I do not know what to do. This Sanday was a nice day - I have met a guy but I am afraid that it all will be the same - a lot of pain and that is all. I can not foget the American man that I met a year ago and he damped me out in 4 months. He made me so big pain that now I am afraid of people a lot. And at the same time we come to sex too soon and it was amaizing. The different was attitude to each other - I said that I love him, he said that he wanted sex and you are only a foringer.
Bagira- I would go through the pain caused by the American man over and over again just to have another chance of love . The real pain would be to go through life without someone else who loves you. Forget about the American man you once loved and start over and find your happiness. I was heartbroken a few times before but went on and now I am in love again and there is nothing greater. I don't ever think about the past disappointments. All I know is that I am happy now!
I am sorry that guy turned out to be a loser. Fact of the matter is that if that was his attitude I'm sure most of what he told you was lies. Hopefully you know all American men do not have this guy's motives. It is a risk on both sides. We have the scammers and you have the idiots. It would be sad if this loser would taint your opinion of foreign men. Please keep at it.
Bagira- That may be the truth (you still love him) but it will end up making you a very lonely woman for the rest of your life. Until you decide to let the memory of him go, no other man will measure up to him which is sad because if he really loved you himself, you would be together now. He NEVER loved you like you loved him.
You will find someone else. Don't allow this one bad experience make you lose your confidence. Find someone else and let this experience be a lesson not a tragedy. Despite all the kidding and disagreements everybody on this forum cares about you and doesn't want to see you hurt. It is hard to believe that this man was so cruel that he said you are just a foreigner. That is soooo bad. It is rude and gives a very bad impression of Americans. Don't give up Bagira you will find someone nice. I have had some hard times with Marina but everything is ok now. You have to keep trying.
It's my turn now, Bagira....ready?
Brace yourself..here we go...:))
Accept the pain the american man caused you last year once and for all.
It will be with you for the rest of your life whether you like it or not.
But as time goes by, this pain will take less and less space in your heart.
Proof of it is what happened this last Sunday to you...You allowed yourself to be liked by another man. You made a giant step towards the happiness you want and deserve.
This happiness we all want comes with a price tag attached to it.
We must all pay for it. No exceptions.
What you did last year was very brave, very honest and very foolish.
Once you gave your heart soul and body to that american man, he had no motive to make even the slightest effort to earn your love, loyalty and sexual company.
You can do much better this time around if you are willing to use a little more caution with the man from Sunday...or any other man from any other day you will meet in the future.
I am not responsible for your feelings, but I do honestly hope your past experience makes you wiser for any future options.
I'm even willing to send you a book that talk about these things, if you want. E-mail me if you're interested.
Just don't give too much to soon to anyone again.
Let them earn it.
As they say it is worse "to be afraid and not to love, then to love and be hurt"...Bagira, don't give up! Maybe this is your chance to be happy??? How would you know if you won't try it??? They also say that "any experience is a good one"...so just keep your nose up and don't let the pain make you suffer till the end of your life!!
Bagira,you desire, you persist,and you will prevail.As in any serious relation,we will let up our guard and open our hearts-again and again and again.This always means being vulnerable to abuse. Keep this love you have for the American man. Let it shine like a light. The love and grace you wear in your persona will be the strongest attractant. If everything in life happens for a reason,I hope that what you have experienced and learned will make you stronger in your convictions,and firm up your resolve to find "the" Mr.Right.
all over the world there are those that use and abuse,and have no thoughts for the feelings of others,while that fact does not make you feel any better,take heart from the fact that they are in the minority.
Keep searching for your "Mr Right"........you will find him.
Did I tell you guys about last Sunday? I met this broad, shagged myself silly, still am recuperating in fact, but boy was that chick going for broke I say. Picked her up, used her, abused her, and next weekend I'll be on the hunt for another easy one, I'll try another town I think.
What's this thread about hmm? ;-)
See I told you. There may be disagreements about things here but folks wish you nothing but good. Everyone is right you must keep trying and just be more careful and yet still be open. It is difficult. I have been there. Make them earn your love you are worth it. People are here from all around the world in this forum and they all wish you well. That must mean something.
I will just tell you this my dear. I would go through all the broken hearts, the financial heart aches all over again to find the lady I have found in Ukraine. We all have to pay our dues, sometimes we pay them twice. Larissa made me forget all the pain in my past. That's why I refer to her as my Magic Angel. Nothing in my past life has compared to the love and affection and friendship this little lady has given me in the past year. Hang in there my dear, it is better to love and lost than to never have loved at all.