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	Create New Topic   My Posts   My forum buddies   Invite friends   Private messages Russian brides > Main Forum > And now for a little fun from the other side of the fence :) Author Post izifaddag Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 7/31/2005 3:20:51 PM   Besides running a membership on Fiance I am also a member of East West Match and Friend Finders. I have a pretty specific profile running on all of them. Generally I have a good response but now and agan something interesting pops up. Today I received this in response to my profile. It is from a 54 year old lady called Sandy that is widowed and lives in Greece. She is America. "Please don't worry I am not looking for any match with you...just some "motherly" advice from an OLD woman here...your list of requirements are so demanding and unyielding that I hope you will find your true love. I think you may scare away some really nice women in the age bracket you seek who are decent and sincere. If you don't lower your standards a little bit you might find yourself very lonely in the end. Okay enough of my opinion...just had to throw my two cents in. Good luck and be careful but be human, too. Sandy" izifaddag Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 7/31/2005 3:23:29 PM   Now I am going to give my profile from FF. Then you will see where this lady is coming from. The description of myself:- "I am a easy going guy. I am a steady worker and generally stable. Not rich but not broke. Just trying to enjoy life without hurting anyone or being hurt. I sure would like to find that special lady though. I know she is there somewhere and I am determined to find her. How could I describe myself fully here? Obviously I cannot but I will take a small stab at it :)) I am 50 years old and have had a somewhat adventurous life. I will just say that I have traveled a lot and am an Englishman who is a naturalized American citizen. Yes I am European, I guess I always will be. My accent is as strong as it was the day I landed in Newark in 1984 and I don't think it will change now. I love art, history, nature and traveling. I am articulate and educated, able to speak on many things. My interests are truly eclectic and I am as happy to debate politics (either, American, European, FSU or Latin American) as I am to discuss movies or even the weather. I am for the most part a jeans kind of guy but know how to wear my Pierre Cardin suit and good cologne also. I try my best to be fair with everyone and am almost always willing to give a second chance. Not so keen to give 3rd chances though. I am definitely a man and do not believe in feminism at all. That does not mean I don't believe in equality, I absolutely do. It is just that men and women are different and I prefer women that want to be feminine not closet men. I like holding that door open and love pulling back a woman's chair in a restaurant. That is what nature intended. I think that is enough about me. I will be more than happy to answer any questions you might have." izifaddag Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 7/31/2005 3:26:12 PM   This is in the "what I am looking for" space:- "Ideal Person: I am looking for someone who wants to love and be loved. Who wants to be a woman and is proud of that fact. Update :- I have received many responses to my profile and I thank all of those wonderful women. However, I feel it is only fair to say a little bit more about what I am looking for. Firstly regarding age. I am really looking for someone between 34/5 and maybe 42 years old. If you are 50 and wink/email to me I apologize but I am not for you. I also prefer ladies that are slim. I know that is so superficial but I am just not attracted to overweight ladies again I apologize. I would strongly suggest that if you are overweight and you put 'average' on your profile you change it. Sooner or later it will come out and you owe it to yourself to be honest. It will avoid disappointment for everyone. I am looking to get remarried. I like being married. This time I want a family. I think it is possible, it is not too late. However at 50 years old I am too old for a baby. So all of you Russian, Thai, Ukrainian, Chinese and Rumanian ladies that are looking for an American to marry and have a natural family with you have the wrong guy. I know it is customary in your country but it isn't for me. I seek a lady who already is a mom or is willing to adopt. I don't wish to be the father of a 15 year old child when I am 70. I hope that makes sense. Ladies I am not looking for a companion, I had that for 12 years with my previous wife. I want a family. That means one woman, one man and one child. I understand that for the most part this is not going to be possible with an American woman. American ladies are wonderful but generally don't want a guy my age and certainly don't want to adopt a little one. By the time you are interested in a guy my age you are done with raising children and want peace in your lives and to probably enjoy your grandchildren. Therefore I look abroad. I am open to finding the woman to spend my life with anywhere. I have been to Russia to look for love and would happily go again. I speak quite good Spanish and would have no problem going to Latin America to find her. I am extremely comfortable in Latin American culture as I have lived there, was married to a Cuban and have lived in South Florida for 21 years. So 'hola' to the Spanish ladies, and 'privet' to the Russian/Ukrainian ladies. In both cases language is not a problem. So now I have upset everyone I think. You think I ask too much? Is there a possibility of a second chance in life? I don't know but I am willing to try. Just one last footnote that doesn't apply to American ladies. For all those Russian/Ukrainian/Moldavia/Rumanian ladies that are 21 years old with the 'beautiful bodies' please don't bother writing because I will never send a single dollar. Likewise anybody that is after a greencard, it isn't going to happen. If you think you will fool me you would be very much mistaken. I am only interested in genuine ladies and I can weed out a scammer in about 2 emails. Very, very last word. If you don't have a picture attached to your profile please don't write or wink. You can see me do me the courtesy of allowing me to see you." izifaddag Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 7/31/2005 3:27:37 PM   It keeps getting better doesn't it? :)) Ok here is my reply to her :)) Toad where are you for Gods sake :)) "Dear Sandy Firstly I thank you for your input. However it hasn't been a problem so far What is it so 'demanding'? I am looking for someone to share my life with. This is serious stuff. Nothing to be taking lightly. I search the whole world. I am going to Kherson in September and went to Russia in March. I spend a lot of money and time on this and you find it strange that I am so specific? I am curious to find out what your alternative would be. Accept a 2nd best compromise? No, I don't think so. I was married for 12 years for that exact reason - that is not good enough. My desired woman falls between certain parameters. I see nothing wrong with that, it is just that the woman usually does the parameter setting doesn't she It is unusual when a man says that this or that is unacceptable. Do not think for one minute that a man does not have desires and hopes? He too has an ideal, unfortunately most men are trapped by circumstances early on. I escaped and have the means to choose. I know what I am offering and I feel the boot is on the other foot for a change. Believe me I have absolutely no problem attracting ladies and I think maybe I have upset you a little by daring to mention age. We are only supposed to look inside right? Character is everything, correct? This is total nonsense. I want to find a woman attractive and desirable as well as intelligent and feminine. I happen to like younger women. Not older ladies. However I want to tell you that I had a relationship with a woman 10 years older than me before I was married. At the moment I talk to a lady in Norway who is 49. Another in Ukraine that is 40. Yet another in Ukraine that is 35 and another in the USA that is 39. I am not strict about this age aspect it is relative to the individual. I have good reason for considering age. Have you seen what most American women look like at 35? Even worse English women? I have a large experience with both and Latin ladies too. I was married to a Cuban. I think my profile is very respectful. Do you know how many women (American only) list themselves as having an 'average' body type? Go look on Yahoo personals and dig into FF's. I think you will not like what you see. Average does not mean fat it means average. Unfortunately many ladies are not quite looking at themselves very realistically. I really am average. 5' 11" and 212 pounds. height weight proportioned. That is average. Not a muscle man, athletic or skinny just average. All I ask for is truth. I also suggest looking on a site called Fiance.com or East West Match and seeing what the possibilities are out there for a man who is willing to make an effort and not settle for a compromise. Sandy please do not think I am angry I am not. I am very grateful for your opinion. You are very brave to have spoken your mind and I respect you for this. If you wish to talk to me further I am completely open and enjoy intelligent debate. There is so much more that I could tell you as to my reasons for doing what I am doing. Also I am not alone. I am in contact with a huge number of similarly minded men from England to South Africa. I know so many success stories I would not know where to begin telling you. A few disasters also Including one of my own. I wish you well and all the very best of luck in your search for love. Steve" izifaddag Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 7/31/2005 3:39:36 PM   I think this thread will be worth watching and I wonder if she will find this forum and dig in enough to find this thread. Hopefully she will see some of the logic that we men put forward. If you do Sandy welcome - now please state your opinions for the whole world to see and stand by for some lively responses :)) And for God's sake keep quiet Geri you'll spoil everything. Izi was here izifaddag Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 7/31/2005 3:41:19 PM   Oh one last thing As Toad once told me "Spandex is not a right it is a privilege". I thought I'd throw up laughing when he said that to me :))) gladiatorUK Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 7/31/2005 3:47:39 PM   (jaw dropped open), WAY TO GO IZ.............:)) gladiatorUK Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 7/31/2005 3:48:29 PM   with apologies to "An Officer and a Gentleman".......:))) izifaddag Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 7/31/2005 3:49:45 PM   And the response just in (you are going to love this) :- "I am sorry I sent you that email..you took it completely the wrong way and are so defensive. You haven't upset me at all..you are a total stranger and I just wanted to give you some advice since I wasn't sure that you were aware of how demanding, unfriendly, snooty and stringent you sounded..not exactly the type of person most people would be attracted to. Yes I know you think you are something special to attract many people as you have stated several times and perhaps you are. At the end of the day, you still have to take the risk of being a bit vulnerable to allow yourself to open up to the possibility of true love..not just a mail order specimen as in a laboratory. Never mind..you will probably get all defensive again and tell me how wonderful you are. grrrrrr Good luck...and chill out a bit. It's not the end of the world. Bye. Sandy" izifaddag Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 7/31/2005 3:50:30 PM   Anyone, anyone, anyone:))) gladiatorUK Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 7/31/2005 3:58:08 PM   don't you just hate it when that happens??????................LMFAO izifaddag Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 7/31/2005 4:10:31 PM   And the reply :))):- Sorry Sandy the only one being defensive here is you. I have dared to be honest and you try to turn this into the agressive, arrogant male thingy. It isn't. I am just telling the truth, that doesn't go down in some quarters. All I ask for is truth in return. If you were expecting me to roll over and retract you would be wrong. I like younger, sexy women. Sorry if that offends you. I sincerely apologize for being normal. I honestly am not angry and I have enjoyed both your letters. As for the defensive attitude I think you hold claim to that not I. I have been quite open and not hidden a single thing. Last thing. I really don't need any advice. Strange as it might seem I am doing quite well and things look great right now. I have great hopes for the charming 40 year old lady I go to visit in Kherson. Perhaps it will end in wedding bells. You never know. Bye Steve izifaddag Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 7/31/2005 4:11:41 PM   I am going to block her now before I do become pissed :))) izifaddag Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 7/31/2005 4:14:27 PM   If anyone is interested the only other woman I blocked is "ladyj47". And if you want to know why go to Friend Finders and do a search. Bang in her handle and see what comes up. Please try not to throw up. wmferg Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 7/31/2005 4:15:22 PM   As you said in the begining Steve...she is American, where it is normal for the female to specify form annual income to hair color and how much, but a male should just be happy with what comes his way... and be happy for it. Bill izifaddag Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 7/31/2005 4:17:02 PM   Thank you Bill. Well put my man izifaddag Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 7/31/2005 4:20:08 PM   In case anybody is interested go back to FF and look up "1sunluvr4u". This lady and I have been writing and she is very sweet. Oh by the way the lady, bitch, female whatever in qestion here is "Moonlight134" God this is fun :)) izifaddag Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 7/31/2005 4:23:58 PM   Carmen48 Another one I have been talking to and she is great believe me. Very funny lady :)) castawaysailor Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 7/31/2005 5:11:37 PM   I did FF, match.com anf AFF and gave them all up. Found my success on EM and Fiance.com. Izi, agree we have the right and duty to choose and be happy. The last American lady I dated is quite upset that I choose a russian babe over her; shit happens. izifaddag Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 7/31/2005 5:47:24 PM   yep done 'em all. Started with Yahoo Personals. That yielded a woman that wanted to a rich guy. An ugly pest that wouldn't go away and a ton of disapearing acts. Then AFF. That got me a flake who was a sideways gold-digger. Avoided Match.com thank God Now I fumbled into a 4 month subscription with FF. It wasn't supposed to go that way but it is too late now. The thing about FF is that it is worldwide not just USA. Unlike Yahoo which really sucks. My best results have been EWM and Fiance also. But every now and then something interesting happens on FF. Like this for example. Also the lady in Biose. She is CUTE !! Your Reply: Your name:   New Registration Password:   Forgot password?   refresh Code:   Russian brides > Main Forum > And now for a little fun from the other side of the fence :)
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