"In just under five years of searching and with the expense of trips, apartment rental, gifts and living expenses, I've lost about $20,000. I am done!!"
The one common thread I see in guys who have failed (in trying to find a wife) is that they are trying to buy a relationship by spending money.
lonelyranger1701 is a prime example of this. He took a girl on a two thousand dollar shopping spree and he thought that would make her forever his. He thought that she was so desperate and needy that by buying her things she would be dependent on him and look to him as a provider.
It backfired on him. She rejected him and won't even return his emails.
You see gentlemen, money can not buy love. It can't even make someone like you. She's gotta like you for you, not for what you can buy her.
When you spend money on her like lonelyranger1701, like rick1027 and others. she sees you as a schmuck. An easy target to get money out of. She loses any hope of respect she may have had for you.
There are countless stories in this forum of guys who have spent thousands and have nothing to show for it.
By the way that Monaco Restaurant in Kiev, from what I've researched of it appears to be a scam restaurant. A restaurant that pro-daters work with.
TomZ,,, depending on where this other Rick lives,,,,, 20,000 for 5 years of searching and trips is really nothing.
“trying to buy a relationship by spending money.”
You don’t know enough about my relationship with this girl to make such statements! I knew her for two years when this shopping spree took place. 2,000 may sound like a lot for 3 days of shopping,, but that was to help her out until I could see her again,,, I knew I wouldn’t be back for months, and I didn’t want to do WU.
Being in Kyiv didn’t help either. I think of the place as being a hellhole. I helped her out and I don’t regret it. How many of us could watch someone they care about struggle??
I’ve wrote about this before,,, and never suggested it as the way to go! I even said guys should know their girl better before spending any large amount of money.
I can’t remember all of the requests I received for money from various women,,,, but I can count the number on one hand, for the times money has changed hands.
Tom: “There are countless stories in this forum of guys who have spent thousands and have nothing to show for it.”
What do you have to show for 20 years of penny pinching??
You asked her to pursue a relationship with you after just days of meeting her? One date with an interpreter (this does not count) and one day for a walk?
I think this is why people often get disappointed. These girls are human. They are people. it is not a "cultural" thing to fall in love.. it is a human thing. You don't fall in love after a day , 2 days.. that develops. I dont care where you are from, who you are.. if you are human, you share the same type of brain. I would NEVER agree to a relationship without knowing the person. No way dude!
Of course it is not going to work. And like an other person said.... why would a super sexy young model like girl go with an old man.. unless you are damn handsome indeed .. or have money... or at least have money to spent on her. I admit I have my share of problems with these girls.. but I try to stay realistic.
I would just focus on screening them an see if they are real. Dont even worry about relationships...