"1 girl wanted to meet at most expensive restaurant in town
2 girls gave me their phone number but nothing happened..."
"So I have been here one week and have met noone."
For what it's worth: been there, know how it feels. This journey (in the big sense of journey) includes some rough road.
Some trips have been a lot more successful than others. The success that matters, is finding the woman who will make a loving family with me ... until that time, none of the trips are completely successful.
i was not able to line up a date through the free websites or through elenas models.
i think elenas models might be a legitimate site but i didn't actually correspond with the girls before i came so there was no dialog. that was my fault.
i thought i would be able to meet and make contact through the free 'mamba' dating site during my two week trip here. i am disappointed that this didn't happen. i was hoping these free dating sites would be the end to marriage agencies.
i had one date through a foreign affair offices.
i don't have a problem with a foreign affair. the manager took my information and submitted it to three different women that i had chosen.
one was able to meet with me. I was disappointed because, 1) she looked nothing like her photoshopped photos, and 2) she asked me for $20 in taxi money when the meeting was over. (despite the fact that she was meeting her friends in the center later). It is common for some ladies to ask for taxi money, but the agency should let you know. I generally do not accept dates from girls who need taxi money because then i am not sure of their intentions.
bowhunter,
it would be great to hang out in ukraine. i think it can be a lot of fun in the summer.
unfortunately i have just accepted a three month it contract. so the earlist i can return in late august.
in summary,
well, i haven't had a lot of positive things to say thus far in my report.
i do want to say one thing.
even though the free dating sites and the marriage agencies were a total bust, i did experience some success in the night clubs of kherson. by success, i mean i was getting eye contact from attractive girls in the night club. some of these girls knew that i was english speaking but most did not. they just knew that i could afford the rather pricey cover charge and was dressed nicely. these two things will separate you from 90% of the men in the town.
so if i return again, to do things differently,
i would definitely try to establish a dialogue with a couple of girls from non pay per letter websites.
and two, go out to night clubs from wednesday thru sunday. i think, for me, this is the best variant.
Girls in Kiev use Metro or Marshutka. It probably costs them less than $1 to get into town and back home in total.
With the free dating sites you need to write to a lot of girls from about a month out. Out of those that respond you might hook up with 2 out of 10. Its totally a numbers game but I met my wife on a free Russian language site so success is possible!
I had a slightly similar experience to yours way back when I first started this thing.
Back in October of 2003 I went to a Romance Social in Odessa. There were three actual meeting events and I had arrived somewhat sceptical about the whole concept. Well I was amazed. Every woman there wanted to meet me. I (along with the othr 15 or so men) was the center of attention. WHile women didn't exactly fall at my feet (they never do, you know) every woman I even spoke to was eager to go out, have a Polaroid picture taken of the two of us (for possible future fiance visa, and yes they were still using Polaroids). It was a dream come true - I was like a kid in a candy shop.
Well, I met a wonderful lady, but our relationship seemed to hit a snag - it turned out to be temporary - but it seemed plenty serious at the time.
(NOW I'm getting to the part that was slightly similar to your recent experience in Kiev).
I decided to try again, but even though there were Romance Socials going on in Ukraine - I did not have time to get a visa (you needed a visa to visit Ukraine at that time) so I decided to go to Latvia ONLY because I knew I could get in without a visa.
Given how easy it was to meet women in Ukraine - I fugured that all I had to do in Latvia was show up. There were numerous free sights and I figured one day - maybe two - in an internat cafe was all I would need top arrange up to two dates per day.
Was I ever wrong. I contacted every agency service that was free - I even paid a few service fees - never actually went t a marriage agency - but I spent nearly seven days just going to the interet cafe to arrange dates with ANYONE. Everybody was busy or out of town. The few who replied to my letters and messages suggested I was a sex tourist, or that I was only planning to see a new dirl on the side as surely I must have come to meet with someone else well planned ahead of time.
The trip was scheduled for two weeks and started feeling like two months as the first week passed and I had had dinner with just two women - neither of whom was even CLOSE to what I was looking for. One spoke not a word of english so a friend of hers was kind enough to translate my letters and set up our meeting at a restaurant. But the friend could not join us - so when the lady showed up we could not communicate at al. We barely knew more than each others name. In frustration she actually got up halfway through the dinner and left - never to be heard from again.
Fortuantely, after seven days, just as I was considering the trip a total loss and was preparing to fly home sooner than expected - I met a fascinating Latvian lady and we spent the rest of the week together.
EM --- I had several ladies who wanted to meet me through elena's models in Kiev. And for sure only one was questionable - but I think she was just trying to be over accommodating. After I was there I found out she was cool. But I already had someone coming to meet me. I truly believe that if you correspond with someone from this site (EM) and you hit it off that when you meet it will be cool.