We all will take it under advisement that it is a bad idea to marry a foreign bride and then beat her up. Actually I knid of knew that anyway. And would never think of raising my hand against a woman of any nationality, age or whatever relationship I have with her. It just isn't done.
This woman case appears to be legitiamte. And I have the greatest sympathy for her. But there IS an issue that this brings to mind that we should all be aware of. And that is false accusations.
As we should all be aware - to some women American (or western) citizenship is a plum. Let's hope it is not the only reason that she agrees to be with you in the US, but also acknowledge it as a factor.
She knows that if she does not marry you in 90 days she goes back. But she is also aware of her provisional status during the first two years of the marriage and that if the marriage does not last that long she also loses her right to a regular green card and the right to remain in the US.
In response to such cases as this there are provisions in the law where if she can claim either mental or physical abuse and be convincing enough, she can get a divorce. As in this case she will not be forced to leave the US in that situation. Making it very advantageous for her make such charges if she does not want to remain married (to you anyway) and does not want to lose the opportunity to stay in the US.
I've seen written accounts of such cases occuring all to frequestly in recent years. And stories such as this one lend credibility to any claim like that whatsoever.
"...Pain is a physical sensation too exquisite to be wasted in a bout of anger..." Marquis De Sade.
Er...ahem....is it time to resucitate the good old Prenup topic again? I tell you, it works both ways..:)
There you have another PERFECT prenup intro moment for you to present the subject to your lady.
"Dear does the fear domestic violence worry you? You need to know there are many laws and women organizations in every state that have been specifically created to protect victims of domestic abuse...usually women and children.
BUT on the other hand, there is absolutely nothing available to protect men and husbands from wives who make false accusations against him. And that happens just as often.
Many women marry american men for this sole purpose and only a premarital written agreement can protect him financially from this type of 'reverse abuse'...do you know how that works?"
And you can take it from there...
Good timing, Jet.
Just a few days ago, Lena asked me if any of my past relationships ended because of physical abuse.
She explained that her best girlfriend married a greek man recently who constantly yells and beats her and that she is very afraid for her safety.
(And you know how those greeks get when they marry women and no longer have much time to spend with their sheep ..:)
She was hoping I was not the author or even a fan of the russian expression: "If he beats, he must love"...
What a crock of shit!!
What falsely entitled sadistic asshole wrote that one?
I know I know..."it's a cultural thing"
Thank you TD,
She is one very unique bird...even among russians.
Not even 27 yet, till next month.
Speaks Russian, English, Spanish, Chinese, French and Italian.
And has traveled to just as many countries as I have or more at 49.
I don't think she was aware of some of the details I was paying attention to when I asked her to decide, choose, handle or research various things about this first big but short trip of mine. After all, this is the first opportunity we have to do something "together".
It's easy to see she is one heck of a 'team player' who takes on responsibility without letting it overwhelm her.
I'm too damn pragmatic to make predictions, but everything looks great. I'm happy I'm doing this and will make the best of it.
anyone that raises a hand to a woman needs there you know what cut off. If I was that pissed at my woman I would go next door and punch my neighbor in the mouth before I hit my woman, lol
Uh... remind me not to move next door to you anytime soon crash. Or... I'll learn to keep a catcher's mask handy and wear it when I hear you coming. :)
Yeah, sure...but at least I'd be getting laid. He wouldn't, lol...
And the constant state or anger would eventually give him a stroke, he'd be declared incompetent. Then his wife (under my guidance) would intentionally mismanage all his assets.
The house would be sold (to me) for peanuts. The children would not even graduate from High School and eventually turn to drugs, crime and prostitution.
Nahhh....better off punching a pillow or a telephone pole in the corner street. You know, the type that has all those nails and staples left on it from years of 'garage sale' or 'lost kitty' or 'found dog' signs posted on them.
Now, mate...I take that as a compliment, lol.
There is a very compelling reason why I work as an independent instead of joining brokerage houses like the ones you see advertised on TV or making the news on CNN decribing the latest fraud scandals...makes me sick!
Really?
Jeez I'm glad, my dearest pet yet, thanks a million!!!!!!
Nature never seizes to amaze me - imagine I never even knew he could swim, and now he must have set the endurance record! But animals all swim they say, so maybe there's some truth to this rumour.
Then again, you found him on a telephone pole - so now you're telling me he can climb as well huh?
Sorry Toad, can't be my dog, pity, damn.
I'm sure, I know, he's got a cellphone ;-)
okokokokokok....enough, lol!!
let's get back to the subject please..
er....what the hell was the subjct, anyway?
(Something about beating up women and children, I think...)
I seen something on Tv about women who aree violent and its realy very common. I know a guy who was smaller than his partner and she used to beat the life out of him (she was almost a guy I will admit). The point is all people have a breaking point and sometime these women who do want to go this raod will start violence to get some, therefore giving some truth to there story. In every one of her lies is a small amount of thruth.