to explain all about yourself in a few short sentences.
So, when 'she' writes:
"...somebody who want to have a good and happy family ...."
she is stating the obvious (one would think).
Who would be reading it if he was interested in a bad and unhappy family?
But, perhaps, to be fair, the key-word is 'family'.
(and, to be fair, my own writing also tend to state the obvious!)
Geri
When she writes, "wants... happy family," it is not always obvious.
I have honestly read on one womans profile;
"Occupation... Scammer
Future........I will always be scamming people."
When we compare the "happy family" and the "scammer" the more perplexing question is. We know one is telling the truth but what about the other???
It's one of my own frustrations with FSU dating sites. Go on Match.com, and you find quite many profiles from Western women that give you a good idea about the sort of person you're dealing with. Saves everybody a lot of time. Here, for all the supposed intelligence and education of these women, it's very unimpressive. Other than the rare exception, it's all a bunch of generalities, and you waste time writing emails then to find out you have nothing in common.
I guess the main problem is language barrier. It's so much easier to write in general phrases like they teach you at school. So my suggestion is look for girls with a decent level of English.
What is a good and happy family from the point of view of a local girl...is a normal family, where the man is not an alcoholic, when he doesn't cheat on his wife, and a wife doesn't cheat on her husband, when parents don't fight, and where the children are not beaten...when the husband and a wife love to be together and are not bored...well something like that, I guess:)
Question is why laugh at profiles what is written by people who are not english speakers. Iv read lots of strange profiles of norwegians, finns and swedes in my time, so what ....I know they dont speak english every day. At the same time I know several brits who speak german and dutch and they dont think its not necessary! And they dont laugh about mistakes what are made by duch and germans.
OK, lets analyze : I want happy family. OK.As non english speaker I dont find nothing wrong in it and I actually speak quite normal english...whats correct then? Can I have english lesson?
I think people who moan about every sentence must forget idea of foreign bride and look for native english speaker.
What about western women, even every so called "western" woman isnt so fluent in english. Or who is western in your opinion : only americans and brits? Or german, italian, spanish too? Are their profiles in mach.com or what ever other dating site so perfect?
There's that wry wit we all love and expect to hear from Annika77.
I think Geri is questioning the content of the profiles rather than the presentation, although as others point out, the language barrier could hinder both.
Although, sometimes it seems that asking for "Someone who want's a happy family.." is not such an obvious respect, especially if you watch daytime talk shows on American television.
Daytime talk shows? Do you really think lots of people in Europe are interested of it? How one european woman can be specialist of american daytime shows :):):)
What about strange language, my native language is even stranger than danish but Im proud of it.I dont think some knowledge of foreign languages hurt anybody. Even brits and americans!
I repeat again : if you speak only one language yourself, if you are annoied of every wrong expression or word in profiles - forget foreign brides and look for girl in english speaking countries.
Anni
We are not "annoyed at every wrong expression," but almost every profile appears to be written by the same person with the same "happy family" expressions. Small mistakes and misunderstandings can be fun.
One woman I wrote to, replied. "Sorry I took so long to reply, I had a hard weekend."
I wrote back "Did you have a little too much vodka?" She spat the dummy.
Do you see the problem???
I had hard weekend...I dont see anything strange again
I havent that problem because my boyfriend is brit excpat who speak dutch and german, he finds that its normal I make mistakes.
Adamn try to write profile in foreign language you studied in college. Im sure native speaker find it funny.
We all look for happy family life and we all have sometimes hard weekends and we all havent time to write letters sometimes. And that vodka answer is bit smartass ..isnt it!
It isnt mistakes that we are talking about here. Most of the profiles are written by translators that do a good job.
Its a matter of content. Does anyone want an "unhappy family"? Of cause not.
If they all say the same thing, then theyre not really saying anything.
"smartass"??? I said the vodka thing, in the nicest possible way:) I think she took herself a little too seriously.
I tried to explain what a "happy family" is, to my point of view...I wish I was of any help:)))
Adman, your "Did you have a little too much vodka?" to my point of view was a little bit too rude to be a good joke...unfortunately alcohol is not a thing to be joking about it, some people abuse it and bring a lot of bad things to their families....
Ptichka
"Not a thing to be joking about." does show the cultural difference.
In my country alcohol isnt thought of as a social problem.
Theres a saying that goes, "God gave us alcohol to show us he loves us and wants us to be happy." This is very well excepted but doesnt mean we are off our trolley all the time. Honest it doesnt.
Think I nead a drink.
Adman, I understand that this is a different attitude...so I guess this is what this forum is for:) To show the differences, and to help people not to make mistakes and to find their happiness..at least I hope for that:)
I think what Im trying to say is...profile dont show nothing, all these things like what person wants ...or dont want can be find out in private conversation. Even "happy family" means different things for different people. Average translator might not know that happy family is something wrong to say.
What about hard weekends, for a woman generally it dont mean drinking vodka and in early stadium of relationship is smarter not to do such jokes.
A hard weekend...well if a woman works during the whole week and sometimes people work on Saturdays...then all the house work should be done on weekend, cleaning, washing, and so on and so forth...and this is a rather tiring thing to do after a work week.....
as the language in this forum and in fiance.com is english it will always be easier to deal with it for native english speaking people. there should be on the other hand a good portion of respects towards those people, who take part in this site, doesn´t matter as a woman looking for her soulmate or a person communicating here on this board, who have another native language.
doesn´t matter if a lady created the text for her profile herself or with the help of a translator - she should be respected for this. i would be curious to see, how it works when some western gents try to create their profile in russian language.
recently i got a new secretary in my company in moldova. being 24 years old she is fluent in russian, moldovan (rumanian), english and spanish. not to meantion her basic skills in turkish and ukrainian language. i admire her because of this.
better first to lock on yourself before critisizing others.
eastern ladies often have experiences with unhappy family situations. so they search for a happy family. so difficult to understand?
sure most of the gents here also had some problems with their own familiy issues in past.