respect is earned. perhaps because there are those who are just silly when in the presence of a good looking woman they are taken advantage of... and by thinking it is respectful to bow down to her ... pulease! that is why the vocation of dating foreign men is probably listed in the school guidance counselor's manual in Ukraine.
Rick4girl,,,,, the girls go to where the men and the money are!!! Big cities!! They are always looking for greener pastures!!
Ralph29,,, I don't know if your comment was meant for me,, as my post took two days to be approved? But, you are right in a way,,, I would not have spent that much on an ugly girl!! My girl Katya,, was the prettiest girl I have ever seen! She was my biggest dream, I had the highest hopes for the two of us!! And she used that against me!!
dont lose hope lonelyranger. Ive got plenty of experience dating Ukrainian ladies and still had one get over on me even after spending weeks living together on 3 different occasions. she liked to go out and to spend money but i was getting "mine" too. she says she simply couldnt imagine us together forever. ok fine, but couldnt you have said that before I spent so much?lol.
Im still with a great lady but only time will tell...
Rick and danny,,, Hi guys. I should have elaborated a little more in my previous letter.
I’m not desperate for any girl, because “any” girl is right here at home. But I am desperate for the right girl. My views about the “right” woman are very similar to yours danny! Your Lady sounds great,,,, does she have a sister?? She is doing all of the “little” things, that make a relationship work!! A concept my “former” girl; Katya could never grasp!! I’m not looking for a model either! In fact, on other sites I have wrote; “I am looking for an easy going girl!! If you are a model,,, or think you should be a model,, then you are not an easy going person!!!!” I don’t want to be wondering; what she is doing,, every time she is a few minutes late!! Having said that,, I still want a girl, that “ I “ think is pretty to me!! A girl that has “ the look “ that makes me “shiver me timbers” !! I can look through hundreds of profiles and find many or almost all of the girls to be pretty,,,, but very few, if any, to have “that look”!!
My former girl,,, started as a sweet, simple girl!! In her profile pics, she was wearing a brown plaid dress, very simple, but she looked great to me! She went to an agricultural college! I’m self employed with a farm and an agricultural business!! But, if you looked at her photos in progression; her profile pics, her photos from our first meeting, and from our last,, you can see she went from simple to va-va--va-voom!! It wouldn’t be right for me to say; You are too beautiful now!! We also have to consider,, that she dressed that way for me??? Russian Ladies want their men to be proud of them!! To me,,,, I don’t like my dates, to give all the men around us,,,,,, a free treat!!! Lol I’m not the sharing type!!!
It seems to me,,, that everyone who made a comment about this, thinks I’m some poor sad sap from Hackensack??!! Lol No, not every day of the week!! I’m okay looking, but since I went from busyranger to lonelyranger, I put on about 20lbs around the waist!
On one of the largest dating sites here, (US) my profile photo, won their “sexiest “ male user!!! My very first thought was; Auh, it’s some promotion BS??!! I then looked at my own photo for a while,, and thought;,,, It does have a rugged quality!! I went online with a friends computer, at his home, and went to that site without logging in!! Sure enough,, there it was, my photo,,, the sexiest male user??!!!
Of the few people, who have seen the photos of Katya and I together,,, everyone says; we make a great looking couple!! Katya said it too!! Katya is 23 and I am 46,, but I look more like 40!! ( and I act my shoe size lol ) I wouldn’t be looking for someone who is that much younger than I am,,, but I want to start a family,,, not marry one,, like I would almost have to do here at home!!
About buying her gifts,, we were supposed to be a couple!! That ended when I stepped onto the plane I guess?? If someone gave me presents,, I would take them too!! But, if someone was giving them to me, because we are planning a future and getting into commitments,, would it not be wrong of me, to accept them, if I had no intentions of having a relationship with her???? I think there is a big difference!! I think Rick4girl can relate with this,,, being in an almost similar situation?
Getting back to the original topic;,,,,, my girl went from her small town, to Lugansk, to Kiev!! At every step of the way, changing from the sweet girl I fell for, to a big city hottie, who could be a model, but has declined everything and decided to be a scammer instead? It is the simplest explanation that fits!!
Four years ago you were bragging about your girl and most likely exaggerating. You wrote about the simple or little things she did for you. Wanting the same thing does not mean wanting the same girl!
If she is with you,, NO ONE would want her!!!
Did you mean,,,, taken to the cleaners? Hardly!! I’ve seen her several times since then,,, and have given her small gifts or my left over cash each time. It’s no big deal!
Why are YOU so desperate to have others want what you have??
Is your Russian wife the ONLY thing in your life???
There is of course a difference between
residents of St. Petersburg or Moscow and girls
from small industrial cities or some back-country
areas.
In Russia you can watch TV, read newspapers and surf the Internet in any city or village. Thus, the
girls who grow up in the country or in small industrial cities have quite a clear idea of
global culture, fashion trends and life in big cities.
As far as finding a life partner from one of these places, there is no real difference. And the same holds true for Russia, Ukraine, Belarus or any of the republics of the Former Soviet Union.
Just roll a dice and go...you’re sure to meet someone nice!
The probabilty of meeting someone nice often is very dependent on chance. And if chance works against you, you better have a good exit plan as a backup.
The probability of meeting a good woman or ending up with a bad one is the same anywhere in the world. It is your job to find out and spend time getting to know her to detect all the signs of a greedy, selfish, user, unloving etc. woman or the opposite.
It is the same for the ladies.
The signs are there from the very beginnning for both:
In the ladies' profiles: I enjoy doing things with my man or I enjoy shopping
In the men's messages: Do you like dancing? or do you like cooking and cleaning the house?
That is good but do not put photos of yourself on your profile or give the ladies your BMI (Body Mass Index) while you are on your dating site using the WiFi of those eating places :-)