I need some advice here.
I am almost 50, and still there are ladies aged 20-25 who write to me.
I ask them if they have really noticed my age, and they say they have and that it is not a problem.
However, it scares me that a 20 year old attractice lady would be interested in me.
She could be my daugtherīs best friend maybe, and it would be like having
2 daugthers instead of one wife and one daugther.
And when I retire, she would still have to work another 30 years before we could retire together and move to my summer house.
My question is:
Are these women truly interested in a 50 year old like me, or is it just a scam ?
you should write to woman a little closer to your age. there is a too big of generation gap. You probably have a lot of things in common with a woman closer to your age. also it's hard to know if they are interested in older men because they may be after money. For me, personally my age limit would be 10 years younger than me.
just my two cents and thoughts.
What is with this age difference thing? True, if generalizing the difference in age should be closer, but
I don't look at age, I look for common interests, similar values and CHEMISTRY. Those things do not deal
necessarily with age. Also, having kids already could be an issue if dealing with FSU girls. In past 7 years,
I have yet to find someone within 10 years of my age to be compatible. Maybe in FSU countries with girls in
their 20's it could happen, probably not but please....let me have my beautiful young girls spice up my life. I
have found many girls,that I correspond with that enjoy our letter writing. The true test is meeting in person...is there chemistry or not. Either way it is the journey that determines whether you get frustrated by the whole situation.
EVERYTHING depends of the circumstances. If you happen to look like Richard Gere, Roger Moore or Pierce Brosnan - you could certainly attract a woman 30 years younger than you are, in the FSU OR right here at home! But those cases are extreme.
If you are in excellent shape and you have a pleasing personality - 25 years difference wouldn't be a problem.
But sadly, most of us aren't here because we are studs - with women of all ages falling all over us. So if you are even approaching average looking for your age - then consider a direct linear corelation between how much of age age difference there is and how likely it is that you are approaching the possibility of being scammed.
There are still plenty of opportunites for an older man to find a younger woman in the FSU - they do seem more open to the possibility than western women are. But if you are in your 50's and she is 18 - and she immediately "falls in love with you" and it seems that she wants nothing more than to snuggle up to your huge belly - you might very well BE with an insincere girl.
When I look at girls profiles the last thing I look at is age. I want to know what they wrote about themselves
and what their preferred age range is and since I am a guy, an attractive picture. Based on that it will determine
whether I send letter. While getting letters, their content will determine whether it goes past first month. I
won't continue letter writing just because the girl is beautiful and overly friendly. Last thing I want is to have
the air let out of bag in my face. I have at least 10 girls I have been corresponding for 8 months and seem to be
genuine. The hardest thing in the world to do is develop a relationship and have it work out, whether in your own country or another country.
Where do you guys get this ''idea ''looks matter to an FSU GIRL = sorry they dont matter a scrap --sure its better if your fit .( she'l get you fit bedtime aerobics !!)
truth of the matter is girls thier need somebody secure / and with brains ------- you dont find that in 90% of men under age 34 --mostly rev headed morons with a stretched out c/ card and thier only job in life is trying trying to stay out of jail .
Its very common a woman say 24/29 years would want a guy 44/ 50 years ( he's lived - he's established in most cases ) .
iam 49 -- 3 parts bald 1 stone overweight looking bit rough tattoos etc ive had a hard / sometimes not so hard life iam showing plenty signs of wear and tear yet my girl 27 sticks to me like superglue ( wheather ive got 100 rubles in pocket or $1000 it makes no difference to her ) and yes the few on hear whom have seen her --yes she could easliy grace the finest catwalks in europe ------so no its not age - or what yu look like its how your heart is --and how you look after your bird -what you have to offer in life .
from what ive seen -russia / latvia / paris / rumania well 90% couples i see there is ever so evident age differences 16/ 25 years i see it each day my eyesight is ok .
i mean to say what self respecting russian bird of say 27 would want to be with some dork under 34 anyway .
even if he looks like roger moore 20 years back he'd not have a clue whom moore was - be interesting conversation ay 27 years smart russian girl meeting say 32 year old meathead .
i could see it
her -----how did you come hear john ?
him --ohh i borrowed de munny from me dad !
her -------- whats your job john
him -----der nuffin iam on the dole !
her ----why is that john
him ----der nobody il give me a job = iam a victim = unemployable !
her ----john time to pay for the meal its 1700 rubles
him -----err i got nu munny il wash the dishes
her -----john its russia they'l call the militia
him --ohh der good il sort em out
her -----ohh fer f-----k sake ive landed a moron .
him ----derr dont yu likes me no more ?
her -----imbasile iam surrounded by idiots !! hold old is your dad ?
him ------ohh i dunno he aint 45 but err he aint 47 neither so dat makes him 46 yesss???---but iam all outu fingers to count on hang on il take off me shoes 10 toes down thier !
her ---god sake give me his phone number ! quickly !!!
== ===== your standard 18/ 34 year old man meat head losing his licence for the 19th time ----give it a rest guys of course they dont want meat heads .
my girl hates
unrefined marble heads !
so she should too -
they dont like bums IQ OF 30 you know its like russian men all products of the school of deciet who would want them ?? why ? whatfor = useless . they could not show a girl a good time with a 500 page manual on how to do it .
ps remember thier men have never seen $350 in 1 go in thier lives .
i rest my case .
My girlfriend is 27 years younger than me. We have been dating for 2 years. Im well past my prime in the looks stake and she is very attractive. Of course I am a stud. She has never asked me for money or gifts. Will the relationship last, who knows my first marriage lasted 14 years so I suppose anything close would be classed as reasonably successful!
In your place Janne I would worry, how this 20-40 years old woman will learn swedish and adjust swedish society! Is she ready for that? I am not ready to learn dutch (my boyfriend lives in Netherlands), happily he is british and we speak english I learnt from young age!
Jetmba, I dont find its strange 18 years old fall in love to 50 years old. Other question is : how long its last. Because teenagers ARE moody, what is one day question of life is forgotten in other day!
The age difference might be a problem...or not, who knows:) One way to know, is for you to meet your girl... I met my girl after 1-2 months of emails/calls, and Im 34 and shes 19 and the age difference wasnt a problem for us.
I am in the Navy, so I prefer to go swimming, not skiing...
I just wanted to add that I have NOT searched for young girls,
It started when I RECEIVED letters from them.
I then wrote to some young girls to see if I would get replies.
I think it makes sence what someone here said that they like
to feel secure and have a husband who knows what he is doing.
BUT.. one has to think about the future. It would be strange to have
a wife that is about the same age as my daugther.
AND...when I get older, it would not be very fun for her if I donīt have the energy to do all the things she wants to do...
Anyway, even if your girlfriend is older, learning NEW language and adjusting society will be the main problem!
You might MEET girls what ever age and be happy sex tourist, but...if you start to live somebody language is the main problem.
Language IS important. It is communication, not looks, that make
couples happy. They can share ideas and thougts, and talk about their deepest
I wouldnīt be happy with a girl who is a photo model if I cannot communicate properly.
..and culture is different. Sweden is not far away from "Russia" but in letters I notice that the women have very different ideas from what
Swedish men have.
I get a bit scared when they talk about meeting after just 2-3 letters
when I have seen perhaps 2-3 photos of her, and knows very little about her,
and have not eevn talked on the phone...
Internet writing alone doesn't mean a thing. If you can't call a girl, stop right there no matter what excuse they present. Girls don't care if you end up taking the trouble to travel. So, if you are wealthy and have a vacation coming, why not? Sometimes, just taking these girls out to dates can be fun. However, if travel may be a hardship, try writing to girls on dating sites where there aren't marriage agencies involved. Natural progression should go from writing to calling to visiting to sex, and if it does not follow this order, there's something wrong.
Janne, just friendly advice from Estonia.
Maybe you can consider looking in Baltics, no visas and more down to earth attitude of women. I am not sure about 20 years old ones, but normal person close to your age you can find! People in Baltics are used to study languages, are less temperamental and have bought up in lutheran culture room even if they are russians. Even if woman havent EU pasport, she have living permisson and she can move freely in EU!
Typical anti-Ukrainian/Russian attitude from Estonian woman. Maybe jealous Annika or still pissed that your country was occupied by communists for so long.
You don't know didly squat about Ukrainian women, zip, zero, nothing and to broadbrush a whole gender from Ukraine or where ever shows how absolutely simple minded you are. My wife speaks 3 languages, 4 really but since Ukrainian and Russian are somewhat similar I only say three. So you aren't the only women who study languages.