I have two ladies who tell me that their workday goes much better because they think about me a lot. Also, I seem to be getting a lot of introductions from FSU ladies closer to my age. I have been watching a Ukraine TV news report on PBS that is reported by young ladies who speak English (only one reporter is male). You get to see reports featuring a lot of the local people in the different oblasts. You rarely see any "hot" women in the news, but a lot of "babushkas". One time during a Government news discussion session, a rather well endowed young lady was sitting in the audience as the camera panned the room. Almost on cue, it briefly focused on the young lady.
WS,,, there might be hope for you after all?? Danny claims that you will be a moron just like the rest of us!! That’s great news!! That’s his way of saying, that we are nothing like him!! That’s stupendous!!! I sleep so much better at night knowing I’m as opposite of danny as I can be!! And perhaps you will learn that soon too??
I have said before that I worry about becoming sad, bitter and resentful of FSU (or all) women if I listen to these people in the forum who are already like this. However, I exclude becoming stupid as people are born that way :-D
Tom z, Oddly you claim in "wet behind the ears" because I'm back and married in 2 years, and you are the expert because you have been failing for a decade? Good thinking.
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just wanted to jump in on this thread to say, if any guys that have posted here found a wife, like me they find it hard to keep interested in this forum as they have other things to do than quarrel with people who have fail and know it all or never tried but know better than the guys who have. Maybe there time now is spent dealing with some crazy Russian girl they mistakenly married, as that happens a lot, it happened to me many years ago. Or maybe they are like me now, who is so happy with there new wife(a Russain speaking Ukrainian girl I met outside the commercial system most are dealing with here) that they have not much time to remember all the shit they went though before they were happy. I personally spent a lot of cash to gain my experience, and if you have non to burn, this process is going to be hard. I have a lot of stories from 4 trips to Russia, 3 to Ukraine (one to the Donbass region) and 1 to our very good friend Borats homeland, Kazakhstan. Kazakhstan, now that was one insanely bad trip.
Best advice anyone here can take, is this, if if feels wrong, it probably is. The problem is, its easier to give advice than take it. I have given plenty of solid advice on this forum here many years ago yet still struggled to listen to it myself. I have been unhappy with girls I had met yet struggled on with them to no meaningful end.
Second best bit of advice. When you meet a girl, in reality, it no different than meeting any girl from the place you live, they are just girls. Anyway, when you met them, if they like you, you will know straight away. Non of this, oh maybe she will kiss me tomorrow, maybe we will have sex before I go home. If she like you, and you of coarse you like her, you will hit it off like with any girl you meet. The girls who drag it out, simply do not like you, its that simple. I do not mean they should have sex with you 30 minutes after you meet, but anyone who has been to met a girl should know what I am talking about.
Anyway, good luck guys. If they put my post up and I am not shot down by thee failed haters or the spelling nazis, I may check back in to see if anyone else has success or, needs a little advice from a successful traveler, who in reality, got lucky I think.
"Maybe there time now is spent dealing with some crazy Russian girl they mistakenly married, as that happens a lot, it happened to me many years ago."
The bigger mistake is not failing, but ending up with something that you will regret for the rest of your life. Such as possessive psychotic spouses/companions and everything in between. As they say "you gotta play to win". But make sure that it doesn't leave you in big hole at the end of journey (and one that is six feet deep).
I am not going to be critical about the institution of marraige, but I have seen my share of marriages that never should have happened in the first place. Some that have involved domestic violence, abused children, and personal/medical problems.
I have a general question since you seem to be happy with your current spouse. During your dating process, what has been communicated between the two of you as you got to know the other person? Do you discuss current events, politics, personal habits, food/music/clothing/lifestyle preferences, hobbies, how you budget, family background, educational background, personality issues, religion, vices (if any), future goals, your possessions, role in the family unit, intimacy, prior relationships, etc.?
Did you sidestep any "land mine" issue and deferred it to a later time assuming that you would "cross that bridge" when you came upon it (e.g., future children, what happens if one of you departs unexpectedly, etc.)?