has anyone herd of a lady by the name of Anne Belochka from Nikolaev? She is 25 & uses the red rose club for translations. We have been sending letters to each other for about 4 months, I plan to visit her in August. The lady has not asked me for money nor do I plan to send her any before we meet. I read all of the negative shit on this site & it makes me wonder if I am doing the wright thing, or is she a scam too.
juston, are you going in UA just for her? have you had a conversation with her over the phone? try to line up few woman to meet in the same area, correspondence could means little, relation do not develop on letters....
There is a definate risk that she is a pro dater but only you can assess that really. Noone can give you a cast iron checklist but I would say that her lifestyle is probably the biggest giveaway: is she a carefree single woman with no children and no career (or a "student"), or even any demonstrable source of regular income (bad) ?, OR ... a hardworking single mum (good) ?.
There are bassically four ways for a woman to live in UA:
1) hook up with a local rich man
2) get a good education and a steady job (many have 2 jobs since most "careers" in UA are so poorly paid)
3) run your own business
4) become a pro dater
Obvously you arent likely to ancounter a (1) but you should be able to suss out a (2) or (3) vs a (4)
The dissadvantage that scammers/pro-daters have these days is that its a very time consuming business as it typically takes months to cultivate a "mark" to the point where gifts holidays and ideally cash are forthcomming, so its become practically a fulltime job - it requires commitment and dedication :-). Because of this a simple lifestyle audit should reveal a pro dater.
As I've said before though the absolute best way to learn to spot scammers is to meet one (or a few).
she finished college but can only find job as cosmetologist. She lives with her mom & dad, we have tried to talk on the phone but I only speek english. Another interesting point, when I am there we will stay at her parents house.
Stay at her parents house? Sounds a bit strange. A girl invites a stranger to sleep with her while her parents are there?
Or are you going to be sleeping on the couch?
Either way I'd be wary.
Get an apartment rented before you go...just in case you need to get out quick.
Juston I wouldnt worry about all the negativity. No one would b here if we didnt think it was all worth while. If you treat FSU women the same way you would treat them in your own country you want go wrong.
Most guys when they have just met a woman wouldnt be buying them video cameras, fur coats and giving them cash (unless shes a prostitute), so why do it to FSU women and then complain after that they were scammed??
I think women are much the same everywhere.
Being asked to stay at her parents house is a good sign. I dont think she would want you meeting her parents if she didnt like you.
But I agree with Kirkland about renting an apartment. Its unlikely her parents want you sleeping in her bedroom and so you are going to be sleeping on the couch and watched every minute by her parents. Trying to begin a relationship under that sort of scrutiny I would find dfifficult.
And time alone together. Not much fun.
Agreed with Adman on the sleeping over aspect. If its being offered, ask specific details. I am sure they want to be compensated for feeding and housing you as if you were at a hotel. I'd get a nearby apartment.
And I'd definately "highly" recommend you begin writing another girl in her city just in case it doesn't work out. Unfortunately a large majority of write one girl - meet one girl does not work out. I wish it did, but its reality. Lots of girls don't look like photos, don't act like letters.
I'd be v interested to know more about your experience with RRC. I'm in a similar situation to you, writing to someone via them, not sure if I'm being scammed. Other reports I've seen about this club don't look good, I have to say. If we share info, we might be able to help each other out here. I've only just joined this site, so can't PM you yet. Perhaps you can PM me?
Like senzaki, I am in the process of deciding what to do over a certainly lady in Kazan, so I would be interested in your experience. AS adman says, we wouldnt give expensive gifts to girls at home just like that, so why would we do it to some one thousands of miles away.