If you come from the western world , this notion of provider is a bit strange and not easy to get a grip on. Because of social program and the fact that many people have a a chance to earn or get helped by government , the need to provide security for your family is not really a concern for a beautiful girl. She goes to school , find a good paying job, becomes independent and then find the love of her life. Could be different combination of that. Of course we have gold digger and other sorts the are trying to get ahead in life with their body but that is normal.
In developing country, where the social safety net is not there, a beautiful girl could becomes a source of income for the family. If she find a good husband with a good job he will be helping the family and protect them from difficult time. Until she find that guy , a lot of pressure is put on the girl to find a good paying job and help the family. Some start in restaurant or other places and quickly they realise that this is not enough to help. so the search for a provider begin, dating site, foreigner bars, escort and WG are all options in the book.
So they start looking for that provider .
The provider is someone who love or is very much attracted to the girl, he is ready to do anything for her but more importantly help her to deal with her personal and family needs. The terms to describe a provider , 'He is a good man'. When you hear that , means you are a good provider. The criteria to become a provider contrary to lover , are very different. Physical appearance doesn't count ( unless you really sting and ugly as a horse) age or culture difference not really a factor. Whats important, you need to provide at the level she has her fundamental including family needs and she needs to feel comfortable with you. Once that is establish, she will make you her priority number one, you will get all the sex and attention you want. Sometimes , she spend the rest of her life with a provider. As a provider can you become a lover too? yes , if you take care of yourself and act like the lover i described before you might become one.
This notion of provider is very well understood by asian guys ( Chinese, Korean ,Japanese, Taiwan, Hong Kong guys). They find that beautiful girl usually in a KTV , they take them out , pay their apartment, and give them money every month in their bank account. In return , he gets to see her as soon he wants, he gets whatever sex he wants and can take her anywhere he wants. If she cheat on him , he terminates it on the spot.
This is exactly the case with the Ukrainian girl i date. She has a Chinese guy providing for her apartment, jewels, clothing and good amount of money every month. She send the money almost entirely in UKR for her family. As soon he calls she drops everything and she goes. She get dress ( amazing look ) and spend days with him. He loves to show off with her. When he leaves and there is no chance of getting caught , she comes to my place and stay with me. I am the lover but i cannot be the provider , her needs are to high for me . IF I insist on having her just for me , she will drop me for sure as she cannot cut of the flow of resources coming to her.
That being said, girls that are not scammers on this website , they are mainly looking for first a provider. If you can be both thats perfect but their priority one is a provider like the majority of beautiful girl in developing country. I you do not wish or cannot afford to be a provider i don't recommend you spend time on dating site with developing country girls.
10 years ago, my friend understood that to get the girl he wanted he needed to be a provider first. From that he would work very hard so she look at him as her lover too later on.
She was a 26 years old Mongolian beauty ( 5'9'') absolutely stunning, she was making good money in a KTV in Macau.
So here is what he did :
1- He first , made a budget and calculate how much he could set aside every month for her girl.
2-He sat down with Uka and established how much she was earning and spending and finally the net that she was able to provide to her family in Mongolia . There was a considerable difference.
3- He made a plan for her to learn better english ( he paid for it while she worked at KTV)
4- When she was speaking good enough , he helped her find a job as a representative for a cashmere Mongolian company in HK( salary was not comparable with the KTV)
5- With his budget per month for her, her salary and the fact she was saving on apartment and food living with him, he was able to get her to quit KTV and live with him.
His plan worked, they are married , they have 2 children and i can tell you she is not looking for another man she is deeply in love with him. Today she is 36 and she look like 30 and his absolutely a stunner.
Did he had doubt as he was going through this ? absolutely. Does anyone including me told him he was crazy, move on to another girl? yes 100%.
It is possible guys to get one of these girl but start a budget today so you now what you can offer and then find solution for the gap. The needs of a filipino or thai is a lot less then a Ukrainian or Mongolian or Russian.
this is very common. some of my western friends have this arrangement with girls here at Ukraine.
when the guy comes, she drop her life and go to him and stay while he is here.
These pretty and anyway normal girls. Not prostitutes. Sometimes this arrangement become normal relationship
Or all, Steve Harvey on his book; "Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man: What Men Really Think About Love, Relationships, Intimacy, and Commitment." There three main things that a man do for his woman.
And Profess: meaning, he talks greatly about his queen.
You can't do that if you are just a lover/ sugar daddy.