"Wow, so 99% of this advice is from people who failed?"
You're making a wrong assumption Tom Shea.
First of all I am not advising anyone to get married to an fsu woman. In fact I would advise AGAINST it as most of these types of marriages end in divorce from what I've read. Most guys are ashamed to admit it.
I'll guarantee you Tom Shea if your marriage ends in divorce you won't come here and brag about it and let's not forget your marriage is only 1 year in. Let's see if it lasts. Come back in 20 years and if you're still together maybe you'll have something to say.
I give people advice on how to date, how to score, how to have fun, etc. AND I ADVICE AGAINST MARRIAGE (in most cases).
Lonely, I live outside new orleans. I don't know if you have been here or not, but it goes from city to gator people in about 5 miles. We live closer to the gator people than the city. I must admit it is a source of tension. When I'm not working I want to be home, but when I am working she feels stuck at home. So when I get home, she's ready to go. She's working on getting her drivers license but didn't pass the test on the first try. Anyway there are millions of little snags you go thru in getting acceptable "normal" established and everyone has to suck it up some in cases.
It's funny, I was looking for a woman in her 40s. I'm 55. I ignored the woman I really wanted to write to because she was 34. After we began writing 8 would laugh at what an idiot I was wasting my time with a woman way too young. I asked her about our age difference, it turns out her first husband was 4 years older than I am she said "it seems normal". Lonely has seen a pic of her and me. She's beautiful and I'm well not.
So truly don't listen to those who say older men can'tfind a beautiful younger woman. They can. I Did. The paranoia is out of control here. Having said that, just because you are paranoid doesn't mean others aren't out to get you. Do what one president said "trust but verify", get a pre nup, and all will be ok.
New York, LA, Miami, and Chicago seem to be their favorite destinations. On a world wide dating website, I did a little checking to see where most FSU women ended up,,,, the smallest city was Daytona Beach.
I live in a rural area, but it is a Midwest tourist location. People from the cities come here to retire.
Tom Shea,,,, I’ve been on I-10 a few times, but not to New Orleans. My ex-wife Irina was able to get around with the help of a bicycle. To the beach, library, grocery store, post office, etc. There are a lot of people here during the summer time,,,, but very little crime. She was shocked that no one locked their doors.
Tom’s wife is pretty,,,, and it is possible for an older guy to find a young and pretty wife. But the odds are very much against it. You were just as successful as I was after your 4th trip,,,,, and the number 5 may not be everyone’s lucky number. I simply don’t have the patience for it. I have such a narrow criteria for the woman I am looking for,,,, and have deemed the odds are too much against me. I might have to make 95 more trips to be successful,,,,,, if the overall odds are 99 to 1 !
I missed my winter vacation 4 times due to my search and twice to work,,,,,, I’m pissed!! This coming January, I have another big choice to make,,,, meet the girl,, or go on vacation??
I have a girl that is getting her green card on her own. Shortly after meeting her online,,, I asked her if she was looking for a travel companion, a job,, or a husband?? She said all three! I might just treat her as an employee at first,,, and see how it goes? I offered a plane ticket and a place to stay. So far I have spent nothing,,, and she has asked for nothing.
A few months ago,,, I wasn’t even sure if I wanted to be married,,, I’m still not sure. But someone took the time to find me,,,,, under normal circumstances. It would be foolish not to check it out.
"New York, LA, Miami, and Chicago seem to be their favorite destinations."
I have visited all of these cities as well as all four corners of the USA. The big city offers a better venue for a new immigrant to this country. Moving to somewhere in the middle of Wyoming would probably be a greater culture shock and an isolated environment for a newcomer. I prefer the quieter and less hectic atmosphere of a more smaller town, but I have always lived in a major city area all of my life and can see the isolation and inconvenience of living in more rural areas.
I am going to central Florida in a few weeks with relatives. My seventh trip to the area. One of my acquaintances has asked that I promise to take her to Disney World when she can come over here. She was a former foreign exchange student and stayed with a family in the New Orleans area.
I live in the country,,, but not much is missing here, except perhaps a large shopping mall, ballet, and symphonies. We have small, folk or summer theaters, and a place that occasionally has symphonies play,,, but for big ticket gigs, we need to travel 1 to 3.5 hours. I personally don’t lose any sleep over that!!
I do have 4 golf courses, 8 to 10 bars and restaurants within a few minutes drive,,, plus 5 state and/or county parks within 10 minutes of home.
The women have always loved the photos that I share of my ranch and the local area,,, but you know,,, most of those photos were sent to an agency mail box,,, did the actual girl ever get to see them??
I did ask a interpreter once, if she knew of any girl that wanted to get out of the cities,,,, she thought for a moment and said: No.
I spent a month in a rural village overseas back in 1987. It was very different from life here. No running water, little electricity, dirt roads. The people there wanted to get out of there if they could. I don't blame them.
I have plenty of tourist sites, malls, cultural events, festivals, concerts, etc. that are less than one hour's drive from my home. I have four grocery stores under two miles from my home. When Black Friday comes around, I have plenty of store locations to choose from. Having lived here since I was very young I guess I take it for granted. I really do not spend much time outdoors because I have enough to do at work and at home. My work commute is about 3.5 miles. I have not sent out any photo of my house to anyone. I really do not see the point of doing that. If she likes me, she will like my home (as long it is not dilapidated).
"I have not sent out any photo of my house to anyone."
No genuine girl (not even the scammers, they do not care) has ever asked me to send photos of my house, car, business, etc.
I had one nasty girl telling me that she must come and see where I live, how, etc. before deciding if she was interested in me, with me paying for her trip, of course. Yeah right.
Dcguy,,,, I had several girls that grew up on the edge of town. If you ever traveled on the outskirts of a city or traveled between cities, then you have seen the conditions of these places. One girl has nothing but big cities on the brain,,, like a deer looking into the headlights of a car!
I’ve shown a lot of photos of home and the local area,,, to get them to realize that living in the country here,,,, is not the same as living in the country there! They all have said that they like,,, “the nature” in letters and in person. I’ve even tried to find women with some kind of country background,,, there’s not very many!
I do not think any lady anywhere in the world really wants to end up in a rural location (other than the "mountain woman" type). Many of the profiles express interests in sports and outdoor activities. In many places of the country, it does not take a long time to find a park area from the cities and major towns. Women in more isolated and rural areas usually are not listed on dating sites probably because they cannot get access to the dating agencies and internet access is usually sparse and unavailable.
"I had one nasty girl telling me that she must come and see where I live, how, etc. before deciding if she was interested in me, with me paying for her trip, of course."
while I see how shallow she is, I do see her point that she does not want to end up in "somewhere in the middle of nowhere". Having stayed in an isolated village area many years ago, I would have second thoughts of moving there even if the sexiest woman alive wanted me to stay with her there.
I give people advice on how to date, how to score, how to have fun, etc. AND I ADVICE AGAINST MARRIAGE (in most cases).
Why waste your time? If all you want to do is be a tourist and have sex, stay home! It's much cheaper.
I mean I can stay in new orleans and get a beauty for $250. Ok so in kiev you can get the same quality for $100 after $1500 airfare and $100 per night hotel rooms.
I'd someone wants to be a sex tourist, Thailand maybe could save you some money if you get a woman every night for 3 weeks. Remember I read that 30% of even semi pros have aids in parts of ukraine, good luck. Oh 8 see, you go to meet non hookers who just want to have sex with strangers for dinner? Hahahaha. Ok, that's much better
These people like TomZ and Lonely really get me down. If I fail to find an FSU lady, like them, am I going to become bitter about them and come here just to pour my venom about them, call them scammers and prostitutes plus reduce them to sex objects? And try to get other men to think of these girls the same way for good measure?
They have achieved nothing. What positive advice can they give?
Depressing.
However, you are an exception coming here after you achieved something. I guess 99% of men who got themselves a nice FSU wife do not want to hear this rubbish again so they do not bother to use the site anylonger.
I 'put forward the proposition' that the advent of scammers in the FSU bride 'game' has a benefit: It has made men think more carefully and be selective as to who they get involved with. Before scammers, men would just pick the first girl from the then printed book of girls, and if the girl said yes, then married her and took her to his country without carefully learning about her. Like in the old days of farmers and other people in places where there were no women.
The only time I did help a girl out, she was 20 in Ukraine and needed money to help pay her University tuition fees. We spent a couple of days together and had fun. I don't see anything wrong with that.
Wifeseeker
I still have the brochures for the romance socials (European Connections, AFA, etc.) from the 1990s. Probably some of the ladies are still not married.