I will make this quick. Went out with a girl for 2 and half years. We did so many things together and even talked very seriously about marriage. I guess I waited too long and she ended it.
Time frame and ages: (she was 19-22 during this and I was 25-28). We went on many trips together both in the U.S.A. and international to other countries.
Anyway it has been almost 3 years since we broke up, in fact she has gotten married since then. But ever since we broke up we always remained friends and talked on the phone and even exchanged gifts. Her husband is rich. They have a child a couple years old.
So my question is, why when I talk to her on the phone now....or email her....and the conversation sometimes gets back to a memory to one of our trips....
why do I always think to myself that I want her to remember our previous trips and even want her to say sometimes how great that trip was and how much fun they were???????
Of course she now goes on trips with her husband. It is almost like, I still want to be the one who she shares great trips with. And memories of previous trips are the only link to that. So I want her to remember and sometimes say how great and how much fun those past trips that we took together were......
I don't know if this is the forum for this Thank you very much
Also, she is doing something very wrong keeping in touch with an old flame. She should move on too. Doesn't she realise that one meeting to have a drink with you, for old time sake, will end up in you two together in bed? And why do you keep touch with her?
Why the hell is she talking on the phone with you regularly!?
If she does not have the dignity to end all contact with you, you have it and end it yourself.
What is it that you want out of this? I will tell you what: defeat her rich husband and get her back in bed, that is what.
Leave her alone, she has a husband and a child!!! There are zillions of single and willing FSU girls out there!
phone calls, emails, exchanged gifts....sigh
Does her husband know about all this? My guess is no. And if he does, the idiot should have the balls to protect his child and get you away from her.
its highly likely money won the day here,,, more so then you think joey.
if you think you waited to long you are crazy,,, money just has more pull to some.
have you not heard if its to be it will be!
whats a bet she was playing two sides of the fence all them short years ago when you were supposedly together at some whatever point.
easy game when one lives in another country, kind of like now:)
i wouldnt give a toss of the other guy myself, he knows or new who you were at the time i am sure,, one of the party's involved always dose.
he just played a better card,, that love and war sort of thing.
but theres a kid there now, you think about what you are doing, and be sure of it.
Why do stupid adults think these games are among themselves only, when there are small children that will get hurt, but they think of the kid was a family car? Pathetic.
Children should be removed from people like this, especially that woman.
I have corresponded with a few foreign women who later got married and have children now. I am cordial with them and just send them a Xmas card every year. I do not hark into the past with them. Even though one of the women was very serious with me, we are just now on friendly social terms and nothing more.
I know what you are saying but it is evident thay joey is trying to get that silly woman back into bed with him.
Still, I do not even speak to my ex at all and we got divorced only a year ago. I was just talking to a Ukrainian lady friend on Skype. I mentioned my ex and worried her, she said: "Trying to forget someone you love is like trying to remember someone you never met, let you past be your past"
And I immediately noticed her concern so I told her I do not love me ex at all! Better not to talk about the ex altogether, it makes girls think that you still want your ex back.
I would like to say that:
1.) I am not trying to break up the marriage.
2.) She is not trying to break up the marriage.
3.) The child is very well looked after by both parents and there is no issue there.
4.) I am merely saying I want to remain good friends with her (friends exchange gifts all the time).
I am just saying that for me I want to figure out how to be friends while not feeling like I am missing something with her that is from the prior relationship!
THERE IS NO CHEATING GOING ON HERE!!!! WE ARE FRIENDS NO CHEATING IS HAPPENING. It is not wrong!!!!!!
yeah right "joey" also slang for a bloody good sized whatsit did ya know.
so what you are asking, can you or can you not trust your inner feelings around this girl yes??
the answer is...
joey" which incidentally can also be slang for young stud muffin whom very little of the feminine world can resist did ya know.
just stick your sizable whatsit in some snatch 50 odd times and all your world of confusement will be removed to a enlightenment guaranteed.
i'm a 100% sure of this.
it will take you from your world of juvenility' (juvenility also has a relation to "joey" yes) to a world of having a great freedom, i mean a get out of jail card from passed inner confused feelings while you indulge and participate in the monopoly circle of life of many a virtuous guy girly adult stuff.
so interesting your whatsit could also be under nourished here, you been a little juvenile,, which could explain a lot of this who ha,, for many a young mans brains are actually in his balls, and if ya balls dont get fed the hunger effect of such can effect other thoughts.
by the way, who ha" is a womans private part or sensitive area between her thighs, "who ha" but we use it as slang for a "bloody big drama" down here which i'm sure you would agree they are that at times yes.
but joey been overly juvenile is a righteous path to manhood so dont threat it, some of us take a little longer to grow a ball or two or just mature.
by the way theres nothing "wrong" with cyber sex either.
i also learnt that on here.
"missing something",,, really dude.
if you are for real, the answer to all is nothing special but living and getting on with ya own life which means for you to start playing with another tickler, growler or for you none slang minded, the sensitive area between a females thighs and stop been hung up on your passed desires or what ever it is you believe you are missing, and understanding what exactly friendship means..
or maybe you just need to be told from somebody else to go and grow a bloody pair, or just harden up, and welcome to manhood.
Kiwi,,,, I wasn’t following this link very much, and had no reason to think that it could be bogus. The name or term “joey” has no special meaning to me other than being a name,, and I have never heard anyone else use it for anything different. But when you wrote: “if you are for real” it got me thinking.
On a big island to your west,, there is a delusional sub-human being that has had email addresses named: superdong and snapper and who knows what else.
With all of the new user names popping up,,, you can never be sure of who is real,, and who is just f-ing with us to waste time.
I read your post last night and was going to reply to it then,,,, but changed my mind and decided to wait and see who turns up?!! Well,,,, no surprise!
This is NOT a bogus post. I am posting it here just to receive some feedback. All I am asking and what I suppose I should realize is that I should be able to remain friends with her but I should also not be hung up on her.
1.)DON'T be hung up on her
2.)It is the past, and whether or not she remembers the great times we had or the connection I thought we had it doesn't matter as much now.
3.)I guess that is what my thing is...her remembering the great times we had, I don't know why I care or why it matters........
I do not see why anybody would waste time with a bogus post that will not generate money or anything like that.
So joey boy, if you have grown up a bit and have any dignity, yes, by all means keep the good memories and delete all her contact details of hers you have plus block her in your mobile phone, unfriend her in facebook, mark her email address as a spammer and tell her straight you do not want her to contact you again.
Or be prepared to be regarded as a tosser with no principles. You choice
SO YOU would punch the lights out of any of your wife's good friends who gives her a gift even she knew him way before you? Even if it is an EX, who cares I thought you were all adults who could handle it? Now you are punching out lights.....wow wow brilliant!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!