Thank you for your point. I felt like a Moron when I wrote the stuff... I have changed nick to Norwegian... :) better? I hope so... I wish you a pleasant trip :)
Yes trav - still planning to write you sometime - but it is actually one of the two Moldovans I met in Odessa. We are planning to marry and have already filed the fiance visa paper work.
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I will be visiting her from January 16th to the 30th. I am very anxious to be with her again (spent three weeks with her in Moldova in April and May). She is very special.
Quite honestly - the only thing I have to still be ABSOLUTELY certain of is that she is interested in ME - and not just coming to America. I know that it is the oldest question in the book - concerening what we are dealing with here. But I need to be certain. (Sometimes she just seems too good to be true. Sometimes things just don't make sense that way.)
We will talk and everything.
If I end up certain that her motives are the right ones - I am ready to dedicate my life to her and make her (of course) my one and only.
If not - I will search again.
There is a lot on the line here. I can't afford to be wrong.
jet, you're an mba, you know the right questions to ask :) Remember the loose girl featured in one of my old threads (you know which one I'm talking about right), before I even found out of her true profession, I had doubts about her intentions. After I came back form my trip, I told her that I was planning to relocate to Ukraine and begin a business there so that we could live together for a while and see if we are meant to be together for life. Her reaction in the beginning was cautious, she tried to find whether I was bluffing her, but once she took the bait, she reacted bringing all kinds of negativity, she said that she can't live the rest of her life in uncertainty, America is a better country to live and we should plan to marry and live in America, etc. You know the rest with her online pictures looking for sponsors, etc. I'm not saying your case belongs to the same category by any means, but you're right to hedge your bets. Hey, now I saw the little face, but before you mentioned all I could see was the Greek omega letter, no imagination on my part I guess :) Best of luck and best of having fun in Moldova!
P.S. My wife on the other hand had initially made the proposal that we live in Ukraine so that she could be close to her parents and only when her mother was convinced about my honest intentions (after a month of crying on the phone) we talked about moving to America.
I've thought and though and though and analyzed and rationalized. I could give enough irrefutable facts to easily build a convincing argument on either side.
Don't want to put too much pressure on MYSELF - for Pete's sake but far from simple frolicking these could be the most imprtant two weeks (coming up) of my life.
I HAVE hedged my bet. I have already procured two weeks in July/August with which I can attend a particular Social (my prefered SOP) in the event that I suddenly find myself available again. I will give myself five months to lick my wounds and regroup but I will commit myself to going to the Social and atarting over.
On the other hand - if all goes as I hope it will (as I pray it will) my concerns will be set aside and we will onward and upward to eventual (as soon as we can make it) marital bliss.
She says that she has some surprises for me that I will never guess. I hope that they are good surprises.
Trav - those half cirles on either side of the face are supposed to me much smaller - coming up only to the half-line space. Then they look like two hands.
jet, you sound a sharp and methodical guy. My thoughts are with you, wish you the best, your instinct will be the ultimate judge. Chances are you’ll have to pay the cancellation fees for that social though:)
Trav: Haven't actually finacially commited to the Social yet (if and when that coms it will be after his trip). I have only made certain that I will be able to get away during those two weeks.
There is even a very good chance that I would either spend those weeks with her (if all goes well) as she goes for her interview or here in the US if those damn corn-husking visa-stallers in Nebraska get to doing what they ge paid the big bucks for doing.