If you don't want to have sex until after marriage because of your religious views will the women think there is something wrong with you? Or will they understand that? Also, how likely is the woman to be without a STD?
SD
Good luck on that one. Since the 'fall' of communism (there's a joke) these women have been frree to to what they want and by god they are doing it. Have you not noticed that it is not at all unusual for a woam of 36 or so to have a 19 yeard old child? There is a reason for that. They are into it friend. If you strike up a relationship, send umpteen letters , call and then finally visit you will be expected to get laid. It is normal.
It was my 4th night and I damn near got raped. I enjoyed every minute of it. Marina was the most sexual woman I have ever been with. They let themselves go and if I had declined it wouldn't have dragged on for another 2 and a half months she made that clear. I don;t think this was because she was unusual. She was very much the sexually normal FSU woman. Now JMO's Oksana is another story. She was doing some coy stupid thing to try and impress with her 'sweetness'.
No, no generally speaking if you go take condoms. You will need them. Either that or focus on some kind of church connection, that would work but it wouldn't be the same thing would it ??:)))
"If you don't want to have sex until after marriage because of your religious views will the women think there is something wrong with you?"
Not only then women SD, not only the women, irrespective of where they're from....
Today's date is 2005 - two thousand and five - and you believe in Cinderella still? Regarding condoms, in the FSU HIV is rearing its ugly head, but Hepatitis is already there for a looong time. Never mind the normal STD's Izi, these can be cured....
Most western men, americans at least, are so conditioned to NOT having sex so readily available as american women have it that we sometimes forget we still have the choice to say "I may choose not to have sex with you" to any woman we meet, see, correspond with or like.
Let a woman know you will keep your right of refusal just as equally as she keeps hers and watch her willingness to attract you shoot to the sky.
I always left that door open until the very night Lena met me outside the airport.
Once we knew the trip was a reality, but still before we met, Lena tried to pick my brain about my sexual expectations.
It's natural for any woman to want to know in advance what you want or expect sexually.
What you like your woman to do, dress like, smell like, etc etc etc...
But I would not crack. I didn't tell her anything.
And what's worse (as she admitted later)...I intentionally did not ASK her anything, either.
After a few days together and the sexual aspect already experienced, explored and satisfied I told her I wanted us to avoid "preparing the stage" for a sexual encounter.
Toad:
"Lena, don't worry about it...we will know in the first 45 seconds whether we're attracted physically. If there are sexual sparks, we'll take it from there. And if you do not like me, that's OK. I have been in sales for decades and I take rejection well"
Lena:
"Sure, I agree with that...but what if I like you and you DO NOT like MEEEEE???? You're not meeting any of my friends if you do not want to be with me!!"
Toad:
(Gotcha, you adorable, foxy russian minky..!!)
"Dont' worry about that either...The chances of that happening are much much smaller...And I would never insult you by going after your friends. I can get my own women for sex. Thank you, very much"
This is so true. I am taking the same attitude in the future. It just muddies up the water. I never discussed anything sexual with Marina before I went but she dropped sevearl hints what my fate was to be. They know what they want and they are not afraid to go get it.
Some of the ladies allude to this from the first letter. They have a "hot heart". They want to
"show their beloved all the passion of their heart" The trick is finding the lady who is going to want to show you all the passion of her hot heart 10 years into the marriage rather than all the icy areas of her cold shoulder. I have come to believe sex before the marriage clouds your thinking which makes you end up with cold shoulder years later.
Imagine that...could that mean women in FSU can be horny while at the same time trying to combine their goals of having a harmonious family life with one man?
Nothing wrong with that.
SD
I respect your viewpoint. It has much validity - for the 1850's.
Unfortunately nowadays women not only like sex they go looking for it. I am seriously telling you that if you think that a woman from Russia is going to go through all that is involved to come and live with you in America on the off chance that you might be capable of a stiffy forget it. She will just say NEXT. They aren't hookers they are just normal God bless them. Just as I expect a bedroom demo they do too.
I warn you now they tend to be how shall I say "liberated" in the sex area. Marina told me this the first time that to her sex was important.
Does it cloud your thinking? Sure it does and it clouds it even more if you don't do it.
I think that these women want to taste life. Sex, family, traveling, the mystery of a foreign man etc etc. If you don't provide some of that she will definitely move on.
I think if I had said to Marina as she cuddled up to me that first time that I was saving myself for the wedding night she would have howled with laughter.
She would have too because that is the stupid kind of joke that I would play and she liked my humor.
Sorry mate just telling the truth.
SD
I respect your viewpoint also. It has much validity now and forever. Why do people think that time will change the laws that God set up from the begining of time. Will those same people now jump off a 10 story building because it is the 21st century and the law of graivity is no longer in effect. God created all the laws that govern our lives to think that some can be discarded is foolish. I do not mean to offend anyone as I am sure they are well intended, just wanted to offer another viewpoint. One last thing SD God will always reward those who obey him.
And very welcome it is too. Please post again. I don't agree with what you say but I will defend your right to say it to the death.
I repeat my question though, what are you doing here?
I went to the animal fair,the birds and the bees were there.The big baboon in the light of the moon was combing his auburn hair. Did you ever see such a Monk? He jumped up the elephant`s trunk. The elephant sneezed and fell to his knees and what became of the Monk the monk the monk?
Monk,
Right or wrong, newbies or experienced, here we all speak for ourselves.
I personally take morbib pleasure in tearing apart people's theories that presume to speak in the name of some unknown deity who by the current state of world affairs is nothing but a goddamn absentee landlord. In other words, please do not try to wear the shoes of the very false prophets your beloeved bible warns you about.
We all try to do our best NOT to step on anyone's religious belief toes because it is a no-win situation for anyone and truly hurts the basic essence of this forum.
The search is complicated enough as it is without adding false obedience guidelines about some old man who is supposed to live up in the skies, supposed to know everything we do every minute of our lives and that supposedly has these laws everyone must follow because if we don't he will put us in this awful place to punish us, and make us suffer with pain and suffering and eternal misery....BUT HE LOVES US!!!
HE loves us ...and he needs MONEY!!
Somehow your all knowing, all powerful supreme being canont handle money, uh?
OKOKOKOK...someone call George Carlin and tell him there is one Calif amphibian plagiarizing his material.
I like to tease sometimes,and if Jesus is the good humored and wine drinking carpenter I think he is- he won`t mind setting up an ATM at the services so people can more easily access their donations money. Yes,brethren,Jesus is low on cash and needs a loan too! I am just teasing though, Monk. The bible and your belief system is yours personally. I also have a personal relationship with God ( and I want to keep it that way ) It has nothing to do at all with the bible,except in the sense that the bible tells of the latter days of man,when he would sleep with animals and other men,and disrespect his parents. We are seeing the destruction of the earth. We are seeing the massive decay of moral values in men and women. Sex is sacred to me,but it has also become a lascivious social disease that has political (gay ) rights. Who are the strong men left to guide and give instruction to the young people? Where are the bigger than life men who stood firmly in righteousness,and exuded goodness and the fine examples of manhood to these young X-box playing rappers? It is no joke that a righteous man becomes more rare each day--in equally growing numbers of misguided,pissed off kids. I also take pleasure in finding out what is the very essence of a man,and what does it mean to be a man,and how this is passed on to the little ones who I would gladly trade my old life for. What lies at the very base of this thread is our thoughts on how to make the world a better place for our kids through the love of a good,decent woman. It is our progeny that need the moral examples that the bible guidelines, and that does not mean how many women we can bang and how many toys we cannot take with us when we die. Be a light!!
I don't want to polorize the group. We are all looking for our needle in the haystack. When I find mine she will love me even more because I respected her enough to wait. As soon as the honeymoon starts she won't be dissappointed :) I will know that I have really found the woman who will bring me good and not evil all the days of her life. I tried the other way and I know it did not work for me. This time I am going to try God's way and see if it works. I tried my best to take the high road or God's path during my painful and at times nasty divorce and God not only pulled me through it, he rewarded me with sole legal and physical custody of my son. So, I have seen first hand how faith, prayer and just trying to do the right thing can be rewarded.