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	Create New Topic   My Posts   My forum buddies   Invite friends   Private messages Russian brides > Main Forum > Success or not?? Author Post N()R Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 3/30/2005 8:12:42 PM   I was actually starting on a respond to Buran_Fan's thread "What did I do wrong" and my post just seemed to go in all directions and kept growing into something else... Many men aren't successful in meeting or dating because they aren't willing to take a risk - the risk to say "hello", the risk to say "yes", the risk to ask for a phone number, the risk to set-up a date, the risk to ask for what you want, the risk of putting your ass in an airplane etc. They want everything in a nice risk-free, safe container. I'm going to give you some reasons why you should become a risk taker in a moment. What does risk mean to you? Ultimately it means to put yourself out there and open up to opportunities. The Chinese use the same symbols to mean "crisis" and opportunity. These literally translate to "Crisis is an opportunity riding the dangerous wind". If you're not taking advantage of opportunity, you're actually using your actions to fail. When I talk about risk, I'm not suggesting that your hurl yourself off a building at the end of a rubber band. I'm talking about "measured risk" - that risk that will bring you greater value than you can lose. Dating FSU women is really all about this. It's really about the opportunity to get something you want that you don't already have while managing your risk. If not now, when? If you don't do something today to change the way things are, tomorrow is going to be the same. So will next week, next month, and next year. Of course, if you're happy about the way things are, then do nothing (why are you here anyway?). On the other hand, what are you waiting for? Get going! Sure, you're special bunky! But, you're not so special that you can avoid success. It isn't possible to fail all the time. The only way to do fail is to give up, or to never get started trying. So, you've got to get moving and active. Do something - even a small thing. Then, do something else. Once you get started, these actions become habit and you'll find that you're doing something to improve your life all the time. We all have different approaches, me for instance write some few letters, I talk in messenger, msn, aol or whatever software they can use (I have them all just in case), then I get my airline tickets and meet the woman. TOAD did it quite different, but also that a success so far, he wrote several women, and dumped them one by one without hesitating a second if there were signs of qualities not matching his already decided measurements. Both approaches works, but we are different individuals, and have different ways to act and to live our lives. She doesn't want to be by herselves the rest of her life any more than you do. So, you already have that leg-up - and something in common! You're no safer trying to avoid risk than by seeking it! Studies show that danger is all around us. Who would have thought that just sitting in your office in a skyscraper, you'd be at risk of losing your life? The victims of America's recent terrorist attack understand this only too well. So, what do you really risk by seeking not risk? The possibility of not having what you really wanted from your life. The knowledge that you settled. The pain of watching others get what they want while you don't. Sure, it's "safe" to simply wait, but then you have to take what you get - if anything. If you set out to make things the way you want, you may fail, but if you're goals are big enough, you're going to succeed along the way! For example, if you set your sights on hitting the roof, you may only get the side of the building. If you set your sights on the stars, you may only get the moon! On the other hand, the stars could be yours too! Not a bad trade off - a little risk for a lot of gain. Life's short, You have a limited number of days here. Further, you don't know how big (or small) that number is. Of course, we all hope it is a very, very large number. But, you can't really plan for that effectively, and like the poet said, "tomorrow never comes", all you have is today. Get going! Put failure into perspective. What does failure mean? Does it mean embarrassment or does it mean the loss of an eye or a limb. The risk I'm talking about is absolutely minor. In the first place you can risk not to get your mail answered, or maybe you will be rejected, but, what are the possible benefits? You might make a new friend, get that mail answered or meet the princess you've been looking for. Do you know that your doctor didn't really know how to treat illness when he or she left school? They spent all those years studying ABOUT diseases, symptoms and cures. They didn't spent much time at all learning HOW to cure. That's where you come in. Every patient is a new experiment. As well, every new person you meet is a new experiment. Thus, gather up information, knowledge and experience; keep track of what works and what doesn't work - but GET TO WORK! Nobody likes to hear "no". Some people go out of their way to avoid "no's", but not wise people. Many salespeople actually make it their goal to get a certain number of "no's" everyday. Why would the focus on this? Because, if you're going after a number of "no's", you can't help but get "yes's" along the way. And NEVER call them "mail order brides". Those words tend to leave a nasty taste in your mouth, don't they? Don't let fear rule your world - make it your ally. What do you have to lose? Being alone on Saturday night??? GLTALLTOAD Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 3/30/2005 8:32:17 PM   Doing the same thing day after day and expecting different results has always been my favorite definition of INSANITY..:)) toad N()R Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 4/1/2005 5:58:40 PM   Yes, but why is it so hard for some people to realize just that? GLTALLTOAD Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 4/1/2005 7:28:24 PM   because they're all fucking insane, lol...that's why!! IceChaos Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 4/2/2005 10:22:15 AM   We are all insane. We try and hang onto a bit of happiness only to have it slip away or we end up killing it. We try hanging onto the present but it too slips away. We know that the end is coming but we do our best to ignore that reality. Ice Sandman Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 4/2/2005 11:05:40 AM   My small step was getting my birth certificate and passport it should be here in 2 weeks. Now I am saving my trip money and my vacation time to go see her. I am not worried or scared I figure if she doesn't like me I will at least see Russia. ( not quite the roof but the side of the building but it's more than I've ever seen) then again she just might like me who knows? I'm rather attached to myself so maybe she will to :P I have 67 hours of comp time saved I need at least 80 hours for 2 weeks vacation. I get 8 hours a month. I need to save up 4 prefer 5 grand but 4 will do. I can save a grand a month. That's my plan.Simple as it is :) N()R Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 4/2/2005 11:49:23 AM   Sandman, I am proud of you, honestly, I am! I think it is so nice that you are doing something about your own situation, like we all have to do if we want something new to happen. It is important to make a move, and do an effort to change the things in your life you are not happy with, in our case, our lovelife. I agree with you, I also go there with an open mind, is there not love, at least you had a week, or weekend different from what you are used to, and you will have a lot of new impulses to tell your friends both at home, and here in the Forum. Back-up plan or not, just have a good time, and make the best out of any situation. I used to have a back-up plan the first time I went over, but not anymore. As some of you already noticed I am lucky to live closer to the goodies than some of the other guys in here, that makes it cheaper, and easier to go there for weekends. The result is that I no longer see the need of a back-up plan, I go for only a weekend the first time, and if it does not work out, well, then it is just a couple of days, and I am back at home. Your Reply: Your name:   New Registration Password:   Forgot password?   refresh Code:   Russian brides > Main Forum > Success or not??
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