Well, it was too good to last with my beautiful Ukrainian lady. But the breakup is kind of interesting so I want to start a thread on good breakup stories.
Well, it is over between my lady and me. It was not a scam. She is just a bit of a nut case. I’m 60, she is 42 and she left me last night to go back to her 26 year old boyfriend. It seems he cut himself and threatened to jump out a seventh story window if she stayed with me. Daughter says 26 year old boyfriend is lazy, drinks too much (like her ex husband) and does not work. She is choosing a hard path. Daughter and mum had a huge fight over this and are estranged right now. There is a personality type that cannot accept good things. I guess she has that.
I don't think it is possible for a woman to fake how good a time we had together. So I think she is genuinely conflicted. She was crying as she described her former ex-boyfriend cutting himself. I suspect this is not going to end well for her.
So I am now in the apartment we rented. She would not take anything except a few apparel items I bought her. I think I will sublet it to daughter at a great rate.
So daughter, daughter’s boyfriend and I are going out drinking.
I will hoist a toast to all of the men who have broken up with FSU women. I am starting late, but catching up fast.
so sorry to hear about this. Sadly this circumstance is played out all over the world and not just Ukraine as I have seen it in USA as well.
It usually defies logic and leaves you scratching your head.
I dated a Doctor from Ukraine with a 9 year old boy a few years ago. Everything was great and we did K1 visa and planned to marry in US.
She had incredible earning potential in US having been a very successful trauma surgeon in Kiev. She was looking at 200K per year inside of 2-3 years
after the required residencies, etc. She was going to start her US residency, take required classes and her son was enrolled in school for the fall.
Yet, despite a very prosperous future and getting along well she one day suddenly said "I cant do it" She could not leave her family and the life she knew
even though she acknowledged her life and her son's life would be infinitely better in the USA. I was dumfounded. She wanted me to move with her
back to Ukraine and marry. I couldn't. My youngest kids were still way too young and I couldn't leave them yet for so long at a time as they struggled when it was only 6 weeks at a time. It defied my logic but I have learned that often these girls do things that defies what I consider rational thinking.
I am hoping you rebound well and have better success next time. since then Ive had a couple long term relationships that didnt work out for one reason or
another but stay in it because now I have another and we will see how this attempt goes! I may actually marry this summer to another Ukrainian gal.
Btb,,,,, it sounds like you had an adventure and a good time doing it,,,, but was it REALLY too good to be true????
Within the first 2 -3 days of your trip, you mentioned the mother taking care of you,,,, and falling for her. It was at that exact moment,,, I knew your trip would fail!
You had,,, what I call: “The circus side show”!! I had one myself,,, it’s the story of a girl, her brother and his girl. I met with the girl first, then went to a restaurant to meet her brother and girl. Before I was even introduced to the brother,,,, he held out his arms, and said: Brother!!!! He already had me engaged to his sister?? I had only spent a little over an hour with her at that point. When he said “brother“,, I knew it was all a side show,,, but I had a good laugh at their over the top bad performance.
You went to Nikolaev for the daughter,,,, ended up with the mother,,, now both have a boyfriend????
“I don't think it is possible for a woman to fake how good a time we had together.”
You had a good time,,,, but from the prospective of a man searching for a wife,,, you had nothing! Sorry!
My first and only experience with a flat, had me paying for a weeks worth in advance,,, and for a hotel for the same time period,,,, minus one night!
The agency people couldn’t understand why I didn’t want the flat? I had the choice of dying from a room with 30C+ temps,,,, or from air so bad,,, that my eyes and throat burnt.
I lost about 45 to 55USD at the Zirka hotel in Odesa,,,, I threw the girl the keys without even asking for a refund,,,, 12 hours there was enough!
BTB, I was waiting for this to happen. Everyone had a good time at your expense. I just hope you are happy about that, you did say, 'best two weeks of your life'. Now that reality has set in, what's next? You did say during holiday parties there were many single girls checking you out..... but only cause you were with someone. Still I wonder about that washing machine you bought....OH WELL....I just hope next couple weeks will not be the ... two worst weeks of your life!!!!
What ever happened to Nikolaev, Odessa, Kiev and Kharkov??? Adventures still???
I wouldn't be. It takes a great deal of courage to give up your current living environment and to jump over to something completely different and out of your "comfort zone". You also change the future dynamic of your destiny and the others who depend on you. Many people have immigrated to other countries and ended up disappointed and regretful. Once the choice has been made, there might be no turning back (unless of course, you are very wealthy). Most people emigrate at the "barrel of a gun" and not for love.
I guess my breakup story is one of the best. No one offers a competing one.
I'll elaborate on my last comment. Remember I am not here looking for a wife, I am looking for an expat location. I am alos taking my first vacation as a bachelor in decades.
So a beautiful, sexy and compatible woman meets me and shows my a memorable time two weeks. I start to think (as I mentioned earlier) I was "stupid lucky". The fact that I was not "stupid lucky" does not take away the memorable time.
So I have that experience and I am reset back to my original trip goals.
I have more on the extended family dynamic on my trip report thread.
Any other cool breakup stories? Some of you have to have more interesting stories than mine.
"btb - keep us posted on your new teenie bopper conquests."
As long as we agree that when one is 60 and recovering from an extended illness, the whole concept of "conquest" takes on a new meaning.
I am happy if a girl dances a lot with me.
btb754 wrote: "I think some of you guys are focused too much on the money. I may be in a different tax bracket.
What part of "I had a fantastic time" do you not understand? "
I think its great that you can put your experience in perspective and look at your original long term goals.
You unexpectedly had a fun 2 weeks that ended abruptly. life happens and I think you handled it well.
You are very correct that many here do focus on the money and not the life experience they had.
Of course I am going to tell you that Ukraine is an excellent expat location. The cost of living is dirt cheap. Its not a third world country.
You can locate and register at excellent private healthcare services before you have the potential need. And obviously you can have excellent
adventures with the locals. It will be better as you get used to the lifestyle and master the language.
You seems to be a nice guy. Cut the link with that girl. Do not rent to any friends or family related. Close the book and move on. Plenty of ish outthere
My gut feel is you are getting set up for something bigger right now then few apparels.
You got the entire dog and poney show, you developed feeling for her , she knows it , the boyfriend knows it, they got you where they wanted you.
Time to say good bye! Whatever crying she comes back with and she will, ignore it!
btb754, If you do want to take their advice and try a different city PM me and I will give you names and phone numbers of
trustworthy church people who can assist you in transportation, accommodations in Kherson OR Odessa.