I suppose that like me, most of you who've been involved in this overseas dating scene for a while, have been exposed to many facets of human behavior.
I've seen kindness, generosity, nobility, real dignity, and compassion. I've seen wisdom and tenderness. I've also seen venality, shameless exploitation, deception, cruelty, fraud, and outright criminality.
Encounters with the darker side — which are difficult to avoid in this endeavor! — are like turning over a rock on the ground, and seeing a variety of disgusting creatures scurrying in every direction.
For a while now, I've been corresponding with a woman who is clearly a person of high quality. [I won't go into details here, but I am highly confident that she is substantially what she represents herself to be.]
It's still "early days," and I've no idea whether she and I will turn out to be complementary in ways that make for a good couple ... and so much hinges on the first meeting, which has yet to take place. Not knowing what the future may hold, I know already that she is intelligent, merry, kind, extremely disciplined and hard-working, and a devoted mother.
It's not unlike digging through tons of mud and gravel, to be surprised by the glint of a little lump of gold.
At this stage, my goal is to learn enough about each other during the next few weeks, to know whether it makes sense for us to meet.
For any who are interested, I'll keep you posted on developments here.
I respectfully ask, that if you want to make comments directed toward any forum member OTHER THAN me, that you do so outside of this thread. Thanks, men.
durak send PM
lonelyranger1701 4/2/2015 6:36:55 AM "To Danny and Lonely:
I am sending this same message to each of you.
I respectfully requested no comments on the "Vein of Gold" thread, that are directed to people other than me. You have dishonored that. (It means nothing to me, which guy went first.) There are many many other places, where you two can insult each other.
If you care at all about my participation in the forum, please honor my request.
Mark, known to the forum as durak "
Durak,,,,, maybe you are too damn good for us here on the forum.
Are there other forums that might suit your tastes better??
Remember to take the advice of the frugal here. Spend no more than $8 for an apartment but splurge and go all in at the first date and spend all the way up to $10 for dinner. Make sure she pays for her own though.
I was going to comment about the OT comments, but then realized that I would doing that OT. :-o
Remember what others have said, she is not your real girlfriend at this stage. I do not know if you met her via this site or through other means. Just FYI, my subscription to this site was about to expire and I said this to just a small number of contacts on this site (it occurred last month). Since the time that it did expire (and was later renewed), message traffic has grinded to a halt. I guess I am now a "forgotten man".
Last night,,, after writing a little post on another thread,,, I noticed my pm count went up, so I went to have a look. I was actually expecting a pm from durak,,,, danny crapped on his thread and I stepped in it. But after putting in a very long work day,,,, being lumped together with danny didn’t sit too well.
I’ve had several discussions with durak about danny through the years,,,,, and I do not hide what I think about danny. It only took a couple of emails from him to learn all there is to know,,,,,, durak seems to still be in the learning process?
During one of our discussions,,,, durak claimed to “Respect” danny? I don’t know where to begin with that?? After another one of our discussions,,, one of which I was hoping to get “everyone” to ignore danny,,,, durak writes a tribute to him?? Anyone seeing a pattern yet?
I enjoy most of durak’s postings on the 4um,,, even the lengthy ones, but it is easy to see the bias in his political writings. It wasn’t too long ago, that durak blamed the Ru-Ukr war on Bush,,,, because he set a bad precedent. Bush,,, along with the former Rep. Pres candidates have been proven right,,,, and Obama is wrong!
Durak,,,, more than anyone here, understands how Putin has controlled the Russian media, dating back to before he became the Russian Pres in the 90’s. Durak has witnessed the effect it has had on the Russian people,,,,, 80% or more are brainwashed. What durak has not understood,,,, is how a partial and gradual bias could effect people over the period of decades. Our schools, colleges, news outlets, unions have been biased for decades, and we have reached a point where half of our population doesn’t want to defend themselves or the nation anymore. The actual enemy is in the Whitehouse,,,,, and we just share posts on fb thinking it’s going to help??
Blindness towards danny,,, towards Obama,,,,, and now going on the 30th or so trip to Ukraine?? With all of your knowledge on Russia and Ukraine,,, speaking some of the language,,,, knowing the culture,,,, what seems to be the problem?
Word of the day: Reevaluation
Not saying at all that you shouldn’t go,,,,, but,,, perhaps, reevaluate?!
Think of this as a big pail full of ice cold Wake the f up!!