Dale...if you will bring your girl sandwiches to have a breakfast into the bed...oh that would be such a pleasant surprise, that she will be able to eat sandwiches of any kind with pleasure:))) Just kidding, but it's a rather good idea:)
Thank you ID, I just gave a summary of the opinions that were expressed at our little girl's party:)))
OK not little girls, but little party of girls:) Ok I mixed myself up already, hope that you will understand, so that I don't have to mix myself up more:)))
I understand, how little were they? ;o)
You woman like you space to be yours, but I think this is true of most good woman, as for scrubbing tiolets, well, someone has to do it and my wife often asked me, but thats O.K.
A woman housekeeper, a man housekeeper...it doesn't matter, try to understand...the feeling that another man will clean things, will clean dishes and so on, is not possible for the majority of girls.
One of my friends said that even if they had a housekeeper she would clean, wash and iron and so on again after the housekeeper leaves...I gave the reasons, and it doesn't matter on the sex of the housekeeper. Ok ideas about her husband having sex with a man housekeeper doesn't fit here, but anyway that's not a good way to show your love to your wife or girlfriend.
Pitchka, you give very good advice. I am planning on helping Lucy with house work in whatever way she wants me to(should she come here). She has told me that that the kitchen and laundry is her job, I can help with other things. Pitchka, here my kids and I wash our clothes every day after we wear them. Is this normal for Eastern Europe and Russia to wash them this often?
Ensata you're welcome:) It's a pleasure to help:)
We usually wash clothes as soon as it's gets dirty even a little bit, shirts and T-shirts, at hot days are usualy washed everyday...
Actually we wash clothes very often, and it depends on the amount of the clothes one has. But as I said we wash clothes as soon as it gets dirty at least a little bit.
Of course there are different people and different habits of washing:)
Thanks, this is generally how we do it. Sometimes my kids put their clothes into the wash when they are not dirty. I am afraid that Lucy would be overwealmed by the amount of Laundry each day. Three large loads each day!
If you have a washing machine then it will not be a problem:)
But of course some of the clothes is not allowed to wash in the washing machine, if there is not much of such clothes then it's OK I think:)
Ive been living alone with my daughter for quite a while. I don't plan on doing anything differently if she comes. If she wants to help out thats fine, but I would never expect her to do something I wouldn't do myself.
There is another side Crash....if you and your daughter will do everything yourselves, and will allow her only to help if she wants too...she won't feel like at home, but like a guest...do you want her to feel that way???
Of course I may be mistaken about your girl, but that would be an average reaction.
No no, thats not what I meant at all Ptichka. I would not want her to feel overwhelmed or upset by making her think that now since shes here she has to go to work around the house. If she comes my home is hers and she knows that. It was and is very important for her to know that my daughter and the rest of my family accepts her. The last thing I want to do is to offend her or make her not feel as if my home is not hers.
Crash I am thinking like you. Only I have three kids at home (5,7,8,) and I don't want her to feel overwelmed either. But I do want her to know that it is her home too. She is from a large family (7 kids) so she knows what it is, but I am hoping that the hectic pase of U.S life will not be too much for her - lessons, ball games etcc. as well as house work. I guess that I will let her do what she wants, be available and do as much as I can without making her feel uncomfortable.
Wow they must keep you very busy! Mines 8 and she wants to be the boss of everything and if she could run the household she would! Makes me very happy to know that both my daughter and Nat have hit it off already. They have spoken to eachother and they both ask about eachother all the time. Surprises even me! Pleasant surprise I might add
Thtt's great that Nat and your daughter like each oter already. Lucy has spoken with my kids, and I have spoken with her daughter (7yrs) a number of times and everyone seems to like each other. For which I am thankful.
TimH & Dale
Yes, I am an odd ball sometimes...(that's why you like me so much, lol...)
But your Ukrainian sister would not categorize me as most US men she's met.
Worldwide, US people in general are known and disliked for one particular thing....Their desperate need for 'instant gratification'. It is a cultural trait, pure and simple.
Combine it with the current state of US foreign policies and ...voila! you have the 'ugly american' syndrome all over again.
Pitchka,
I understand all your reasons and believe me....My housekeeper is the last woman on earth I would ever want to have intimacy with, lol....
She has been cleaning my houses since 1996 and there is definitely a relationship of trust and respect between I and her family.
But she is 1.50 mt tall and almost just as wide, she is almost 50 years old and usually comes to clean my house with a crew of daughters/nieces, sometimes even her husband comes with the girls when they have too many houses to clean.
The main reason for me to want to keep my housekeeper coming 2-3 times a month is so my new wife has more time to spend with MOI, not the toilet or the floor. That's all.
It's funny, but I appreciate it, that without exception every FSU woman I mentioned the housechores yopic has indeed asked or expressed the very same concerns Pitchka listed.
But none of them apply in my case.
"....but I would never expect her to do something I wouldn't do myself...."
Crash,
That is such a good point!
My days of kneeling in front of the 'ceramic god' after too much partying are long gone and I have no will whatsoever to do it to clean the damn thing or the floors.
I could not ask her to do it, knowing how reluctant I am about it.
Happy does not even begin to describe how it feels to leave for 2-3 hours and come back to a spit-shining clean, organized house
I understand that if someone lives in an apartment, cleaning it does not take much effort. But that is not my case, either.
Toad you don't need to make me sure in the relations of you with your housekeeper. I just wanted to tell that it's almost impossible to ensure a woman in that, especially a woman in love. And this is not only about having or not having sex, read the last reason...I would never allow any other woman, not a member of my family, to touch and wash and iron my clothes...never in my life...or clean my room...that comes from history, and since many many years ago...
WOW, I didn't know your kids were so young....
I hope you teach them to do their own or collective laundry.
When I raised mine, they both knew there was no scaping the 'chore list', but if you teach them young enough it all becomes part of having a happy family environment.
Without knowing Lucy or your kids, I think she will fit perfectly.
The kids are very young and at the ideal age for learning and she comes from a large family, where she learnt to 'share' or else, lol....
Pitchka,
I understand you perfectly.
You have seen me write several times to the men in here that "when in Rome, do as the romans do...", it is the proper way to adjust to new situations when we travel to different countries and cultures...
Well, the same applies for any FSU woman who follows her man to live in his country.
As miniscule the topic of house chores or ironing clothes may seem in the big picture, it is definitely something both should discuss, learn and compromise so the transition to their new lives is as smooth as posible.
I'm sure my future wife will still want to do some things herself. This is not a black & white topic. There are plenty of shades in between.
But she will not be kneeling to scrub toilets or floors.