As usual Geri another pointless question/statement. I know exactly why I am here the question is why on Earth are you here?
Whemn was your last visit?
How old is she?
Etc etc - my dear Eeyore/Sancho you really need to find a hobby.
Unfortunately - there are just a many games to be found in the FSU.
Oh, its true that a gorgeous woman - twenty years your junior - will talk to you in the FSU, will spend time with you, quite likely sleep with you and even marry you. And many of us are disqualified for one reason or another to get even those perks with "skirts" in our own country. But make no mistake about it - the women DO play games in the FSU. MANY MANY MANY MANY types of games that most of us (unfortunately again) did not get the rule card for and sadly - don't even realize we have lost when, indeed, we really did.
I've been over to the FSU four times in two years and have to admit that I have not been as big a loser as some I have seen - but I am still learning the rules.
Yes, Izi, why is Geratrix here? Really meaningless person in my opinion.
Jetmba...I warned you several times that you have strange ideas of so called FSU women, you seem to started to realize now that everything isnt gold what shines? Why you guys actually dont belive me, beacuse Im woman, beacuse Im from Baltics? Belive me if you live in border of 2 worlds east and west like I do : things are much clearer!
You seem very nice man and intelligent, but if you think such thing as "rules of FSU dating" or "rules of british dating" exist you are wrong.
What about age cap, again I discussed that several several times with my boyfriend, here isnt anything to do with sex and how somebody look like. Its more about other things, do your much younger partner understand that you might have these little helth problems like people have over in 45, or do you have so much energy, or do you have same ideas of life.
I have never denied that FSU women had faults and that shines is not gold. I have also never claimed that it was all about sex or how someone looked.
Perhaps we take what you say with some scepticism because you so adamantly against older men getting involved with younger women. It seems the very mention of the idea has you with claws bared.
It also seems that if your "British boyfriend" is not actually god - than he is only perhaps a step lower (certainly higher than any of the angels or archangels). His opinions are to be unquestionably revered. Few of us are, or hope to be, worshiped by our prospective mates as you seem to worship your British boyfriend.
I am happy that you have found what you are looking for. I am happy that you are happy. But I regret to inform you that your model relationship does not perfectly fit all of us.
Elena is 15 years younger than me with a 3 and a half year old. Maybe I am making a mistake but judging but the 9 days I spent with her and her modesty I am thinking I have a very genuine woman. I could be completely wrong maybe after some time with me she will not want me anymore but I think this has more to do with love than anything else.
So what do I mean by that?
It means security largely. I am not blind. She wants to secure her future for herself and her little boy. She wants to form a family before her looks fade and she runs out of bargaining chips.
Love is not the romantic melting that takes place in the beginning of a relationship. That is just a beginning phase that we pass through. If there is no physical attraction then it isn't even going to get to that stage. Sex is of course part of that also.
Then it settles down into the daily routine of a relationship. Not so much sex, relaxation about appearence etc. Getting the groceries and doing the laundry takes its place.
That is also love and the more realistic kind. That actually works believe it or not. It is the daily concern about your partners physical, emotional, psychological, spiritual and financial welfare that is the true love. She is before all things and in my case I had better be the center of her universe. And yes I tell that straight to their face. If I am not the be all and end all of your life I want to take this no further. I am not going to make this kind of commitment for a part timer. It is reciprocated.
So why an older man?
Because we older men have usually been married before. We know about what I have written above and these RU women seem to appreciate that fact. Many times it would seem that experience and a balanced realistic view of life over rides looking like Tom Cruise. The fact that the woman (in my case) is definitely trying to make a nest for herself and child is a positive not a negative.
I know this will take time. A deep life lasting love does not come in a visit or even 2 it takes years of interaction and shared history.
In the end it is a crap shoot. Whether you know her for 2 days, 2 months, or 2 years before you marry. So why not take the chance and try living. I am going to and if I lose then as Shakespeare said "It is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all".
I'll take the risk with a woman 15 years younger than me however that is my limit and I told her this. However I have seen this 30 year difference work so who am I to judge.
Now I am off to clean and move stuff around !!
Letīs see the U.s. sluts: i was together with a women from the Mid West for 5 years, know her since 9 years, the slut was in Europe visiting me with her doughter, I did wire her every months 3,000$ for the last 5 months, because she lost her job. The kid was horrible and did not want that we would do anything, forget marriage! After a week I did sent the American slut home. Now Iīm looking here.
I have been on this forum a year and in that time I have been involved with various women visited Russia once and Ukraine once. I have written about my experiences, asked for advice and given help to others.
All you have ever done is write rhetorical questions. You don't seem to actually go anywhere or have any real woman so why are you here??
We have people here who have been here 5 minutes and they are off. You however just seem to talk, so again why are you here??
Might I take a crack at writing a fantastic post telling exactly what is bullshit regarding Annika's posts?
Annika ALWAYS puts down men who date women who are younger. ALWAYS condems men who write of the trouble they have with FSU (especically younger) women. (Isn't that one of the reasons we are here? - To share the good information as well as the bad?)
Always tells us how Russian women and American women are not different and that Baltic women in general are up-down.
Tells me "You seem very nice man and intelligent, but if you think such thing as "rules of FSU dating" or "rules of british dating" exist you are wrong." But then goes on to say "Izi, with british man woman always feels herself like a lady."
In other posts has mentioned the stupidity of american men while British men seem to be godlike and HER man seems to god himself.
I appreciate that Annika is a woman and its good to hear the female point of view in a forum such as this. I also realize that we ALL carry a bag of preconceptions and prejudicisms with our opinions. But once you've spotted Annika's method of thinking ("younger woman - bad", "British man - good", "her man - GOD") its pretty easy to predict what she is going to say on any given subject.