That sounds like a good idea Toad, stay anaethatised still she arrives:-))) not going to worry about the border guards, we don't have any, we will admit anyone unless they are legal.oh shit, forgot she was legal:-))
"I also understand that soon after the marriage takes place, if the wife returns to Russia, she can come back to the U.S. on a different visa, K-3."
What I meant by this, is a hypothetical situation. Suppose she comes to the U.S. on a k-3 visa, gets married, and, say, one week after she marries she has to return to Russia for personal reasons, can she come back to the U.S. on a k-3????
Not exactly the example disastronaut was probably referring to, but (close enough)...recently one lady from Kiev who answered one of my ads in another site asked point blank in her introduction letter:
"How often will you fly me back to visit my family and friends after I come live with you?"
I responded: "Any woman that comes live with me, you will do so as my wife. Husbands and wives should not take separate vacations"
Her: "....but I'm a very independent woman and I want to visit my friends if I want to"
Me: "I know many independent women; they pay their own bills, earn their own money, raise their own children...visit my bed once in a while and do not go in the internet looking for a man to pay for those things. Good luck to you, dear.."
Are there really enough western men out there so desperate for any woman's attention that they willingly accept such terms for a relationship????
There must be, otherwise how else does a woman like this one find herself comfortable demanding such nonsense??
I agree with this view completely. The woman obviously is going to want to visit her family but it really is something of a 'together' thing. With a child along also this starts to get pricey and I am only taking about airfare. I have a slightly different solution. It depends on circumstances but being as I live in Southern Florida, and when the rest of the world is freezing its collective ass off I am at the beach, her folks can come and stay a couple of weeks. Let 'em pick the nastiest 2 weeks of the Siberian winter and come and get a tan!!
That is what I would do with my mum when she was alive. She would stay for a couple of months.
Like I said before it would depend on circumstances but it is a workable solution. I have a decent sized place and it might be fun to have a bunch of Russians as houseguests.
I told you all about the first woman i dated in Latvia. She had twin children that she negelected to mention. The fact was not mentioned in her profile (it it still ISN'T). she had an agrrment with the father that he could spend two weeks with them evey three months. She acted as though I was unreasonable when I objected to the idea of returns to Latvia FORTY FOUR times over the next eleven years, each time with a mimum of three airline tickets (thats 132 round trip fares) and at least eight weeks in Latvia every year.
And all of this was would have been a surprise to ANY guy because she didn't feel it even warranted inclusion in her profile or mention until the middle of the first date.
That is insane.
So I guess she just took it for granted that you were the propriator of a couple of gold mines !!
This very day I received a lecture from my Ukrainian buddy Sergey. It was to do with the fact that the people in FSU believe that every westerner is loaded and all they have to do is reach up and pick dollar signs off the trees. He said he was guilty of it.
It is really handy to work with Russians and Ukrainians. Any time I need to know something or want an accurate translation he wanders over to my desk. Lucky me.
I told him he should do translations as a side line.
I assume you are speaking of a fiancé visa and that is a K-1. I just received an information packet from the law firm that will be doing our visa paperwork. He indicates that changing your wife’s status to “conditional permanent residency” can be a lengthy process. It normally takes a few months just to get an interview with an USCIS officer. Your wife will not be able to travel freely outside the US until she receives her residency card. In the meantime you will be able to apply to USCIS for “advance parole”after the wedding. This can be done in less than two months and will allow your wife to travel outside the US. So it is probably unreasonable to expect that she would be able to travel within one week after the marriage.
The reason I asked this question: Initially, she wanted to visit America, my family, friends, etc. She has a son, 9 y/o, and she wanted to "test the water" before she brought him over. As we know, it's almost impossible to just visit (she was denied a tourist visa).
I was wondering how long she would be without him, if this is the way we go about it (k-1, and then marriage), and you answered my question. Thanx!
Another issue you may have is that if you want to bring her son over later (should things work out), how will you do it? On a typical K1, the child is also included. I'm not a lawyer, but I don't know how you would go about it. She might not be able to "invite" him until after her change of status.
This failure to obtain a tourist visa is a thorny one. I would really like to get to the bottom line on this so I will make a phone call to a lawyer. The result I will post in this thread. You see I have a feeling that if it can be established that she has enough connections back in Russia that would essentially force her to return they wouldn't object. However if she is 19, gorgeous and very, very single I understand the reluctance. I will ask.
So if i have met a girl and communicated with her for over a yr then how can i get her to US? Is itreally that hard to come to US as a tourist? I thought this would be the least expensive route instead of me flying there then arrangeing her to come here. I have no pics with us together so how can it be done? I know it can!
Genuine: have you met this girl in person? Jump on a plane and go see her in her home town, meet her parents and friends, see where she hangs out, talk to her past teachers - do some legwork. Marriage is not a "maybe" thing, IMHO
Don't be CHEAP and expect to have girl come to you. The minute you used the word'inexpensive' showed me
that you are in over your head. By the way, it is next to impossible to get a girl from FSU into USA. I have heard if
she has bucks, maybe there is chance, this will insure she will likely go back home.
Now even if she comes to visit on a tourist Visa you are still required for the K1 visa to have visited her once in her home country. I have to concurr with Beemer, either your trying to do this on the cheap,or you are not serious in the first place. Either way you are wasting your time and the girls time. Then you are getting ready to get set up for a scam, she will need money to fly here, visa etc. Then you will roll up to the airport and guess what. She won't be there, so how cheap was that. Get on the plane go to her country or just give it up if you want to save money. At least when you get on the plane youw will be in her country.