Folks , new your inputs on this matter without judgements.
After having a conversation with my fiancťe on this topic. Does anyone had a conflict of interest or odd expectations with your in-laws
Or in-laws to be? Meaning visitings, accommodations and length of stay in country. I like the idea of short term visits once in awhile!
The most important thing is just to meet! The way the parents are today, could be the way your wife is tomorrow. I paid no attention to my 1st wifeís parents and family,,,, and that was a mistake. Today, if I had to pick a family that is 100% Fd-up,, it would be them. She had a kid with her 3rd husband,,, and guess what? Yep, the kid is F-up!
You also need to see how the parents react to you, are they friendly or standoffish? Too friendly might mean that they want something from you,,, and standoffish might mean that they donít like you,,, or donít like what their daughter is doing to make money!
Years ago, I read something on the protocol of meeting her family. It was probably put out by a dating website,, so I didnít put much stock into it,,, but it said things like:,,, always bring a gift, donít offer to shake hands through the doorway/threshold, donít shake a womanís hand unless she offers it to you,,, I also think you are expected to take your shoes off.
Wow LR! That is an interesting experience. I agree with those points while visiting her country.
Folks,,,,,,,Lately me and her are talking about the our future in the USA. She brings the idea of her parents visiting us for few months. I'm getting a bit of a stress because of privacy, paperwork and financing this mission. Here, I am thinking about how this will impact me and help my future wife. Therefore, I wonder if any of you have ideas of how to balance this incoming situation?
My wife parents visit every year ... paper work easy . They stay for 3 months . Its a great time . My farther inlaw is great guy we love fishing together . We pay half the airfair which is fine by us . When first i met them in russia i left my shoes on i gave no gifts i shook hands i couldnt give 2fks what they thought . You cant tell anything about a lady by meeting the parents
Thanks poppy for your inputs.
I presume that's how is going to be, with the exception of her father. He got business to attend daily. They don't any English, so it's up to me to learn some more Russian.