ok Crash,Toad and a handfull of you other guys out there that have found success with your new Fiance's I want to go out on a limb here and ask a question. I hope it's ok Well since you found your honies I was wondering if you could ask them if they had any friends ;) you know that are intrested in western guys and could give some GOOD refferalls of thier Russian girl friends. You know don't forget us Lonely guys back here in the states :)
damn risky Sandman, really thin ice this....
They'll hook you up with their exes or dud and/or redundant girlfriends, and some of the guys here have proven to despise them. But hey, you're welcome, you rather than me tough.. ;-)
If the ladies have friends that are interested and we know the ladies, we can make a reasonable assumption that the friends will be acceptable, but how do we vouch for you to the friends?
Sandman
I will mention it but I already have made a promise to a guy I work with that I will do that for him. He has first dibs.
I am hoping that you have already opened a VIP account with Fiance.com and are writing. If you rely on us this is going to take a long time. Just write to about 20 ladies and see what develops. I suggest using the same area for example Odessa was always my favorite. The reason I chose Odessa was because the people there are famous for having an over developed sense of humor. Any one in the entire FSU will tell you this. They like a laugh and as you might have already noticed so do I. It is the Ukrainian version of Liverpool. Liverpudlians are all amateur comedians. Jump in man the water is fine.
I can understand your desire to jump in this water. I have and will continue to work very hard to earn Lena trust as she will mine. So if I ask her to fix you up I will not be able to tell anything about you because we have never met. Sorry, but it would be a little dishonest for me to make this request. I suggest you do what we have done and just send out your letters and get to know someone.
Also, I limited my initial letters to just women who had private emails so the emails would be more frequent. Lena and I wrote everyday. Frequent emails mean you will be better able to spot the scammer because they will more easily communicate their dishonesty. Some people will say only write to women who get their emails at the agency, but I just don't agree with that strategy. Good luck to you and thanks for trying!
Thanks Guys for the info and insight ...once again it's why I love this forum....ok Believe it or not I had one write to me that read my stats w/o even my picture up. How do I run her name through to make sure she's not a known scammer. Besides the fact she will never ask for money. Is there a website I can input her name and see if she has any problems. Also I found a website here in the U.S.that has posted over a dozen Russian womens names, PICTURES, and profiles that are known scammers that I see thier pics on here. Other than that site is there more background checks Ic an do?
I wouldn't bother. Just start writing to her and see what happens. It will be come apparent soon enough. Wrote to several and narrow it down. It really isn't hard.
I was going to send you one of my templates to work from but I changed my mind. It is something personal that everyone has to work out by themselves. Try to play up the positives and downplay the negatives. Have some nice pictures taken and post them. How would you like to try and pick when there aren't any photos. Difficult. Make it clear that you want a family, do not drink like a fish and have a regular job. You will see it is easy.
Sandman kind of like you I was unknowing to the scam thing I got an E Mail from 3 women in Russia on my personal , I thought it was strange and never gave it a thought of meeting any woman from Russia but I still talked to them and after some time I knew something was up . So I started to look on the net for infor and found some sites BlackList just put some time in on it . I did find one of them on a site and started to read all I could . But there is one I still talk to every day from E Mail and I know she is true .Like they say you will just know in time but dont send money no matter what . Oh and yes I am going to meet her this July . after six months of E mail
An effective way to shed the 'scam magnet' label is to include a small but crystal clear paragraph in your profile to the effect that you do not respect, appreciate or have any interest in women who want to create financial dependency during courtship stages of the relationship.
In one of my profiles I said "I want a good woman to be my wife in California, notto be my mistress in another country"
If you like it sharp and to the point like I do, something like that should work for you.
One of the most wonderful things about Russian women is the way that they respond to competition - I mean from other women. And you, of course, benefit.
My lady, for instance, will not allow me to sit next to another woman on the bus, will not allow me to talk to another woman. Gets INCREDIBLY jealous if another woman even looks at me nicely - and she is first rate MODEL quality herself.
I refered earlier to a twenty year old I met in Latvia. When I announced to her that I was going to see my Moldovan and that we would evenually marry - I got these incredible pictures of her in my email. One last attempt on her part. She asked me to visit her for a couple of weeks this summer. I told her that my (most likely) wife might oblect to me taking off two weeks to spend with a beautiful Latvian.
But I would not try and fix anyone here up with a friend of my lady's or a cast-off (like my Latvian). As was mentioned earlier - how can I vouch for anyone here I have not met? And each must find the right chemistry on his own.
Jet
If you want me to check out the pictures to make sure they are suitable I don't mind helping you. I will not charge this time but any further usage of my ogling abilities will need to be recompensed.
If anybody shows this post to Marina I will kill them with extreme prejudice. What a man does in the privacy of his own computer is personal.
Izi - photo examiner at large
Kind of tied up right now - with one arm in a sling following shoulder surgery - but I will send you pictures of the women I refered to above - only for (of course) your professional opinion. Only to judge the relative qulaity of the photos (the lighting, the composition, etc.).
Jet
Get better that shoulder thing is horrible I know someone who had it. The good news is that once it heals you should never have that problem again.
I'll do what I can with the pictures. The tip about the Mexican is worth that alone. :))
Ok Jet I checked out the pictures for you. Now I am back in my chair although my butt hurts. Your girlfriend is a 20. The other girl a 19.
Now I want to give you a little advice. When she finally comes over wait until you settle then you should go shopping. Make a beeline for The Sports Authority. Once inside go straight to the baseball section and make a selection among the bats. Choose one that feels right but is going to allow for maximum impact. Also you are probably going to need one of those gunrack things in the car to put it in.
The only other way around this is the old sack method. However I can't see her going for it.