Has anyone paid for English lessons? The way I look at it I could pay her English lessons then if our relationship doesn't develop someone else could benefit from the English lessons I paid for.
Also who's to say that 5 other guys aren't paying her 'lessons'? or that she doesn't speak English and I am just being played.
Yes, I would agree with this. Some have said that there are online language courses that can be self taught.
No, I have never paid (or bought any gifts) for anyone that I met online. Does not make sense buying something for a complete stranger. If the other person does not make any attempt to "court" me, then I will not pursue one way relationships.
When I first went to dating sites twenty years ago, many of the profiles were legitimate. I had one situation where the foreign lady sent me cards (Christmas, birthday) and souvenir gifts to me on her own initiative.
dc - kudos to what you've written and shame on these agencies pushing teddy bears while girl's cupboards are empty. Better to take a girl shopping for groceries so she and her family can eat. I'm in Ukraine now and girls don't want teddy bears. Some of the people here are really suffering.
The U.S. Embassy in Kyiv receives numerous reports from U.S. citizens who have been the victims of a particular type of internet fraud in which the person has sent money to a person or an agency with the agreement that a young woman will visit the United States for the purposes of marriage or study. Often, these scams will result in requests for increasing amounts of money for various purposes, including many noted above. Once the U.S. citizen becomes suspicious, the individual or agency will cut off contact. Many of these agencies have existed for years under a variety of different names and addresses.
Even if the woman you have become acquainted with does exist and it honestly trying to visit you in the United States, it is unlikely that she will be issued a visa
Before paying for your woman's English lessons:
1. Make sure she really doesn't speak English at any fluency. Most of the scammers just take your money for classes having a good level of English. Then they surprise you with the level of their "brightness" as they start using their existing knowledge. Bit by bit. And you continue paying for not existing classes.
2. Make sure the price she gives is reasonable. If she asks more than $100 a month for her classes she is a scam. Actually $100 a month is pretty much too. My school in Nikolaev charges about $20 a month for group classes and about $60 per month for private tuition even with American and English teachers. Well, Kiev can be more expensive but not more then $100 a month.
3. It is better to hire independent teachers or schools. Just google the schools in her region and find those with reasonable pricing and good reviews. If the lady suggests a teacher most of the time they just divide the money between them and do nothing.
4. Pay the money to the school not to the girl. If she is angry about it she is not real and just wants your money.
5. Try to study some Russian. Try to be teachers by yourself and teach each other on the Internet. Of course before that you will need to find a grammar book of your own language. Don't be lazy.