I start by saying that I did not start this thread to discuss the politics, who shot the airliner, who are the goodies or the baddies, what the reports of military intelligence are, who is winning or who is losing, who is at fault, etc. I hope I have made that clear.
This is about how the war is affecting ladies looking for a husband abroad and what they have got to say about it.
I am in touch with a number of ladies in the war zones, through the dating site and Facebook. I will say that I do believe their sad stories, however my rule of not sending money prevents me from helping any of them.
Half of the population in Donetsk has left, both side are shelling the civilian areas. There are more casualties among civilians than among fighters. Economy in ruins.
1- FB friend in Donetsk: She does not go out, she stays at home except for going to church and shopping. She is religious and attends a church for service and voluntary work. She knows how bad it is and says that the church will help her if things get even worse but who will help the church? She has been offered a house in Croatia, by another FB friend, which is empty, for her and her parents to go and live there while things get better but she will not go.
2- Desperate young girl in Donetsk. Apart from her personal problems losing a baby, being left by boyfriend, etc. She cannot find work and earn a living, she does not have relatives to help her. She is frightened to go out too. I asked her to move to another part of Ukraine but she tells me she does not even have money to rent a room and then go out to find work. She has not asked me for money but was sad when I told her could not send her any. I believe all her stories about fear, work and money at least.
3- Mother of 2 near Luhansk. I complimented her saying that she must be a good mother and she told me she was a terrible mother as she cannot take her children to safety and she is unemployed. She obviously joined the site to find a foreigner to get her out of there. I told her that if this was her idea it was OK but at least she should love the man who gets her out of there.
4- Teacher in Luhansk, has one son. Gets bad pay as a teacher. We started communicating before the problems started in Kiev last year. She has never asked for money or help. Since then the war reached her region and then she started with sad stories so I believe her as she had never told me anything of the kind before.