Mike once one of my teachers of English said that when a person starts learning the second or third language seriously, he may experience problems which will go away after some time and practise. I experienced that myself, I and one half of my group studied Russian, Ukrainian, English and German at the Lyceum, and the other half of the group studied the same languages but French instead of German, and at the end of 1 semester we spoke in a misture of 5 languages....it was something horrible, but then we overcame this problem:)
I understand that you seem to be after some closure but maybe there is non. If this man is a lawyer and therefore has maney, is it possible that he is just having a middle age crisis at 44 and just wanted to bed a younger woman. It was nice for a while and now he has seen things getting serious so he has cut you loose. I do not mean to sound harsh and I apoligise if I do. I live in Australia and there is a site that advertises for, well, fun holidays to Russia with no ties. I acually have a friend who goes to Russia 2-3 times a year to have fun so to speak. He has written to some girls when he goes home and has been back to see them but eventually moves on to fresher unknown pastures. I am not saying this is what has happend in your case, but it is another possible answer. Forget him and move on. If you do make contact with him, do you want him after this neglect he has shown you?
I wasn't trying to imply that someone in their 20's wouldn't be mature enough. I was just posing a point that at 46 I have travelled a lot more been through more than most people in their 20's just because of my time here on earth. Some guys just like the attention of younger women and to have them on their arms as a show piece. I think that is wrong. I'm using myself as the example, I never say never but the chances of me being with someone in their 20's is very remote and I think most men, who will be honest will say the same thing. We live in two different worlds, yours is a world of promise and future good and mine is of experience and caution. You'll do fine
little lady hang in there!!
Pitchka now I know why I like you women of Ukraine.You are a ray of
encouragement. I received her letter today, she said she understood it completely and said she was sorry, she did have a few chuckles. Gotta love that girl, she's honest and I love her humor. She also stressed the "like" and "want" as you did in another thread.
I wasn't trying to imply that someone in their 20's wouldn't be mature enough. I was just posing a point that at 46 I have travelled a lot more been through more than most people in their 20's just because of my time here on earth. Some guys just like the attention of younger women and to have them on their arms as a show piece. I think that is wrong. I'm using myself as the example, I never say never but the chances of me being with someone in their 20's is very remote and I think most men, who will be honest will say the same thing. We live in two different worlds, yours is a world of promise and future good and mine is of experience and caution. You'll do fine
little lady hang in there!!
Pitchka now I know why I like you women of Ukraine.You are a ray of
encouragement. I received her letter today, she said she understood it completely and said she was sorry, she did have a few chuckles. Gotta love that girl, she's honest and I love her humor. She also stressed the "like" and "want" as you did in another thread.
I wasn't trying to imply that someone in their 20's wouldn't be mature enough. I was just posing a point that at 46 I have travelled a lot more been through more than most people in their 20's just because of my time here on earth. Some guys just like the attention of younger women and to have them on their arms as a show piece. I think that is wrong. I'm using myself as the example, I never say never but the chances of me being with someone in their 20's is very remote and I think most men, who will be honest will say the same thing. We live in two different worlds, yours is a world of promise and future good and mine is of experience and caution. You'll do fine
little lady hang in there!!
Pitchka now I know why I like you women of Ukraine.You are a ray of
encouragement. I received her letter today, she said she understood it completely and said she was sorry, she did have a few chuckles. Gotta love that girl, she's honest and I love her humor. She also stressed the "like" and "want" as you did in another thread.
I feel for you. I sense you have been used, and I know the feeling myself, except in reverse. You have to understand that you were easy to take advantage of, and of course you trusted that man's words. It happens. Much of this is a racket and you should realize that now.
Any man who would not give you their home phone number has something to hide. You must realize that many American men are pigs! I am sorry you didn't find the right one, but there are good, devoted amd honest ones like me out there. That is why I end up alone like you.
Don't think honesty will get anywhere with this "thing." That man man told you what you wanted to hear because he knew he could get his way. I do not feel anything "bad" has happened to him. He is "blowing you off" as we say in the USA. He is not sick or injured right now. Trust me on that one!
I feel genuine concern for your feelings. I had a Russian lady do the same to me. It is not good thing, I know. I have felt this myself. Please don't think you are alone.
I will offer you these sincere words: Don't believe everything you are told! I made that mistake, and I will not do it again. Just realize that whatever happened was NOT your fault. You entered into a relationship in "good faith" and well, now you know the truth of many American men.
Indeed, I am...you know that old wolves like us need tender flesh to chew on as we get older, lol....
Now seriously, NO I'm not interested in starting anything with Janet....the jovial flirting is nothing more than an attempt to help her cheer up and let her know in a practical way that there are many more men out there willing to take her seriously.
In any case, Janet, you are very welcome to participate in these forums. Having a voice on your side is certainly helpful to us, and hopefully we can recipricate.
Please know that there are very good American men like me. I do not brag of wealth and being "important"person like so many others. I am the best of me you will meet. I too trusted someone's word and she "disappeared" with some excuses and it hurt me bad. Someone men like me will find a woman like you. I am 42 but not old and run down. If you ever saw me, you would know. I am not desperate man, but one seeking a youthful woman who can match myself. I am the kind of man who is honest, and that is why I feel my place in this American man-Russian woman thing is limited. I hope you understand?
Please know that there are very good American men like me. I do not brag of wealth and being "important" person like so many others. These forums are overrun with American men full of themselves! I may lack material things, but I have heart of gold!
I am among the best of men you will meet. I too trusted someone's word and she "disappeared" one day with some lame excuses and broken promises and it hurt me bad. Someday, a man like me will find a woman like you and we will be happy. I am over age 40, but not old and run down. If you ever saw me, you would know. I am not desperate man, but one seeking a youthful woman who can match myself. I am the kind of man who is honest, and that is why I feel my place in this American man-Russian woman thing is limited. I hope you understand?
You must know that most American men are no different than the men of Russia. They just try to "fool you." I know American men well! They just think they are so "clever" as to use cultural differences to take advantage of Russian women. Russian women are the most beautiful I have ever seen! I can see you are more than that! You have a real heart like myself. Real (and I mean Real) men like me would never do what your "man" did, and that is why — like you — we end up alone and heartbroken. It's all part of this "game" a lot of people play, and people of character this us both learned it the hard way.
Girl, I just read your story and that a shame. I dont know about where you are from, but in the US ALL lawyers are bottom dwelling scumfeeders. Unfortunatly it looks like you have learned the hard way. Take a bit of advise, don't ever trust an american attorney. Look for someone closer to your age and stop it with the I want a succesful man bit. Look for someone you are compatible with and look for true love. Just my opinion, don't be offended.
Looks like goodwill , the poor sap would like your name and number, lmao!! Look who the sucker is! lol
Billy Carter said it best, Kill all the lawyers and Kill them tonight!!!!!!! I also think Don Henley said that in the Eagles song, Get Over It!
GirlFromMoscow, your opinion will be valued here. It's those typ of guys
who give us good guys a bad reputation. So don't be a stranger here.
Good Luck my dear young lady, I'm sure the right guy will come along
and make you forget this bad experience you had!!
Heel Toad, Heel I was just busting your stones!! I knew what you
were doing