Geri,
Yes I think they do expect 'all-consuming' love. Yes they do want romance, they don't actually get that much from Russian men from what I can make out. I also want that. Is it wrong?
"when most of the available men are wage-slaves with a mortgage and a car loan?"
This statement is very true. Most of us are wage slaves. I always think in terms of 'what if'. i.e. if the disaster takes place of me losing my job what is my plan. I do indeed have a plan and I have explained this to my lady and she agrees with me. It is a scenario that has to be addressed. I realise that there are some in the forum that are doing well and are removed from these worries but I think I speak for a great many readers when I voice worries about affording all this. I have calculated out my situation very carefully with Marina and she understands. Each trip is budgeted. The future incorporates the fact that she will be earning. She also wants this and is anxious to start a new career here.
Why??
Because of the 'all consuming love' you speak of. She has told me that the important thing is to be with me, wherever I am. The 2 of us forming a family with her daughter and possibly another child.
I think that love does not get mentioned enough in this forum. We talk of practicalities, legalities and sex but rarely mention love. For me that is what this is ultimately all about. LOVE. Not going to FSU to get laid or obtaining a lady who puts an American woman in the shade. It is about the love part.
Something has happened in America with women that has somehow killed the emotional part of their personas. They are so busy being liberated that they have forgotten how to be soft and weak and feminine.
I have found women in FSU who are tough, yes, but also feminine and beautiful and willing to love somebody. To take a risk of going to another country to pursue love and romance. I do the same thing.
Geri your post has a certain cynicism about it that I don't understand. You seem to imply that this attitude is childish or naive. Maybe it is but all I know is that when Marina calls me her sun it makes me feel pretty good. I cannot exactly be a knight in shining armour but I wish I could be.
Nas
I am all ears, I really am. I want to hear every suggestion and idea you have. I am fresh out. 21 years of America and everything I have ever thought of has gone phut for one reason or another. I would truly enjoy getting some feedback.
First settle your romantic life, then you will notice ambition to rise in yourself. Email me anytime. First thing is never listen to nay sayers. If that was the case I would never try anything. I also use a simple motivation for people who have a fear of failing. Baseball players get paid millions of dollars to fail 7 out of ten times the go to bat. Failure is nothing more than an education, and fear of failure is an obstruction. First find something you really like to do and pursue it with all you got. Yes you will fail, I will guarantee that, but when you start feeling success and enjoy what you are doing then that's part of the battle. Don't try something to get rich, try it because you want to, and really want to do it, the money will take care of itself. When I got into real estate, I bought Carlton Sheets course, many of my friends said it was bullshit you can't buy any home with no money down. Henry Ford said if you believe you can, you can, if you believe you can't you can't. At the time of my divorce I owned over 32 single family homes with no money down. I learned over the time how to be smart. No I didn't get big checks in the beginning. Actually my biggest check at any closing was $14,586. But one year I made more money in the real estate than I did at my day job. Yeah I spent some time doing it, but It provided my daughter with an excellent education, the ex bimbo with the lifestyle she wanted and me, with the exhiliaration of the win! The last 12 houses I bought my average checks at closing where $6766.00 I may pursue that again. But I am going to wait for Larissa to get here then we focus on her adjusting, Like I said I have a small vending business. They key, believe in yourself and patience, crawl before you walk, and never get discouraged and stay focused on what you are trying to achieve. Remember the goal is financial freedom and flexibility. To be able to call your own shots and not be a wage slave. Don't quit your day job, but isn't easier to go to work and think, damn if the shit hits the fan here at work, I'm going to be alright!!!
I don't know about Russian women, but My Ukrainian Angel is the most romantic and passionate woman I have ever had the pleasure to spend time with!!!Her passion is in so many ways,life,love and happiness. I've have learned so much from her, that the moments away from her are terrible, but I know soon she will be here and she is the greatest motivation in my life. Also she is the love I have never felt
before with anyone. It is almost surreal at times.