my view, it is helpful to know what went wrong and what we have learned for our future relationships. But when one or the other do not want to speak about it, we should not push it.
I get a lot of that from profiles on this site. Constant requests for videochat (it is only free with ladies who have private email). Some do not write any messages and just keep inviting me to video chat. I even get video chat requests from a lady who has air time between 11 PM to 3 AM their time. I did not think they people there would be online at those hours of the night? Sometimes I wonder if the agency is sending the invitiations.
I have several contacts who so far have only responded through the "pay per letter" type of communication. They say that they do not have a computer and go through the agency. I am only giving them a few more responses and if nothing else is available, I am going to just stop writing (these ladies have advanced English ability).
It didn't helped! It just gives ammunition to fire back when attitudes , morals and points of view don't come to an agreement. Plus, a gentleman would not talk badly of other ladies. I learned that they, the ladies, don't care. I don't ask about " why are you single" ? Some things are between me and my maker.
On AOB,,, they let a guy open one new intro per day for free,,, then on occasions they will give some free credits. Iíve been running on 3 credits for the last 3 or 4 years,, and have built up 26 free intro credits. Other than that,,, nothing is free on AOB.
I have some 1250 letters and 440 chat requests over a 60 day period. I actually get 10 to 30 requests per day,,, but the list updates itself,,, no one is listed twice.
The only thing the chat requests do for me,,, is to let me know of 440 women that I would never bother with!
I do not have a obesity problem. In fact, I am quite a bit underweight for my height. A lot of the FSU profiles say they want a strong man and a protector.
From the beginning on several pay per letter sites such as Jump4love, DreamMarriage, DreamRussianWoman, etc., I would get a lot of messages every day. I never replied to any of them and only opened those messages that were free. Now it seems after registering for several months and only using any paid services, the messages are starting to slow down dramatically.
I must agree with the fortune teller turned radio enthusiastic. Obesity is an epidemic in the western world but not in eastern Europe. A fit guy may have better chances but he is considered a toy boy only for fun time; however, this includes westerners like us trying to be a good pretender! Most regular westerners I had observed were in good shape....
Take care of your health and appearance, don't sale yourself short.
I think you are referring to "potbelly"? Men tend to add weight in the front torso area. Women tend to add weight to the hips area. So men bulge out just above the waistline while women bulge out along the sides of the waistline. Over 10 years ago, I sort of started to develop a little potbelly myself and my pants started to not fit right, then my weight gain revered and now all of my pants fit fine. I did not exercise or change my diet. However, my daily awake/sleep cycle was disrupted because of a family situation and that may have contributed to my weight loss.
I have come across many ladies who say that go to the gym (some are into aerobics), go hiking, go camping, go swimming, go biking, go horse riding, jog a lot, play sports, etc. Maybe I am looking at the wrong profiles?
And also note that many of the profiles say they are into exercise to stay fit. The inference is that they are not going to develop into a "fat broad" later. Now whether this is true or not, only time will tell.
"Plus, a gentleman would not talk badly of other ladies"
Well, you see that is the problem, 99% of people (mostly men) think it was their previous partner that was entirely to blame for the end of the relationship. I am talking about the other 1% who will admit to having aa share in the blame and who can honestly tell a new lady that they have learned their lesson. They do not need to just 'talk badly of other ladies' to talk about their experience in previous relationships.
Last night I spent a couple of hours looking at photos on Vk,,,,, and never before have I seen such a bunch of heifers!! Lol Wedding photos, and photos from the previous 3 years. Americans donít have a monopoly on letting themselves go after marriage.
I was doing some of my investigating, when I started to get interested in a Ukrainian wedding. OUCH! It looks like a torturous ordeal?! It is also a place where all the single women come to,,,, and everyone one is dressed up in their 1970ís Pamida collection attire.
Nobody is perfect! For most men at my age and foward dating / courtship is a business ordeal not a vacation escape.( For a quick fun time; there are plenty escort services with happy endings here! In the States, this illegal and very expensive) I got no skills for saling the best of me and show them my potential...I hate this games... Once I passed the introduction, my step is show and take what kind of man I am...She can take me by acting like a lady or she can drop me by acting like a prostitute. Notice that most women are good teasers...on the other hand mate..,Like or not, we are being judged, prejudiced and stereotyped. Being 1% candid will discourage a genuine lady for taking a chance on me. I had taken responsibility for my mistakes, I don't pass them to anyone else. My short falls may not be a deal breaker for that particular woman.... Towe of London canceled :(
Any woman will eventually find out who you really are but at the same time I will agree that there is no point in putting yourself down, you want to show them the best of you.
In my case, for instance, I tell ladies that lack of communication destroyed my marriage. I am sending a message that I do not want someone who sulks and builds up steam anylonger (that could have been me too). I am not necessarily critising my ex-wife and I am not putting myself down either.