I have been dating a Ukrainian girl for 2 years, love of my life, and sadly, from nowhere seemingly things have broken down
I'm still trying to get over things, I've never felt such magic before, but seems she thinks she can't see how the practicality of it will work
Anyway, I'm hoping that over time I'll get better, and be able to eat and sleep normally again
I now am looking for love again with a Ukrainian or Russian girl. I have never really liked girls from the UK, and they seemingly are not attracted to me. I love the way eastern European girls are feminine, take care of themselves, like you to be the man, and strange as it seems, I like the way they can be a little aloof about emotions etc
So I'm wondering the best way to find a girl from one of these countries. I'm still looking on topface, but that's a real gamble, I'm sure hundreds of guys message the girls there every day
I've heard about some people having success on VK, anyone had experience with this?
I am not a player, I just hope to find that special one. I really thought I had until a month or so ago, but I can't give up
You can try VK. If you have some specific hobbies, find the groups on these topics in VK, look through the list of the participants.
But I think that the most effective way would be to come to the country, where you want to find a girlfriend and to spend some time there. Go to concerts, parties (by the way you can find them in VK or on Facebook). If you want to meet really interesting people, come to the art-cafes and anti-cafes (they became very popular in Ukraine and you can find them almost in all cities). Every evening there are some cultural or educational events, like watching movies in English, playing games, talking about cinema/art/books, language courses, talking clubs etc.
In summer there are a lot of festivals all over Ukraine. There you can meet sincere people enjoying their time. It's a completely different experience comparing to dating with girls from the marriage agencies.
I just gave you examples, where you can get acquainted with people:)
If you like art - try to visit an exhibition of some local painters. As I have already mentioned, there are foreign language clubs, art-cafes. Some people meet their future wives/husbands while jogging in the park, some in the airplane, some in the hospital. It can happen anywhere... mostly not there, where you're searching.
I have said it before but will repeat it. Even though clubs, parties, museums and places like these in Ukraine are good for meeting women, the difference with dating sites for foreigners is that in the latter the women have already set their minds on finding a foreign man and go to live abroad with him. Most men have the entirely wrong idea that almost all women in the Ukraine will want to go to live abroad and leave behind their families, friends, job, culture, places they know etc. In fact, only a very small proportion of women want to go abroad and almost all of them are in the dating sites...
I have many Ukrainian and Russian Facebook friends. I get on very well with them and none has ever given me any indication that they would want romance with me (or the other Western men they are connnected to)
I think that VK is for local Ukrainian and Russian friends.
So the big disappointment for the men would be: they meet a lovely girl in a museum (assuming some lovely local girl even wants to talk to some older foreign man), they ask her out, they form a kind of relationship, then they find out that the girl has no intention to marry a foreigner and go to live abroad.
Of course, a man who has already decided to move to the Ukraine, may get lucky and settle there with a lovely Ukrainian girl.
The paranoid people in Britain assumed that the whole of Eastern Europe would want to come and live here, when their countries joined the EU. In fact, of the few that have come here, most end up going back to their countries.
If you are in Europe chances are you don’t need to fly out use a dating site and good luck. But if you do fly out, is a bit under 3 hrs. flight …. Options… on short stay hit the club and “get lucky” ( look out for western haters and hater aides, or on long visit, stay at a sanatory and enjoy it, meet up with locals and other visitors..( guesses at these premises could be married but traveling alone, they are trying ” to get lucky”. ) if she speaks English, you are not lucky are getting a bit more commom.
That 17 to 21 hour duration flight from the Midwest to Kiev is a real bummer. The ocean flight is always 8 to 10 hours depending of which EU country it’s going to. After a few hours of not being able to move around, I’m getting stir crazy. I’d rather drive for the 17 hours,,,, like for my hunting trips.
Janne - it is a valid question you made because some guys who are chatting with someone online actually think they are "dating". I've even heard one guy refer to the person he was chatting with as his girlfriend even though he had never actually met 'her' in person.
Many of these sites that offer chat and correspondence is actually fabricated - you're chatting and corresponding with a chat operator. When you get serious and want to come the girl suddenly disappears or becomes unavailable.
So you guys can get some clarifying, here's a post I saw from Jools:
"I saw her every couple of months, we talked all day every day on a messenger app, and we skyped at least a few times a week
We usually spent a week together, a couple of occasions for 2 weeks
Every time we met was better than the time before.
I think the problem was leaving her Mum as they are very close, then I was going through a lot of stress with moving house then renovating the house I am in now, so maybe didn't pay her enough attention. The troubles in her country also worry her greatly. i would have relocated there, but I think it's already gone past that point
it was true love for us both, I have no doubt in that, but she closed up to me and pulled away. She's a thinker, I mean she thinks all the time, and has bouts of depression, so I think it was bad timing with me moving, the troubles in Ukraine etc
Anyway, I am trying my best to move forward even though she's all I think about, I need to get my life moving again, and hopefully find love"