Flamingo is one bride agency I use to deal with a few years back. I note you still use that name on the odd occasion in the e-mails you send me. I have spent some several hundred dollars (Aussie dollars ;) ) over the past few years with Flamingo and now dating-ru.com. The biggest problem I face each time I send a letter to one of these Russian beauties is the consistent phrases of wanting a family and home cosiness etc. I have come across a number of Aussie women who are selfish, who are bitter and demand that I live up to their expectations, becuase they won't accept "second best", whatever that means. In doing so, I am 40 and wanting a child of my own. How many Aussie men or USA men face the same problem as me? Too many for a start. However, in one of the Topics I think Olga mentioned that most Russian women want to be house wives and not career minded. I find that difficult to believe when I see so many profiles with high qualifications. I persoanlly want someone to work with me. I have an interest in one woman now and hope to stay in communication with her, just need to be patient!!!
By the way, Olga, would it be reasonable to question a statement like "not having a phone number"? I am somewhat concerned when ladies say they have no phone number and that I have to send my email through one of the other dating agencies that is apparently one of the ones you are associated with ( page http://maa.dating-ru.com/hearts/ ) Is this because it takes some time to get the letter from you to Hearts? Or is it they get the full commission by doing this? Or is someone playing games with me?
About phone numbers. Of course even if RW doesnt has her phone number, its always possible to contact her at her relatives or friends or work...But it is not always convenient-gossips between the neighbours and co-workers and other things like that.The case is that some girls dont want to give their phone numbers at home.There are numerous cases with some jerks bothering girls on the phone. I guess nobody wants that.Thats why girls make an
agreement with their agencies, that if somebody would like to contact her she will use the phone number of the agency, it means that she will be at the office when a man calls her( of course those the time of the call is discusse beforehand).If the girl really trusts you, she will give you her phone number. But beleive me, nobody wants to get phone calls from strangers,thats why so many girls dont dosclose their phone numbers .
Click.......... of course. Same as in a chat room, I use to frequent chat rooms and the same happened there where women would be generally smart not to hand out their phone number but to call the guy instead or use voice over the net. However, your reasoning, if true should have been said by the RW, but I shall persist!!!! ;)
If it wasn't for reading about Lenin (& history of the Russian Revolution) at school I would not be here!! Just love the accent !!!
Hello Monolith: I wanted to respond to your email questioining Olga's
response that most Russian ladies want to be housewives. I shudder
when those kind of statements are made with respect to ladies who
appear to have tremendously high professional qualifications and
extensive educations. Living both abroad and America where my
business involves evaluating the academic and work skills of people
in Russia and Ukraine, it is incorrect to assume these ladies just
want to become housewives. Unless these highly qualified ladies find
similarly skilled mates, there will invariably be some problems.
People in relationships cannot "grow" and maintain longterm
relationships when they grow at disparate rates. So much press and
media attention have made depicting the Western woman as being
competitive and less domestic. This has given rise to the inordinate
claims from marriage agencies that Russian ladies are motivated to
become housewives and nothing else. Any Russian ladies who are
accomplished will want the same affirmation regardless of Russia or
America unless they are truly resigned to just being a housewife, in
which case they will form some identity with their husbands
It is my opinion you will have additional success in finding a
suitable mate since you are not adverse to having children. There are
a tremendous amount of ladies with children in Russia and Ukraine who
are often overlooked as suitable companions because of having a
child. Now, these ladies may have more of a propensity to become
housewives. Regardless, you will eventually find that Russian and
Ukrainian ladies are very similar to many ladies in other countries.
It is not hard to understand the the points of commonality amongst us
all critical to successful relationships is respect, kindness, trust,
fidelity, and a clear understanding of each persons unique needs.
I have to agree with your comment ace1, as I made a similar comment somewhere else in this forum. I do not want a housewife, I want someone who is keen to expand her horizons career wise and life but have an affinity to having a family. It is possible to do this especially with support of family.......... you know, hand the kid over to grandma and grandad!!! The basics of human need are with us as these needs are borderless. Children, direction in life, purpose etc etc are basic deep desires although the children part is often oppressed by another desire, career success. That's fine, but it is prevailent in the west. it's obvious considering the average family is something like 2.4. Unless you're Catholic of course ........... 6 kids minimum!! :) jokes aside......... yes, I think that I am hard pressed to find a Russian lady in these sites who don't admit to being career minded. However, I do look at their education as a starting point but isn't an exact method but similar to a water diviner... not exactly a science but is a good pointer in the right direction. For those who don't know what a water diviner is, it is a Y shaped stick held with both hands and the pointy end facing away from you. The point "points" at the ground when there is water under the surface. Now, about those Russian woman.............