This is mostly for the moderator, but will aspirate all advice… I have been corresponding with a lady from Russia for almost a year. Lately I have been seeing indications that are disturbing in the direction that our relationship is moving. It seems like she doesn’t have much time for us. I e-mail her at least three times a week, but she will only reply once a week. I call her every weekend and we talk for at least an hour. I understand that she has a busy life and she has a lot of reasonability at work. I try to be understanding about this situation, but it has started to really concern me. Should I decision these issues with her or let nature take its course? Is this normal in this type of process? I am going for a visit to Russia in May, 2003; most advisors for this type of process are telling me to establish a back up plan in case something does not work out. Is this good advice and how do Russian women view it if you visit more than one lady during your trip? Thank you…
JW2002 -
Scmirbobol is absolutely right. I would not expect a girl to wait that long for me. If you really want this girl, you should get over there ASAP to show her you are serious about her. Let her know that she is the most important thing in the world to you. Let her know that you would do anything for her.
Please, guys wake up, If the love is real then time has no real bearing. However, you would know if it was and not asking for advice, if infact its not and chances are it isnt then use her as the example of what to expect. You should focus on meeting as many girls as possible , particularly the ones that you requested during your tour. From the tour and in person you should get a first hand feel for the girl or girls that are interested in you and vice versa.
JW2002, I've been corresponding with a girl for a half of a year, and she told me her parents were amazed "How? Do you still have topics to discuss?". And all the time her attention was mine only because she had a real goal, she was determined - I promised to come, set the dates (although always moved them a bit farther). In the end her emotional hunger became so large, that I was really afraid to think what would happen to her if I would say "no,I won't come dear". Love is impossible during correspondence. We live in a physical world, and love still have physical part in it
Guys, Love is like anything that has a life of it's own - no matter how tame or wild it is. If you want the relationship to go on it must be nurtured for it to grow. They say absence makes the heart grow fonder. Maybe it's true - if you had spent time with your woman. But if not, she only recognizes you by name and the emails or letters that you send - nothing more. It takes a whole lot of sacrifice to find true love and keep it going. Follow your heart wherever it takes you. And whatever the outcome is - at least you tried.