Rick4girl: "So, as this is forum about meeting "Russian" women, has anyone met any nice ladies recently?"
It appears that today is my first anniversary on registering to this forum. So what has transpired since then? Well, not much actually. Nobody from the dating sites sends me messages directly to my personal email account (except for the scammers). I have nobody on any IM sites. I only have received one phone number contact from a profile and upon checking it out, it appears to be a scam phone number. As I mentioned earlier, I have received somewhat suspicious messages from profiles on this site. The majority of the messages that I receive from other profiles on this site are quite brief and perfunctory. I seem to be getting messages from a wide age range now from the dating sites. Some from even those older than I am.
Two recent messages seem a bit more animated. One says that she likes me quite a bit and that she desires for her man to have a "boner" whenever he thinks about her. Another says that she has narrowed down her online choices and I am the final selection (like "The Bachelor" TV series). She has not corresponded with me that often, so it is odd that I hit a home run when I thought I was still at first base. Am I really that lucky? Must be "slim pickings" for the male profile portfolio on this site?
There are at least three avenues to meet foreign women - using an agency, using social media sites, or just going there directly. Some people have supported one way over the others. Each has its good and bad aspects.
Agency - Good (ladies would have been interviewed to include only those seriously interested to meeting foreign men, having their credentials "verified" by the agency, agency arranges the meetings and reservations); Bad (professional daters, price gouging, too much control over the dating process, fake profiles, "verified" really means "unverified", not cost effective)
Social media sites - Good (no cost, open access to whatever the lady will provide to you, a larger database of people); Bad (large number of people not interested in foreign dating, professional daters, fake profiles)
Travel direct - Good (meet people directly, no intermediary, experience the foreign location first hand); Bad (large number of people not interested in foreign dating, meet up with wrong elements of society there, not cost effective)
Some methods are considered more safe while others are more risky. However, that does not guarantee success with any given method. You could find the right one using the scam ridden agency way and never find anyone travelling 20 times to a foreign country. A lot of this is controlled by timing and chance. And these factors impact any of these methods that you pursue. And as I stated before, no one is held accountable between the two dating parties. Some people may prefer it that way, but that also opens you up to being tricked and manipulated. And to become a perfect "mark" for grifters.
My dating directive still remains the same - I am not buying anyone's affections and I am not here to impress anyone.
Kaiserdag: "One thing that works for me is to establish a relationship before traveling. 2 weeks of courtship should be enough for a go or no go to the next level."
DCguy posted ""Kaiserdag: "One thing that works for me is to establish a relationship before traveling. 2 weeks of courtship should be enough for a go or no go to the next level.""
here is my reasoning
"What is the next level?
to me the "next level" after checking the facts and mutual feelings, would be to continue or no.
"A marriage proposal?"
surely not after 2 weeks or 4 weeks of meeting in person! I am NOT looking for a bad romance leading to another divorce.
lonelyranger - A scammer in the group? Even with the pics of "regular" people include them too? Really sad.
kaiserdag - I see. Although there was that guy who posted on this forum recently about proposing after his first trip to meet the lady. But, I agree that you do not want to end up in a romance revolving door.
Very few people are mature enough to kno when they had found "real love" after meeting up for the first time. These individuals had expended significant time online and more than 2 weeks living together to sign of the dotted line.
I in particular have not been able to find my unicorn. Some day I will hit the jackpot but If there is no risk there is no gain...
kaiserdag
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Also when dating multiple people at the same time makes it also hard to find "real love" since you are getting multiple dates and when some of them seem similar, it becomes a bit hard to choose one over the other. It is important to know how the two people will fit well or not on a daily basis. You want to minimize the surprises and disappointments as much as possible on both ends.
I did not know that you are this way! Otherwise I would never have committed to you!
Yes, you gotta play to win. But, hope that you don't end up with someone who became a close friend only to shoot you in the back after some fighting and arguments.
Dating multiple ladies at the same time is a disaster/ epic failure. Feel free to play the game but nobody wants to be played. I had spoken to various ladies but end up with visiting one for a week or two . I just need one. The one and only.
Dating multiple ladies at the same time is for locals or if you speak the language.
I had been lucky. Plan B would had been tto hit a night club or an agency. Plan C could had been site seeing.
In my case both my ex girlfriend and current have discovered each other (damn that FB and VK)
SURPRISINGLY both are still in the game with the ex trying really hard to win me back from the new one
Ukrainian girls are very stubborn when they set their mind to something The ex has learned quite a bit of English and all the time is trying to speak to me using it. Its rather impressive actually which
does validate something TomZ said not long ago. If a girl wants a western guy bad enough she will do whatever it takes to get him and that means learning English. At 20 years old she can still pick it up quickly. Also, she hasnt asked for anything this week except for a hairbrush and a watermelon when we were shopping earlier.
If you guys come to Kherson to meet a girl, Fabrika mall can keep you buzy for 3 or 4 solid hours
of high quality dating ideas. We and another couple was there from 4 till 9 and still didnt do but 30%
of what's available and pizza and drinks for 4 people was just under 10 bucks!
You had hit your one year mark with no concrete results! Either you are a high baller or your resume needs work. How is your Russian? Did you workout all this time? Any self improvement to brag about?
Dc,,, The girl in the black top with purple leotards was one of Awebs beauty contest winners. This was around 2008 to 2010,,, so there is some room for error,,, but I don’t think so. She is a real looker with her makeup on,,, but without,, Woof! They posted a photo of her receiving her flowers,,, and without makeup. I don’t know why they would make such a mistake.
"Ukrainian girls are very stubborn when they set their mind to something."
The lady on this site who said she had narrowed down the male profiles to me said that she will move heaven and earth to get to her goal.
"pizza and drinks for 4 people was just under 10 bucks!"
Are we talking just one slice each or an individual pizza for each person?
kaiserdag
I only learned a little Cyrillic alphabet writing back when I first went to online dating sites. No I am not an athletic person. As I told the ladies, I have no stamina, so if you want a strong, athletic partner, keep looking. Self improvement? Hmmm... I work in IT so that makes me a "geek". I took a wide variety of courses in college. I am at the "downhill" part of my work career. The only thing to brag about is that I try to avoid debt, illness, fraud. I can do some of the medical techniques that you see in hospitals regarding respiratory therapy, nutrition therapy, wound care, dietary monitoring, and catheterization. As for being making myself a scion of society or a "ladies man", I cannot claim that feat.
"She is a real looker with her makeup on,,, but without,, Woof!"
On some of the dating sites, they post some photos where the lady has a lot of makeup. For the few where she does not have the makeup, the appearance change is quite significant.
2 medium-sized pizzas, 2 teas and 2 pepsi. Was 189uah. Pizzas were 73 and 75
and drinks were like 8uah
the race carts were more expensive thing to do but cheap by American standards and they are
fast and the track was awesome. Cost was 110uah each person. My friend and i raced while the girls
watched while making video and photos of the race.
7D experience was only 140 for 4 of us. The cinema costs 40uah each with first run movies.
There is also skating, trampoline "jump park" skating rink, bowling, an arcade, more than a dozen restaurant choices and even a pub. Google Fabrika in Kherson. Why would I lie? Just offering
ideas.
isnt that the point of this forum? My friend Maxim was delighted we were able to have such a great
time as he only makes 3500UAH a month. Remember that its only expensive for them, not us.
we can make a great impression on ladies for not much money. Days like i have going out and
really living here are more realistic knowing the language but even with an interpreter its still
possible