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	Create New Topic   My Posts   My forum buddies   Invite friends   Private messages Russian brides > Main Forum > New member seeks advice and knowledge Author Post James Blonde-003 Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 9/4/2005 6:41:25 PM   I am new to this site. I have been following the culture difference between Russian and Ukraine women compared to American women, much to my amazement. I have a few naive questions I'm sure but never the less!1 What is meant when a woman refers to a "nuclear family"? and 2 I notice that a lot of these women refer to being "tender", is this to mean tender at heart? Or what does it mean. I have read a lot of discussions from men on this site and find them quite amazing, very helpful actually. I would appreciate any input anyone might have about myself, 44, white male seeking a Russian bride. I am from USA. Thank You... nasfan6 Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 9/4/2005 7:19:06 PM   Welcome to the flying Circus James. There are a few Q's and M's here. As for the Nuclear family, I really only know of the Nuclear Family in the states, I haven't got a clue when a woman refers to it from Ukraine or Russia. As for tender that can mean a lot of things, the translation from Larissa is gentle. Which fits her perfectly. Later Mike nasfan6 Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 9/4/2005 7:24:40 PM   James Also go read Scam Alert and Agency Scams websites, full of information for you to digest. Later Mike N()R Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 9/4/2005 9:24:26 PM   Does she live close to the Tsjernobyl?? ;)) That would answer it, wouldn't you agree?? James Blonde-003 Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 9/4/2005 10:14:39 PM   Thanks Guys I appreciate the input. By the way nasfan6, does your name mean your a Mark Martin fan? James Blonde 003 ONEKINDMAN Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 9/4/2005 11:30:53 PM   Yes that Man Bleeds Mark Martin. I just wanted to Say welcome James. best of Luck your in good hands now. James Blonde-003 Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 9/5/2005 1:51:31 AM   ark Martin is a good man. I like him a lot. I bleed Earnhardt. Sr....Need I say more.. So naturally I cheer for Jr....This year is not much to cheer about. But I would like to see Mark Martin win the championship, that would be cool... ONEKINDMAN.. said I'm in good hands now. Since I don't have Allstate insurance...I have to believe that you guys really do look out for each other around here. Well, earlier nasfan6 told me to check out agency scams...so for the last 3 hours I have been on Jim's site. I know that I sound like a naive idiot but I just knew something wasn't right. A couple of months ago I received an email on the yahoo personals from someone in Russia. Now I had to believe that it was because I responded to a ad from someone listed in Tulsa, who said in the ad that she was Russian. I thought that's cool. She was very kind, never asked for money or any reason to be suspicious except for the fact that she was on yahoo saying that she was in Tulsa. Long story short, when I went to Jim's site, I scrolled through the pictures of all the scammers and there she was!!!! The name didn't match up to what Jim had listed, so I am going to email him all of the information that I have. I have also gotten about 3 more emails through yahoo from russians in the same manner as the first that I mentioned. Now guys, I'm not stupid. I may not be well educated, but I have been through too much in life to know when something is up. My problem is that I have a big heart. I will usually believe someone until they prove me wrong. I really appreciate people like Jim who go out of their way to help guys like us. And most of all, I appreciate you guys for helping me out and telling me about it. Years ago I was a Private Investigator myself so I can really relate to what Jim is doing. I hate to take up space, but I would like to say something about myself just so you veterans here will know more about me. My Father was killed in a car wreck when I was 4. I am an only child, and I was raised by a wonderful mother who overprotected me and died of cancer when I was 23. I went through serious depression for the next 8 years. I finally accomplished my life long dream which was playing rock n roll about the time that alternative came in and wiped it all out. I met my ex-wife in a strip bar, and the next thing I knew she was pregnant and I was given an ultimatum...She basically wanted to run off and have my kid. I did not apoligize for who I was or not having a real job. But I stood by my unborn child and promised to take care of the child while she danced and I played music. So we did. We were married after my first son was 1 yr old and we had my second son 16 months later. About 2 years after we were married, the same week of the Oklahoma City bombing she runs off with John. I take my kids and keep them. Now keep in mind, I have no money because I am the housewife. I have no car because I bought her a car because she drove my truck into the ground. On the morning of the bombing, I had an appt. to get my sons and I foodstamps. I was on my way downtown when the bomb went off. I was in a welfare office when 15 atf agents cleared the building saying there was another bomb threat. After realizing that she had put her own sons in harms way, my ex begged me to come home. Being raised by a single mother I did not want to take my sons away from her. So I forgave her and she came home. BIGGEST mistake of my life. I will spare you the rest of the story. But I later became a Hair stylist and in June of 2003 she talked me into quitting the salon I was in because I was having clientele problems anyway to stay home with our sons for summer break. OK by now she had quit dancing years ago and had a nice job in sales making more money than me as usual so it was a no brainer. BUT I knew something wasn't right. In oct. 2003 I was delivering pizzas trying to find another salon and came home to find everything of hers and my sons gone. I wore her out. She had met her now husband a year before she left. So I let her run. My oldest son said, DADDY I want to come live with you. Three months later she called and said come get your youngest son I can't handle him. 2 months later she agreed to go to my Native American Tribal Court and gave up all of her custodial rights to me and pay child support. I now have my sons, and I never spent one dime on a attorney. END OF STORY. Now I have said all of that to say this....I am a good man. I am a good father. I love my children. But I am just a little pissed off. Time can't be replaced. If I had kicked the dog to the curb the first time maybe I wouldn't be sitting here now looking for a decent beautiful woman to spend the rest of my days with. 12 years is a long time to be faithful to one woman just watch her run away with another man. Twice!!! So guys....If your still awake out there. When I say something I mean it. When I say that I appreciate your help here today, I mean it in a big way. All I am trying to do is gear up and make a big effort to find someone to make me happy. I still feel 30. I think it is because I just got shafted out of 12 years of life. I am not the only one nor will I be the last that it happens to. But it did happen to me. So now I look at life a little different. Does it mean that I will never trust another woman. Hell No Can I trust another woman. Hell YES. I just have to be careful in which one I trust. And maybe just maybe this time it will be the right one. Maybe one that will love my sons more than their own mother does. I can't even imagine in my worst nightmare, a mother that doesn't love their children enough to fight for them. Although I know they exist. It hurts to think what my sons have gone through. I just want to be happy, and I want my sons to see their father happy. Thank You guys for being a friend....If I haven't worn out my welcome and the bandwidth, I hope to be around for yo Annika77 Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 9/5/2005 8:30:07 AM   Yes James-Blonde...Russia/Ukraine is right place for you, wumen are so family orientated and wumen just dream to be stepmother of your kids and they dont care what work you do because they are so non-materialistic! You see guys : I decided to change, Im not bittered any more...Im optimistic now and you see only positive comments from me:):):) If I was former Annika I would advice : keep your bloody money for your kids education and dont whaste it to russian dating. ONEKINDMAN Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 9/5/2005 9:23:19 AM   :)) Annika Now I am enjoying your humor. IceChaos Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 9/5/2005 10:42:49 AM   James: I don't want to get into your business but I will say that this is not a cheap process. If you don’t make 50,000 or more a year this will be a hard roe for you to hoe. You have to be above the poverty level by certain percentage or you might as well forget. Most of the women you might meet on here don’t want to come into a situation worse then the one they now find themselves in. check out this site: http://visajourney.com/ Ice James Blonde-003 Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 9/5/2005 11:08:19 AM   First off" Is Annika77 a female? I am new around here ya know!! Because the comment about stepmother to my son's is important. It is not the sole reason why I am looking for a mate, but it does matter. I have done laundry, cooked and kept a house and mowed the yards etc. since I was 12. Had to, my mom had to work to make us a living. But I am not worried about that nor am I looking for a slave to keep my house and cook for my son's and I. But it does get old. But the comment made was a nice gestur and it something in the back of my head. Poverty level..Aaah yes. I have been there before. Ya know guys, that is the one thing I do love about who I am and what I am. I am an artist. And while ICE hit the nail on the head, I have no fear. I am still going through some trying times. But I am not bought and sold in the market place. I don't have to be someone I'm not to earn my check. I am an artist. NO matter how old I am, as long as my fingers still move, I can pack my scissors and go anywhere in this world and make my family a good living. That is why they call me Blonde...James Blonde...lol Thanks Guys..... Neonred Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 9/5/2005 11:27:32 AM   James What Ice is saying is that to even qualify to apply for a visa for your FSU sweetheart you have to have visited to her over there, AND you must show the government that you make enough to support her. These are absolute requirments dictated by US government. You may even have to make several trips over if you do not find the right girl the first time. I would guess most of the veteran guys on this forum have made more than one trip, and these trips are not cheap. Lot's of other expenses too. Many guys throw around a number of about $10,000. I've probably spent that already, and my girl is not here yet. James Blonde-003 Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 9/5/2005 11:36:43 AM   I hear what you guys are saying. This is serious business. I have put a lot of thought into it. I am rethinking how I think as I speak!!!! But I have a destiny to be happy in this life. What I see here in USA ain't makin me too happy at the moment. Yes there are fabulous women here with great morals. But their almost all taken. I want everyone on this board to know that I can take anything you have to shell out. Even if it is personal. Tell me. Tell me for my own good. I can take it. I am not normal in that way. I love criticism and hard love so to speak. I appreciate anything anyone has to say to me here.... Have a great Day!!!!!!!! James Blonde-003 Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 9/5/2005 11:38:52 AM   I think the age difference thing is going to be my biggest problem. I realize that 10-20 years from now, things change. IceChaos Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 9/5/2005 12:17:39 PM   James, the age thing is some thing that we all have thought about. It is not a simple nut to crack. The biggest concern that we all have had is that we go see the girl and boom...nothing. No connection. Trip total bust. Ice James Blonde-003 Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 9/5/2005 12:50:23 PM   I received 3 messages yesterday from ladies that I did not contact at all. One of them was from the WOW list. Is that a good thing or is it common when you are new to the site? nasfan6 Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 9/5/2005 3:59:45 PM   Please change your name to sarcasticAnnika77 or EstonianGolddigger77, now that's family orientation!! Well got to go and count my pennies for my next trip, hey Annika I just got promoted at my job to head French Fry Technician!! Later Mike davey Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 9/5/2005 4:29:55 PM   James the way I understand that nuclear family thing is that it refers to a family nucleus i.e. husband, wife and children as opposed to the extended family which may include the grannies etc too. It's not uncommon for them to live as an extended family due to cost issues, but perhaps also culture. Maybe some Russians can help us out here. James Blonde-003 Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 9/5/2005 11:57:44 PM   Thanks davey, That makes a lot of sense to me, I think you may be right. Sorry nasfan6 I don't get your point in your last post. James Blonde-003 Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 9/6/2005 12:06:39 AM   Annika77 I'm sorry I misjudged your gender by a comment made earlier I should have done my research first. Please forgive me. Your Reply: Your name:   New Registration Password:   Forgot password?   refresh Code:   Russian brides > Main Forum > New member seeks advice and knowledge
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